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    hi. i'm 18, and i've been interested in stripping ever since i can remember. i want to go to a high-end beauty academy, and it's going to be $14,000...money i don't have. i think my best option would be to strip through hair school...the only problem is, i have a boyfriend.
    i was just curious...what is the best way to convince him that this could be a good idea? have any of you girls had this problem? please help! <3

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    There is no great way to intro this to your bf. The only thing you can do is be honest about it and why you want to do it. Honesty is best ...hey at least you tried. I dont know him and your relationship so I have no idea how he is going to react to the news. He might be all happy for you and supportive or totally cuss you out for wanting to "whore" yourself out like that. Just be prepared for whatever he says. Be prepared to stand on your own and do it all yourself or have him there to celebrate good nights and support you when you get tired.

    I HAD a bf too(dumped him)...hes not around and Im off making alotta money.
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    Well, If you have never stripped before i would suggest either going to a strip club and watchng or just going in there and trying it out for yourself(one day) without your bf knowing. Then if you decide you can handle it then go ahead and tell him you would like to do it, but don't tell him you did it already. I know lying isn't good but i think it's better than to get in a heated arguement over something you still do'nt know you can handle or like doing as a full time job, and might regret later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DARLA
    hi. i'm 18, and i've been interested in stripping ever since i can remember. i want to go to a high-end beauty academy, and it's going to be $14,000...money i don't have. i think my best option would be to strip through hair school...the only problem is, i have a boyfriend.
    i was just curious...what is the best way to convince him that this could be a good idea? have any of you girls had this problem? please help! <3
    I'm going to agree with Tigersmilk on this... there's no easy way.

    It all depends on the guy. My significant other lost it when I started dancing, but a lot of girls don't run into problems with thier guys... If you can tell he really loves you, it's going to be hard emotionally...

    Having a girlfriend become a stripper can put a heavy damper on a guy's ego, especially if he really loves you. It's hard for them not to think about other men being able to see you that way... most guys want to feel special in knowing they're the only ones that get the privelege of seeing you naked.

    There's no telling what will happen. Just don't take it too hard if he doesn't approve. Remember that it's your body, and you make your own choices.
    Any guy that won't respect that doesn't deserve your respect.

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    most of the times you have to "talk someone into something" it doesnt work out. either he's going to be ok with it, or not. if he isnt ok with it, you need to decide which is more important to you rather than try to force it on him, because it's very likely that he will resent you for it in the long run. my boyfriend and i have been together over 2 years and i started dancing a month ago. he loves me very much and his only concern with it was how it might effect my mental and/or physical health. it really just depends on your boyfriend's personality. i've met other girls at my club whos boyfriends are as supportive as mine about it, and i've met others who are in a constant battle with their boyfriend about it... you don't want that.

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    I ran into this problem too. My boyfriend would want me to quit dancing and it would cause problems at work with managment and stuff because it's like I am coming and going back and forth but finally I sat down we talked and I told him this is who I am and it is how I pay for school and bills (I asked if you want to pay 150 for just one of my textbooks not including class) he understood and I told him that I don't dance because it is my life I dance because it is a chance for me to make something of myself with the money I earn, b/c working at Hooters slinging chicken wings with 80's scrunch sucks would not come close to what I earn now and plus it is the same concept too

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    I agree with most of the girls that have said that it's not easy. Mine inially thought he was okay with it, not thrilled, but he was okay........but now several months in I think he's starting to turn and get more and more uncomfortable with it.

    I think it's crucial to remember that it's your body, and your choice.

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    It's YOUR LIFE, not his...
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Do unto others as you would have them do to you...it's less work to be nice than it is to be evil!

    "Miss ChiChi, if you was my girl you would never cry from anything...except maybe happiness."

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    Ppppbbbbt! (That was a raspberry)!!! Is there a ring on your finger? If it keeps you out of debt, pays the bills, etc. what's the problem. It's your life, like MinahSky said.

    I'm using the military to pay my way through school....by the time I'm done 3 years from now I will be an RN, a radiologist and a LT in the US Army....with NO debt. The ability to start your life with an education and NO debt is such a great feeling.

    Good luck!
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    I brought up the idea to my fiance as just that, an idea. Just to see his reaction. Turns out, he was really okay with it. We talked it over about a million times, just to be sure we were both on the same page. It all depends on your relationship and what you think he'll say. I was pretty sure my guy would freak, but then he didn't, so who knows? GOOD LUCK!

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    My boyfriend and I are on the rocks right now about it, and I haven't even worked a full week. His mother is causing more problems than he is, however.....

    I am gonna keep stripping though, because it is ME and ONLY ME who is going to pay my bills, and I have goals that stripping will help me accomplish. It's nobody's business how we make our money...keep that in mind. But remember that you are gonna have to take the $h!t that goes along with being a stripper. Yeah, the pay is good, but people suck.

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    I'm glad I read this post. I was about to post a similar question. I've been dancing for about two months and have been hiding it from my boyfriend. He dj's, so I sneak out on his gig nights. I've been thinking about telling him though because we have a lot of bills and he knows how much I hate my job. My only problem is that I'm afraid if I tell him he'll want to come and hang out on my nights and I don't want him there. It'll make it weird.................
    also, I'm pretty sure he'll freak. he thinks I'm too innocent............all i can say is GEMINI!!!

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    I am not dancing just yet, but I am going tomorrow to try and audition for a few places and see how it goes, but the moral of my story is: I told my boyfriend what I wanted to do and I told him we needed to find a firm foundation in our relationship(which by the way is wonderful) and see if he could trust me enough and trust in our relationship enough to let me do what I feel like I need to do. He didn't even debate at all he said that he loved me enough and trusted that I was only making this decision to make "our lives" easier and better in the long run and he is totally cool with it now. I look at it like this if you have a good relationship complete with trust, honesty, and devotion you will be ok, but if you deciding to dance ruins it then chances are pretty good you would broken up soon anyways, maybe this is a bad way to look at it, but I just think if a relationship isn't meant to be something small would wreck it anyways. Just my $.02 though. All the girls on here seem to have a great head on their shoulders and you should take their advice before mine, but I just thought I would share my experience with you b/c I know how hard it was for you to bring it up to him, It almost killed me, but I was honest and open and that counted for a lot. ; ) BTW, go for it and I wish you the best of luck!!!! Just do what "you" want not what he wants you to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinahSky
    It's YOUR LIFE, not his...
    well,no offense,but your looking at a relationship between TWO/2 people from a very selfish angle imo.

    If you take every girl that starts dancing while in a relationship,and look at them 5 years later,its 90%+++++++ that are NOT in the same relationship with the same guy.

    So its a big decision,involving TWO peoples lives,for most it means the end of a relationship if they start dancing.

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