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    Default Do you think dancing has made you stronger of a person?

    When I started out dancing I was very timid and it was very hard for me to be a bitch and tell them to stop trying. I was even afraid to end dances because of repeated bad behavior for fear that they would make a scene. I took alot of crap and put up with crap too.
    Now, in my real life and stripper life Im stronger because having to deal with A-holes on a regular basis and FINALLY getting I dont have to take sh*t from anyone has made me stronger as a person.
    Im not happy a-holes are out there nor am I thankful for them in any way but Im glad I finally know how to deal with it all.
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    I have to say dancing has made me get over my severe stage fright, talking to guys, made me comfortable with my body, improved my sex life( best part!) and introduced me to a side of myself that I never knew. Only in the past couple of weeks have I actually really started enjoying it though. I just had to get past the "I feel like a whore part" and now it's actually fun. Overall, the best thing that dancing has done had made me deal with rejection. Now if a guy says no to a dance I just say okay and move on to the next.

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    Yes, i was very naive before dancing. I don't know if it changed me for the better in general though. I am still a very nice person but have become maybe a bit more defensive and possibly guarded. More suspicious.

    But iv'e seen a lot of girls get rough and change for the worst. It is not really their fault, they have just been dealing with assholes for so long in the biz.

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    i definately have more confidence now that i've started dancing. I used to walk around with my head down, never really looking at anyone. Now I have no problem with any of that. I also used to be really shy and afraid of hurting someones feelings. But i think after dealing with those horrible customers early on in my dancing career(not saying that they all were horrible....just the majority). I had to learn really fast not to care what they thought of me, if they didn't find me attractive, that was their problem. i had to believe i was sexy before the custys would...i think they can sense that

    and yeah...dancing has made the sex better too Have a crazy sex drive since I have to get it out of my system before i go to work.
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    You failed to make the cheerleading squad. You react to this serious derailment of all your social-climbing dreams by:
    A) Sitting in your room in the dark all weekend, making little cuts in your forearm with a razor blade.
    B )Claiming you quit the squad before you got cut, once you realized how "unbelievably stupid" cheerleading is.
    C )Giving herpes to the entire football team—who then pass it on to their cheerleader girlfriends. Vengeance is yours!

    Before I became a stripper, with my low self esteem, A) would have been my answer. And this actually happened to me.

    Now, having been in this line of work for a few years. And if I could go back, my answer would be C).

    I hope this doesn't sound too bitchy. Oh, well.

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    I cant say it has made me stonger, but it has made me happier.

    I went into the business already being very We Are Going To Do This My Way, Pal. Dont get me wrong, I'm not that way (after an extent) with employers, out of common sense, but with customers and peers? You betcha. I was already rather good at being scantily clad in public, and quite a ham lol. But I tell ya what! I am happier now. I have a constant, moldable creative outlet that helps me be artistic and helps me vent. Important! At least, its important to me.
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    dancing has definitely made me stronger, happier, and more confident. before i started dancing i was very self concious about my body, i refused to have sex with the lights on because i was scared the guy i was with would not like how i looked. now i'm totally confident and walk around the house nude all the time! i'm definitely a lot more outgoing compared to what i was 3 years ago, and i've learned how to deal with rude comments much better too!

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    I think dancing put an inner strength into all of us. I noticed, Its the type of strength thats so hard to find in most people. So, thats why I will always have respect for dancers, even when Im completly out of the business. Because of what we see in life which most people only think or dream about; we see it and have t deal with it! lol.. Thats why we're soo craaazy! lol.. *kidding.* Even though $ isnt that great this year, I will always look back at this job as a good memory. I really believe we all have this certain strength which people w/ regular jobs just dont have. Hmm : )

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    Quote Originally Posted by LemonLime
    You failed to make the cheerleading squad. You react to this serious derailment of all your social-climbing dreams by:
    A) Sitting in your room in the dark all weekend, making little cuts in your forearm with a razor blade.
    B )Claiming you quit the squad before you got cut, once you realized how "unbelievably stupid" cheerleading is.
    C )Giving herpes to the entire football team—who then pass it on to their cheerleader girlfriends. Vengeance is yours!

    Before I became a stripper, with my low self esteem, A) would have been my answer. And this actually happened to me.

    Now, having been in this line of work for a few years. And if I could go back, my answer would be C).

    I hope this doesn't sound too bitchy. Oh, well.
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    what does having been in this business for a long time have to do w/ you wanting to go back and giving herpes to the whole football team and their girlfriends? That is absolutely crazy. i rather have cut myself every weekend, I couldn't live w/ myself after C.

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    i have gained ALOT of confidence.. but some close friends (that i knew well before i started dancing) have said my personality has changed alot.. i can be a bigger bitch when i want to be, and i've learned how to get what i want at certain times too..lol (that sounds bad)... but i thank god that i got into it, it's helped me alot, i've come a long way

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    Oh this is a big yes for me. And its not even the dealing with the custmers that me stronger it was dealing with the other dancers i had to learn to grow a tough skin. I started out afraid to even speek in the dressing room and by the end of my stay at my home club i was making good money and one of the grils accused me of discounting my dances and fanned my money out right in front of her and and said if that was true then where did i get all this cash. that was a proud moment for me You most defeintly have to have a though skin to survive the club i almost had to step outside of myself to find the courage but now that i have it is a skill i will always have if the sitution dictecates it and i am truely greatful for my experices.

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    It is my confirmed belief that any girl who survives the first year in this buisiness and makes it her career is among the elites.
    Not everybody who enters this buisiness makes it. I have seen a lot fail.
    You have to have something in you. The strength is already there.
    This buisiness just brings out what already exists.
    You cannot improve on something which does not exist.
    You just become more self aware. And with that self awareness comes fulfillment.
    Once, I became self aware, there was no more self doubt.
    My mind beame fully confident, and with that confidence came peace.

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    I know that i am a stronger more confident person. Ive always been a bit timid and very shy, dancing has definitely opened me up. Ive learned to voice my opinions, tell them how it is, and to be the one in control of every situation...even if it means heel in a gentlemans crotch!!! For the first time in i think my whole life I am very content...Lexy
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    Its taught me to be who i want to be, its made me more cofident in me... also taught me that I want something to just go get it....

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    Absolutely,stronger,smarter,happier,more confident all the good qualities.Also I think it taught me a lot about how to take care of yourself physically,like dieting,excercize,make up,nails,fashion.It also teaches you to deal with different types of people.So,yes,a lot of benefits.

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    I was fairly confident before I started dancing, but dancing just added to that confidence. It made me more confident in my body. I do agree with someone who posted that her friends thought that now she could be a bigger bitch when she wants to.......I've heard that one from friends as well.

    I also agree with (I think it was paige but too lazy to go back and look) who said dancing was a great creative outlet. It's fantastic to go on stage and act for twenty minutes in whatever kind of persona i feel like.

    Dancing has probably also made me a little bit narcissitic.

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    I was extremely shy before dancing so it has helped me in that regard. It has taken me a long time to become a strong person however because I am a bit naive and believe that others will treat me as well as I treat them. I am probably too sensitive for dancing, but I enjoy it.

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    I think dancing has left me with a complex of some sort, and has made me a bitter person. I can say with absolutely no remorse that I hate men. All of them. I've even picked a career that involves very little male interaction. I don't walk anymore because I don't want men looking at me, I go through drive-throughs more, and when I have a male waiter I ask for a female to serve me insted.

    This is a terrible thing, but I'm not complaining. Maybe it's better to be extra cautios then too careless

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meea
    I can say with absolutely no remorse that I hate men. All of them.
    Meea... that is the saddest thing I've heard in a long time. Wow.. I hope someday that changes for you.
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    Meea.. I am going through the same thing. Girl,I completly understand you. I do the same things as you do in order to avoid men. Im not sure if Ill ever grow out of this phase either...But I completly understand you!!!!

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    I don't think you can effectively do this job if you hate men. We see them at their worst....and if just having them look at you disgusts you, well...you know where I'm going with that.

    it's not a requirement of the job to like men, but I think it's important to have respect for them if you want them to respect you.

    As for making me a stronger person. I think I was always strong.

    I think it's made me more focused and value my time more...and therefore value myself more. I don't waste time with people that bring me down. I don't waste feelings thinking about them. I'm more focused on my overall happiness now that I have the money and time to do it.

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    Meea I felt the same way right about when I took a break from it all. I was only going to allow myself back refreshed and with a better attitude. All I can say is you cant let them get to you meaning mens rude comments, mischevious activities, constantly trying to touch you, ask you for number etc.

    When guys get all turned on of course they will want more than what you offer...its just the way the big brain gets turned off and the little one takes over. Its all in how you handle their separate selves.

    I hope your mind changes one day about men because it might effect you in your personal life as well even more than what you stated.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Meea
    I think dancing has left me with a complex of some sort, and has made me a bitter person. I can say with absolutely no remorse that I hate men. All of them....
    Meea,

    I think you've picked a working environment where you are going to meet a large percentage of dipshits/ar*eholes and other less than charming men. I've no doubt that being propositioned, being on the end of crude comments, fending off wandering hands on a regular basis will make you very cynical and bitter.

    However, to extend your experience of men in SC's to cover the entire male population has and will continue to affect you life outside of work. Even if you spend 20% - 25% of your time at work, you still spend far more time outide of it. Why let the ar*eholes you meet at work give you a complex about the men you meet outside of it? Not every bloke is the same at the ones you meet while working.

    Me, I've always treated people in the same way I expect to be treated myself. In the million to one chance I meet you at work, you'll not be propositioned, grabbed, asked for your phone number etc.

    Similarly I have old fashioned manners outside of work - I treat any woman I'm with as well as I know how, and expect a similar courtesy from them. You get what you give - and I've always found treating people with kindness and understanding is reciprocated.

    We get but one life, and - to my mind at least - we should be having as much fun and enjoyment as we can, while we can.

    Don't let the idiots you meet at work, (and dancers probably meet more idiot men than most), affect your life - and the fun/pleasure that you can have - outside of work. You spend 75% of your time outside of work - why let the 25% of the time you spend at work affect that?

    Phil.

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    Good response from Phil-W.

    I have had bad experiences with men, but I also do know many men who have cared for me and saved me from harm. I also know plenty of women who have never ever worked a sex industry job, but have had such maltreatment from men that they truly hate men. "This world is hard on the little things"...not just women....people are willfully blind that it's still a jungle out there.
    Still, the love of a good man is a joy not to be missed. Meea- I hope you'll feel better about men someday, even if it's just for one man.
    Dancing made me stranger. If that was possible. LOL

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    Dancing made me more confident and assertive. I'm more outgoing now than I was before.

    On the other hand, I am much more suspicious of people and their motives (for just about anything.) I feel a little bit hardened inside, and I'm really hoping that will eventually fade away.
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