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    About a month ago my parents found out through an ex boyfriend of mine that i was dancing... they were so upset and told me they would have nothing to do with me if i was to continue working in "that kind of industry"..... I really don't know what to do.. i enjoy dancing, the money is great, and its helping me get by with school..... I just don't know what to do about it.. there is no other job that is as flexible as this and doesn't hurt that the money is great... help!!!

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    Bummer, I've had friends just tell their parents that they did quit, but they didn't let anyone know that they were dancing again. It sucks to lie, but many parents really don't want to know that their little girl is a "stripper" and they usually will never understand.
    Sorry if this wasn't much help.
    **** plus, beat up the guy that told them, what an ass! I'm sure he used the "I'm worried about her" route as well ****
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    I went through the same thing with mine...It took 4 years for mine to see that I wasnt caught up in the drugs and hardcore partying or prostitution they were worried about...now they accept it like any other job and sometimes my dad and i joke around about it....it takes time, but I'm sure theyll come around...good luck!


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    As an adult, you can't let your parents tell you what to do, you have to live your own life. They raised you they taught you, but now you are on your own. Imho, if they can't accept who you are, you either have to lie and deal with the consequences of that, or they will have to deal with the fact that you are making your own decisions....

    I was told at one point by my father that I was 'no longer a member' of the family... eventually my parents realized that I was family no matter what...

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    Yeah, lie and say you stopped but continue. Normally I'm against lying but my family always pisses me off about stripping (my brothers bitch and moan about it but they still buy porn and look at women...) BUT they never complain when they benefit from me having extra money.
    Plus, many feel like your credibility is damaged already, so lying is not a big whoop...my aunt thought I had become a crackhead when that was the farthest thing from the truth (I became like a daughter to my boss & he gave me a bartending job at the bar, not an achievement possible if I had been strung out....)
    Family is #1 to me, but you do what you have to.

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    Thanks for the advice girls!!! Im just going through a very confusing time right now will all this.. i NEVER wanted my parents to know about me doing this.. I come from a well known family in my hometown. Hopefully i'll figure things out.. Its just so hard to have to try and get another job when the money is so good dancing!!! i have another question... Are there chat rooms on this website???? I'm so glad i found stripper web.. love it... take care everyone!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KamrynAnne
    About a month ago my parents found out through an ex boyfriend of mine that i was dancing... they were so upset and told me they would have nothing to do with me if i was to continue working in "that kind of industry".....
    Ok, it's annoying for you, but I suspect your parents are being protective of you - in their eyes you're their little girl, who's never fully grown up.

    Add into the equation that they are from an earlier generation, (with different moral standards), and probably only have anecdotal evidence about what does on inside strip venues, and you have another cause for their concern.

    No easy solution, I'm afraid.

    Sorry...

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    KamrynAnne, why don't you sit them down and have a talk with them. Explain to them exactly what you said in your first post. Give them time and if they are reasonable people they will realize you are right and accept it. Otherwise, yeah lie and say you quit. Don't let your parents run your life, you are an adult now and the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
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    Yeah, lie and say you stopped but continue. Normally I'm against lying but my family always pisses me off about stripping (my brothers bitch and moan about it but they still buy porn and look at women...) BUT they never complain when they benefit from me having extra money.
    Yes, you really do need to come clean with your parents about your dancing. If you continue knocking down significant amounts of dancing income, if you do not tell your parents about it, and if your parents' tax returns and student aid/loan family financial applications do not reflect your dancing income, if/when the IRS every catches up with the fact that you are dancing they will rake both you and your parents over the coals on income taxes and potentially fraud too (i.e. lying on student aid/loan applications constitutes defrauding the gov't).

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    "You're going to believe what my EX has to say about me? Why do you think he's my EX? Do you suppose he has some motive to tell you these tales in order to hurt me? That bastard is the one who's always hanging out in those places, not me." (You're not hanging out, after all, you're working.)

    Well, I'm not really suggesting this because it might backfire especially if you're not a good actress. Besides, I assume it's too late for that anyway. But it's sure tempting to imagine it for a second when something like this comes up.

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    I would tell them that you'll quit as soon as you find another job... then explain why you can't do other jobs as you go. Like, oh, yeah mom, I put in an application at McDonalds the other day but did you know they only pay five dollars an hour? It doesn't really make sense for me to take a job where it would take a week to earn what I earn now in a night, does it?



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    Im sorry you have to deal with that...I know its hard...Ive told so many half truths to my family...i couldnt bring myself to give my poor grandmother a heart attack, so i told her I work in a strip club as a waitress...my mom and dad on the other hand, I was very up front with about it, and why...they dont like it , but they deal with it...they dont want to know any details...the one i have the hardest time with is my brother...that little a$$ went and told my oldest daughter that "mommy gets naked for money when shes at work"...Not cool at all, especially when i got a call from the school!!! Just tell your family that your not dancing anymore and your just working there as a waitress or a bartender...unless they come into the club you work at they will never know the difference.
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    Not that too many details were given, but I'm gonna take a shot in the dark and say that Dad is probably more upset than mom. Because Dad has probably been to a few SC's here and there.

    I'm sure your mom will come around, she would probably be the easiest to explain it to. Of course this is all hypothetical too. And dad probably just doesnt want you to end up as the REALLY old woman working at the club who didnt save any money or goto college and thats all she knows how to do.

    by the way, none of this applies if your parents are christian/islamic extremists.

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    Speaking of grandmas... My grandma was the first one to SUPPORT the idea of me dancing. Her and I were sitting at the kitchen table one morning and I was scanning the employment section of our local newspaper. I came across a dancers wanted ad that read something like "Exotic Dancers wanted! Make $300+ a night, no experience necessary, will train for free!" So I read it to my grandma and said, half jokingly, "What do you think about that idea grandma?" and to my surprise she goes "Well that might be a good idea! A girl on Young & The Restless does that and she makes really good money" I was so surprised that she encouraged me that I picked up the phone and called the club. My parents didn't find out until later. Neither of them were happy about it but they didn't really give me a lot of drama. I wasn't living at home so I guess they figure it's really none of their business, which it isn't if you aren't living at home.
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