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    Default Lap dances for females

    I have practiced lapdances on mostly males and a few females. I have SUCH a hard time getting comfortable with dancing for females. I can't seem to get into it, and I dont think I can make another female buy the fantasy that I'm totally into dancing for them, etc etc etc. Maybe it is the same thing for dancing for a REALLY repulsive guy. I'm not sure....

    I have not found any threads about dancing for other females or approaching females. I am definitely aware that the avg customer will be a male. So I would prob approach a male first. But I have a lesbian friend who loves to get lap dances... The dancers "seem" to have just as much "fun" dancing for her as they do for my male friends. I would like to be just as professional, but have a hard time making myself get into it. Does it just come with experience?
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    Default Re: Lap dances for females

    Really? I LOVE dancing for females! I loooovvveee it! I just keep it really light and sensual... they don't need a lot of friction if ya know what i mean.
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    Smiley Re: Lap dances for females

    dancing for a female to me was easier than dancing for a man you dont have to worry about anything popping up and yes you will get used to it the more you do it good luck

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    Default Re: Lap dances for females

    Quote Originally Posted by paintgoddess
    I can't seem to get into it, and I dont think I can make another female buy the fantasy that I'm totally into dancing for them, etc etc etc. Maybe it is the same thing for dancing for a REALLY repulsive guy. I'm not sure....
    hmm.....when someone equates dancing for the average woman as equivalent to dancing for a REALLY repulsive guy, something is terribly wrong.
    As a regular female customer, I would rather you passed me by than try to force yourself to dance for little ole' repulsive me. I am sure that there are plenty of other dancers at your club that wouldn't mind (and would actually enjoy) dancing for women. Leave us girls for them.

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    I second what lopaw said. I love getting lap dances, but it's happened a couple times where it was so obvious that the dancer was weirded out and not enjoying it. Both times I ended the dance early, just saying, "Sorry, I guess this isn't comfortable for you; you don't have to keep going. Don't worry about it." Neither charged me for the dance and I moved on to another girl who was fine with dancing for me.

    One girl flat out told me she doesn't dance for women. I told her that was fine and then when I did get a dance, I tipped that dancer the price of the dance (paid her $40 for a $20 dance). THAT was the best lap dance I ever got.

    Anyway, "light and sensual" doesn't work for every woman. I like contact and whatever mileage I can get too, just like the guys. LOL! As long as I can run my hands over her legs and back and the curve of her hips, I'm in heaven - double if she smiles into my eyes and gives me the same sexy treatment her boyfriend might get.

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    The first club I checked out, a friend ended up buying me a supposed airdance from one of the clubs best dancers....I'm pretty sure the dancer didn't mind. I was very polite and did not touch her at all because I was aware that there was no contact. However, there was not very much air between her and I during this "airdance." My suggestion is "Money is Money" it doesn't matter who it's coming from, just as long as it goes into your pocket....

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    Default Re: Lap dances for females

    Quote Originally Posted by paintgoddess
    ...I have not found any threads about dancing for other females or approaching females...


    Really? Sometimes the issue is wrapped up in dancing for couples.

    Check out this post. It has links to several past threads on the topic...

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...278#post576278


    Feel free to do a search as there are TONS more.
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    Default Re: Lap dances for females

    I think a lot of it has to do with whether or not you are comfortable with intimate contact with another woman. If you are bisexual or have any bicuriosity about you at all, dancing for women shouldn't really be "repulsive." I agree with those who said they enjoy dancing for women. If you have some sort of issue with being intimate with another woman, and can't overcome that, you may never really get over your repulsion.
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    I actually lost out on some money the other night because I refused to dance for a couple women that came in. I learned the hard way. The woman told me:

    "Women spend just as much money as guys. We were willing to blow a lot of money, but now we will take our business somewhere else. Big Mistake."

    Oh well, it was my first REAL night working, and I wasnt comfortable. The women were a little too overbearing, so maybe they thought they could get away with more touching because I am new? I dont know. But I eventually got ok with it, and I prefer dancing for couples, because they tip better and dancing for the woman turns the man on, so he will buy dances, too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AJM1987
    I actually lost out on some money the other night because I refused to dance for a couple women that came in. I learned the hard way. The woman told me:

    "Women spend just as much money as guys. We were willing to blow a lot of money, but now we will take our business somewhere else. Big Mistake."
    There has only been two separate times in my many encounters in clubs where a dancer has not wanted to dance for me because I was a woman. Both times I shrugged my shoulders and found other dancers at the club to get dances from. Both times, each dancer that had refused me earlier in the night came over and coyly asked if she could now dance for me (after having seen me spend some serious $$$$ on other dancers). And, both times I politely turned them down. I must admit I felt a bit smug about it, having had the "last laugh" so to speak, but in the end I felt kinda crappy about it. With one of those dancers, I returned to her club a few weeks later and actually sat down with her for quite a while talking about the "women customer" thing.....bought alot of dances from her (her dances very VERY good) that night, so it turned out OK. I was a regular of hers for over a year after that.

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    Default Re: Lap dances for females

    it really depends on the girl for me. it can be uncomfortable yet i can never say i have been repulsed by a woman . i can't say i have ever really 'loved' it. there have been times when ihave felt like i was being critiqued, etc. by the girl and that was annoying. for example one girl actually told me re my boob job "you should have gone bigger, sister" then proceeded to get like 4 more dances, go figure !

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    Lopaw, You said "hmm.....when someone equates dancing for the average woman as equivalent to dancing for a REALLY repulsive guy, something is terribly wrong."

    Meant no offense whatsoever. I obviously did not word my statement very tactfully! I was wondering what a dancer can tell herself during the dance to get through it or to ease her own reservations in a way that is professional towards the customer, and makes the customer feel no different. I want to dance for females, and do not want to leave them out of my pool of customers. That is why I ask .

    Every dancer is different, with different comfort levels. To me, I have a similar lack of comfort dancing for a grody guy as I do dancing for a female. That is my particular situation. What I do think i have in common with others is that I would like to make money in SPITE of it.

    I actually think that females are amazing. I love to watch them and tip them. The one on one situation of a lapdance feels a little strange for me yet. What I plan to do is actually GET a few lapdances so I can get a feel for the intimacy as a customer--put myself in the female customer's position. Perhaps then I'll be more understanding of what the situation is about. After all, I am a newbie . Thanks to all for your comments.
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    I know I have said it before, and I'll say it again.... THE VAGINA IS NOT A CLOWN CAR!


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    I'm not repulsed by dancing for other women.. but then as I'm not really bisexual it doesn't feel natural to me either. I'd like to be able to think I can give a good dance to anyone but then admittedly being sexy comes more naturally to me with the guys than the girls so I expect bisexual girls probably give a much the girls a better dance...
    But I would much rather dance for someone I like any time than someone repulsive regardless of their sex! lol
    Then again many clubs in the UK don't allow really full-on contact dances as in the US apart from at private clubs and parties so I've never really done a *lap* dance for a woman.

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    The only time I hate lap dancing for women is when i know they are just doing it for their boyfriend or husband...When they feel uncomfortable I feel uncomfortable...besides that lap dancing for a female is alot of fun, and their money spends the same!!!

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    haha, im still slightly less comfortable dancing for women, only because men are so easy to please! i think "oh no, this girls on to me!" at first, because i want to give a good dance, especially for a fellow lady. once i get into it though, we both seem to enjoy ourselves. its hard to remember you cant support your weight on their chests, and that their weight is distrubuted differently than men (easier to fall off). i use a lot of eye contact, sliding my body down theirs, a little lap grinding for the hell of it, and i make sure i look like i am having fun. giving a few "ooh look what i get to do arent you jealous" looks if their friends or boyfriends are watching is fun too.

    i loooove going out myself and getting dances, so i still can't figure out why i get a bit shy around the ladies. perhaps im just like a guy though, i get stupid around beautiful women. i guess im a bit silly when i get dances too... in that situation i always let them approach me and i've never been disappointed.

    the last few days at work have been drag-city, but i've made probably at least 40% of my money from female customers, the ones that are comfortable and have money to spend (just like the guys, theres always the group that is rowdy, annoying, and doesnt ever tip) are so much fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red diving girl
    haha, im still slightly less comfortable dancing for women, only because men are so easy to please! i think "oh no, this girls on to me!" at first, because i want to give a good dance, especially for a fellow lady.
    My thoughts exactly. Plus, I worry that I might go too far, as I like to touch their nipples lightly, caress their inner thighs, ALMOST up to the "naughty bits," then move away (what a tease!)...I usually whisper to her when I start, "Just tell me to back off if I make you uncomfortable," but so far no one has.

    As far as approaching women/couples, I have found that with only ONE exception, if I'm not "invited," via stage tip or a wave-over, they won't buy. Not that I don't keep at it, mind you...

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    As a female customer, I have never had a girl go too far - I think that is a good idea to go ahead and do it, but let them know they can tell you to back off if they get uncomfortable. You can probably read a lot just from their reaction to that statement. What would be a good way for a customer to let a girl know to take the initiative if they want to do more?

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    If I go as a customer, I don't really like getting dances, weather they are lap or air. It really does nothing for me. I prefer no contact and to mostly view the stage shows and tip for stage.

    At work, I have no qualms about dancing for other women. One exception: If someone tries to buy a dance and the girl is protesting, I will tell them to let me know when she is more comfortable. Forcing someone to basically "endure" something that makes them uncomfortable when they're out trying to have fun is not how I want to earn my money.

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