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    i'm coming out!

    i've been raped. i've been beaten. my father abused, molested and tortured me for 11 years. he raped me, he tied me in a duffle bag and kept me in the closet for days, he wouldn't let me eat for a week at a time. he beat me and made me eat his feces. he spit in my face and chained me to the wall. he kept me tied in ropes under the bed.

    i'm coming out.

    i'm coming out of the closet. ATTENTION WORLD! i have been treated like almost every other woman in this culture. and enough is enough.

    i have been starving. i have been denied food for so long in that in my nearly delusional state i devoured a carcass by the side of the road, unable to comprehend anything but my overwhelming hunger and the fear of annihalation. do not even think of trying to tell me i eat too much. i will not succumb. i will not submit. i will not any longer bend to the will of men, and allow them to leave me emaciated, weak, unable to defend myself.

    i have been raped. and do not even think of trying to tell me that i am only seeking sex work so that i can further my abuse by reliving familar experiences. you people who say these things, you have never been degraded, battered and used. you have never been invaded, violated, then found within yourself the enormous strength to overcome, to reclaim your body, yourself, and yes, even your vagina, to own it and use it with pride. i know what rape is. i know what wrong is. and this darling? this isn't it.

    i'm coming out of the closet of womanhood. i have been spit upon, hated, degraded and used. i am a survivor, a sex worker, and i hope to soon be a stripper. and darlings, don't you know, that every time a man looks at me with awe, with yearning, i heal a little more, my eyes shine a little brighter, i hold my head a little higher. because sex isn't what's harmful, honey. sex is wonderful, a blessing, a gift. what he did to me wasn't sex. it was violence. and just let any man try to get violent with me in 6 inch stilettos! there's a reason they named those shoes after assasin's knives.

    you cannot own me any longer. i am my own person, and i have claimed ownership of myself. sisters, do not allow people to shame you, to pity you, to explain to you that you are supporting violence against women. women are not hurt by sex, by money, by owning themselves. women are hurt by the idea that they must be sequestered, for their own protection. we are the real feminists. tell your story and stand with me! those of you who have been hurt, or know those who have, come tell your story and stand tall. we will reclaim ourselves, and yes, even our sexuality! let us be strong!
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    Quote Originally Posted by venusofwillendorf
    and just let any man try to get violent with me in 6 inch stilettos! there's a reason they named those shoes after assasin's knives.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Wow.... I am so glad to hear that your overcoming such a horrible past.... Your a brave and strong woman.

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    Tell it, Venus!

    do not even think of trying to tell me that i am only seeking sex work so that i can further my abuse by reliving familar experiences.

    and darlings, don't you know, that every time a man looks at me with awe, with yearning, i heal a little more, my eyes shine a little brighter, i hold my head a little higher.
    I am convinced that this is a lie perpetrated by those same abusers who want to keep us down once they get us there.

    We who have control of our sexuality have all the power. Too many people don't want us to know it.


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    You go girl! I am glad that your life is good now, and only getting better all the time!


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Quote Originally Posted by venusofwillendorf
    you cannot own me any longer. i am my own person, and i have claimed ownership of myself. sisters, do not allow people to shame you, to pity you, to explain to you that you are supporting violence against women.
    Woot! Very strong, important and correct words here, venus. I'm so proud of you!

    Trauma and wrongs done to us in our lives never go away. There is no magic memory pill we can take to erase the wrongs done to us. Too many good people waste too many years of their life in desperation and suffering pleading that it will just go away or lessen. It never does. This process is truly yielding control of your life to someone else. It's the same as bowing down to those that have done the wrongs and giving them more pleasure for their misdeeds by screwing over another life.

    Alternatively, taking control of one's life is the answer. It's the denouncing of those that have done you wrong and illustrating it with actions. In all reality, a memory of the past is a real and tangible today as the dream you had last week. Neither really exist today and we all have the power to decide if we're going to walk unhindered in this world starting NOW.. or instead forever be a victim. Those that do wrongs really love and enjoy the latter. It brings them the 'gift' of recognition that keeps on giving.


    women are not hurt by sex, by money, by owning themselves. women are hurt by the idea that they must be sequestered, for their own protection. we are the real feminists. tell your story and stand with me! those of you who have been hurt, or know those who have, come tell your story and stand tall. we will reclaim ourselves, and yes, even our sexuality! let us be strong!
    Anyone that curbs or denounces their sexuality is a modern day slave... a slave to the words and actions of controllers. There IS no gender double-standard, only those that prefer to fall victim to such meaningless control ploys.

    It's a backwards form of slavery as it's done with the individual's consent... it's the only way it can survive is if the host of the broken mindset and conditioning decides to stay in this pattern and denounce the very basic, spiritual and human process of sex, sexuality and holistic healing found within.

    No matter what we do or how we live, there will always be stigma or stereotypes attached from hurtful, outside others. It's our CHOICE to instead defeat these, measure from within ourselves if it feels right to US, and stand proudly from what drives us within.
    It doesn't matter if you're somebody in this world, it rather matters you mean the whole world to somebody.

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    thankyou for your support, girls!
    be the change you wish to see in the world....
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    i really love your peaches wanna shake your tree....
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    why not?
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    omg venus <hugs>


    Im glad to hear that you are healing... Life is so tough sometimes and its only uphill now!

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    People wonder why I speak of being violent towards abusive custies in SCs. My traumas were not as terrible as yours, but I know what it is to be treated like a human latrine.
    Men might be bigger and stronger, but one can't match the wrath of a group of women with hurt in their hearts.
    "Girls gotta look out for other girls" -Mesquita from the movie "Freeway" (A Modern Re-Telling of the Little Red Riding Hood Story.)

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    My love to you; you beautiful strong courageous woman you! You are living it and owning it; and are a shining example of the triumph of spirit over the bullshit of conformity and denial. You are lifting yourself up and we will be here to help keep you there.
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    OMG, that's terrible. Your post is making me bawl hon. I'm soooo sorry about your experience. Best of luck to you and please don't hesistate to seek support from any of us.

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    ::snuggle

    I just came back and felt like reading this again.
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    Too many people are like the person that did this to you.
    It won't effect your direct situation....but for what it is worth:
    I have 2 step-sons and a son.
    I have done what I can to raise them all with MY personal view of women, and that is that it is no different than my view of men, with the exception of mating/sexual attraction.
    I iron my own shirts...I wash dishes...blah blah blah.

    If one of my children...."mine" or step...were to be involved....you would NOT see one of those news shows where the parents are being supportive.

    It makes me sad...and this act is worthy of execution in my own self-centered mine.

    My deepest...deepest...heartfelt sympathies. I should never happen...

    ...and in the end...KUDOS to you (and all others) for striving forward!!!!
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    <wild applause>

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    good for you venus. whatever you need to do to heal do it.

    i was molested by my step-grandfather as a child and raped as an adult. it's been many years since my grandfather died and i'm still having to overcome that shit.

    in addition to this, other experiences with men have caused me to become very jaded towards them. i've walked away from a belief system that i feel views me as inferior...a belief system that seems to give attackers and abusers a 'God given right' to do what they do..

    i also believe that we as women need to take back our sexuality...take back our lives and our power.

    mad hugs for you girl. what i've been through is nothing compared to what you've been through.
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    why do some people still have to fight to get the same opportunities that are given to others?

    reclusiveness...is a good thing.

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    don't you say that, mstopaz. we all know this pain. it bleeds with every one of us, within us. all good people, all people with hearts, weep for the brutally wronged. stand up and fight, hon! stand up and laugh in the faces of those who would degrade you! for no god gives them the right to do this. it is only the madness of men that allows this mindless rape of the soul to continue. you CAN change the world. just by healing yourself- you have proven it once again to another woman who has not yet had the courage, the strength, the chance to recover. stand up and fight. reclaim yourself. it is the only way to save the world. *(~fierce hug~)*
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    This is one of the most powerful posts I've read - I don't know you, but my heart is bursting with pride FOR you anyway, you are amazing!! Thanks for posting!!!!

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    Maybe everyone will hate me for this ( oh well ) Is your Father still living ? If he is living I am wondering why - his time is up as far as I'm concerned just my thoughts hope not to offend anyone but if anyone even resembled such behavior in my family againsnt anyone I loved they wouldnt get a chance to put more change into the parking meter . It enrages me oh so bad !

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    have you ever read the book " A BOY CALLED IT" this reminds me of that story. he too came over being abused, confined and made to go through garbage cans to search for food.

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    "A Child Called It" <~It's by Dave Pelzer.

    I recommend reading the 2 books that follow as well:

    "The Lost Boy"
    "A Man Named Dave"

    They're very very good. Brutal, but they make you think.

    Skip the book by his brother, though.

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    My god, what he did to you was just... horrendous. But you made it through! Thanks for posting this, it's an inspiration for me...we don't have to let these bastards destroy us! *hugs*

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    thanks rhi, i got the 2 titles mixed together.

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    Its amazing that you are no longer letting this drag you down and now you can grow and move forward in a positive direction in your life.

    Where did you find the strength to do this? Youre amazing hun
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    I am coming out, too.

    My father did the same to me he did to you. My father hit me, raped me, beat me.

    I have never been so hungry as to at roadkill. You have had such a hard life. Congratulations to you for coming out.

    *hugs*

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    he is still alive. unfortunately. but i have faith that he will meet his fate.


    you have all my support, lilith! you're an amazing woman! if you ever neeed to talk, pm me. and congratulations, to you, too. i know you'll survive, and grow. *(~beams through tears~)*
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