This is really long, sorry. Editted as much as possible. Background: friend since grade school, she's bi-polar, we're 25, she's jealous of my bf and other friends. Every so often, she tells me what a selfish bitch I am, even though I am her only friend and do everything for her. These are emails to each other today. Who's over-reacting? How should I handle this? What to do? Do I give up on her, since this is all the time?
Friend:
I'm wondering about the concert. It's next week & I want to get there for sound check & the meet & greet, but it's not that important. I'm not sure what's going on w/ your job & school. Let me know.
Me:
Here's the prob. If I miss school, I have to make it up the next day, so I'll miss 3 hrs of work. So, I can't leave work early for the concert. I won't get home til6. It'll be hard. Don't be mad, but I told u from the start that the chances of me going were slim. I was shocked when u told me that u got tickets. I WANT to go...but it'll be hard. I also have to train my replacement next week, so that makes it harder.
Friend:
No prob, J said he'll go if you can't. Doors open at 6 & I want to be there by 4. I can't blow this off - I paid a ton of $ for the tickets. Do what u have to, it's understandable. I just wish u would've told me sooner. I realize this is your busy time but you've taken off for Sox games w/ Tim! You told me u can get a 1/2 day on the 31st! You never said chances of u going were slim. Thanks for such short notice. There's no time to sell (ebay). I'm sorry I have to lose my Best Friend over fucked up shit. Maybe I'll get used to the fact that everyone goes away. I hate to say this, but u were right when u said you're too selfish to have kids. You do things w/ girls from work - when's the last time WE went out? You really know how to hurt people. Maybe I'll see u around.
Me:
I JUST found out my prof's schedule! I also didn't know that I was going to quit my job until last wk. That changed things. I CAN take 1/2 day - I need that for class! How dare u even question my responsibilities @ work & school? I did not ask u to buy these! When I saw the date, I told u I CAN'T go b/c Aug is too busy! Re: Sox game, that was my bday in JUNE! I haven't taken ONE DAY in Aug! Sorry that my choice to quit my job & go to school have interfered w/ your concert plans. Next time, I'll ask first. Do I have to explain every time I go out w/ people, too? I KNOW I haven't been selfish at all. I'm just really busy. My life can't revolve around u. We're not in HS! You're being one-sided. Sorry if my choices have hurt u. Like I said before - I'm very busy til mid-Sept. It's not going to change. Take it or leave it.



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