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    Recently I have dropped about 15 lbs, treated myself to some highlights, and have become way more comfortable dancing onstage. Overall I am doing better financially and the club regulars have taken notice of the overall positive changes. Hooray!
    Now for the bad news...
    Some of the other girls' regulars want to be MY regulars now too. Now I don't go around chasing after other girl's regulars and twisting their arms to visit me. They come in and invite me to their tables and pursue the relationship on their own. One of the girls is pissed, saying behind my back that I "stole" her customer. I'm not one to step on other dancers' toes, but I always thought it was the customer's call as far as who he wants to spend time and $$ with while ITC. (FYI... When she is not there, he comes in to see me. If the other dancer and I are both there, then he will spend his time with her ( which is totally OK by me...after all he was her customer first). ) She and I do not usually work the same hours, but she also gets pissed if he throws $$$ on my stage despite the fact that she isn't even working there the same time I am. WTF?
    I also know that her customer is not very happy with visiting her anymore, stating that she keeps treating him, in his words, like a human ATM machine.
    She and I haven't seen each other since her customer started visiting me, but I am sure she is going to have something to say to me about it when we do meet next time at the club.
    Fighting about this is not an option. I want to handle this well. Has this happened to anyone else here?
    Thanks for input.
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    I had this happen to me, and I put the dancer in her friggin place. No one belongs to anyone else, (especially since he pursued you same as in my case). I would go to the manager and put him/her on notice that there might be a problem brewing. Not tattle tailing, but just forewarning him/her of a potential problem. Just cover your bases.

    And congrats on making yourself the best you that you can be...it's empowering, isnt' it?
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    Thanks Minah...Lord knows I worked my little tushie off! And my weekly sales have increased by 50% woo hoo! Yes, it has been nice
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    People tire out of things. I have alternate dancers that I see whe my fave's not there, and I still see them when she is, which pisses her off. She named of 5 other dancers I was "allowed" to get aces from. I choose to see 3 other girls that were not on that list. I'm sure she gives them shit b/c when I'm there, and she's there, no other girls really approach me. It sucks for the customr b/c you're just sitting there like "WTF?". You go to the club to escape drama. Maybe alert the manager like Minah said, and just don't get into a confrontation with that girl. She'll wind up doing herself a huge disservice if she acts like that in front of her custy. Good luck and nice job!
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    Here's an existing thread from a customer asking how to mix in another dancer while he's a regular for someone else. Kind of some perspective from the other side of the tip rail....

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=48981
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    As you will see my advice to you is similar to the advice I posted in the linked thread.

    From what you've described, you're not doing anything wrong. It's the customers money, and unless he chooses to make himself the exclusive customer of a particular dancer it's up to the customer how he wishes to spend his entertainment dollar.
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    Manners.. the only reason I would get mad would be if some other girl simply took over one of my friends.. if someone else's "friend" wanted a dance from me and the fellas usual gal was there I would simply tell her.. " Hey look.. so and so asked me for a dance. Just to let you know.."

    Everybody is there to make money and I always told all of my friends, if you see someone else that strikes your fancy, let me know, I will go and get her for you!
    I've had it happen to me and went to girl herself and told her I did not care to be treated in such a fashion. Frankly, the money was not an issue then - it was how she treated me.
    Manners like that have seen to gone the direction of the professional dancer.. Both are rare to find.

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    I know a lot of my regulars go to see other girls now too. While it is somewhat disappointing to lose a reg it's not a terribly big ordeal to me, as business goes in cycles and I know if I lose a regular then there will soon be a new one to take his place. I understand that the guy might want to try a different "flavor". It's their money! They can spend it as they wiish. It's not like I am married to any of these guys. Why can't the other dancers have a similar attitude?
    The negativity is so unproductive!
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    It's not negativity, it's jealousy. No one likes rejection, and that's basically what happens. For some, it's a major source of income in that they rely on regulars for a big part of their bank; and when they lose them it's hit them in their pocket. They may have just lost a car note or house payment.
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    Its pure greed and laziness. She has become complacent and is expecting the easy money from her customer. Tell management. If she tries to fight you, just turn around and walk away. Watch out for that sucker punch though.

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    Poor girl doesnt realize regulars come and go....and hes going to you. Like you said its not like you go around twisting arms but he wants to spend time with you ...she has to get that. Alas I would let her be but like others said let management know in case sh*t....in case your stuff gets stolen, peed on, or you being threatened in the future by crazy chic. YOu never know so just make money and cover your butt.

    Congrats on loosing 15lbs though!!
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    Damn, I'd love to have dancers fighting over me. This is insane. This is why I love this site, I would never have suspected this goes on behind the scenes. No wonder a regaular guy (ie not someones "regular") can't get dances if all you dancers are so devoted to your regulars. Heck I understand seeing a sure thing, but if you don't expand your horizons once in a while, how do you know what else is out there. Just like us custies gotta get a different dancer once in awhile, I think dancers need to get a new custy once in a while. Maybe she'll have time to find a new reg now who will spend even more money on her. Then when she treats him like an ATM machine, it will be your turn again. More power too you. Screw her.

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    And custies need to learn to ask dancers to come over when they want dances. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.

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    The customer can also set the other dancer straight. He should just tell her that she's not his girlfriend or wife, and that he gets to spend his money on whomever he fancies.

    I feel bad for dancers who are on the other end of this kind of shit. It’s not your fault that he’s interested in you. Really, the other dancer needs get a clue.

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    If she's not intelligent enough to realize that she's acting like a fool and in the end will lose money, then forget her.

    I had it happen in a club I used to work at. This guy used to come in and drop $$$$ on this one other dancer and me. I didn't care if he danced with her first or what, he always danced with me and paid me well. So this stupid b*tch starts b*tching at him about him dancing with me first. He came to me complaining. I told him that if it would quell the crap, to go dance with her first, I didn't mind. He was happy that I was cool about it. It was ok for a while. Then she b*tched at him for missing her set because he was sitting with me (never mind that he got up to tip her a $20 before she ended it and we were watching from the couches). I told him to go to the rail and I'd see him later for dances. That settled things for a while again. Then she bitched at him for not just sitting around waiting for her while she was busy.

    THAT STUPID C*NT.

    The guy was so frazzled since nothing he did satisfied her that he stopped showing up. She was fired a week after the last time I saw him. I wanted to wring her neck, I tell you. <sigh>

    Being nice SUCKS. Some guys just don't have the b*lls to tell the dancer to get a friggin' clue. I wish they did, this crap wouldn't happen so much then.
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    In Renaissance City, the offended dancer would deal with this by telling the regular you lost weight on a cocaine diet. And she'd tell other dancers you're doing her regular outside the club.

    If that doesn't work, you went to [insert hospital name] and found out you're HIV positive. Or you have cervical cancer. "But don't tell anybody cuz she's going through enough already."

    When business is slow, it gets worse.

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    if the customer chooses to see you then its fairgame. Theyre the customer right. Screw her. I dont think you are doing anything wrong and IMHO some dancers I work with need to be taken down a few notches.
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    My retired ATF gained some customers when another girl in the club gained weight and started developing an attitude with her regulars. Instead of looking in the mirror the dancer in question started accusing my ATF and other clean girls of doing extras in the Champagne rooms. Most of the girls I know will tell me that internal SS as a much bigger source of grief than what the average customer throws at them.
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    I haven't experience any of this is my local club.

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    My feeling on this has always been that she may be my favorite, but that does not mean that I am only "allowed" to have one, I might very well have more than one in the same club at the same time, maybe because they are simular and I can't decide or maybe because thay are so different and I like the variety. My favorite last month may not be my favorite next month. I'm sure that when JHM wanted to marry ANS she didn't for a minute hesitate because she was other guys favorites.

    However it works out, she may be my favorite, but I am NEVER "her customer" and if a potential favorite of mine can't deal with the fact that we won't be "mated for life" then she just needs to pick someone else to be "her customer" and trust me I will pick another favorite.

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    Personally I think the customer should step up and say "it's my money, and I'll choose how to spend it." If the other dancer wants to have an attitude about it, he can vote with his feet and his wallet. Besides, if the stiletto were on the other foot, and one of your regulars wanted to see her more regularly, she wouldn't hesitate to accept the new business, regardless of your feelings on the matter.

    The way I'm reading it, Sunshine, it's not like you're taking business away from other girls - their regulars are just adding you to their dance cards, so to speak.
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