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    It's my third day at my new club, and it had to happen sooner or later: I pissed another dancer off. I don't even know her name, but she was in the dressing room talking to nobody in particular about her anti-depressants, and how she hated her doctor, because he gave her a weak prescription that wore off after about four hours. I'm on the same one, so I asked her, "Does this doctor hope to ween you off of pills, or are you planning to take them for a while?" She turned and said, "You know what? You don't know me, or my life, and I don't want to talk about it, so why don't you just mind your own fucking business."

    Now, I know that no matter how nice you are, someone is always out for you, I got used to that a long time ago. I also know that her outburst probably had nothing to do with me and was more her problem than mine. I got over it and went back out and sold more dances. I just try to be the best dancer I can be and hope that I don't get in anyone's way. But all I'm learning from these experiences is that I should never open up to people, because it's rude for me to do so. This is why I stick to myself at clubs, and hardly ever talk to anyone: no matter what I say, someone wants to shove it back down my throat.
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    Oh sweetheart, don't be upset. She must be manic. I grew up with my mom being weird and moody so it didn't faze me to see messed-up chicks at work being drama queens. HER problem, not yours.

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    honey, don't blame yourself, you weren't being rude at all. she clearly is having medication issues- her behaviour is probably due to that. you don't have to cut yourself off, either. just remember that you're a good person, and the fact that other people are insane doesn't change that.
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    Don't let one bitchy girl get you down just cos she was having a bad day or problems with her meds - you didn't do anything wrong. There's probably plenty of girls at the club who are nice and who you could be friendly with, and you won't need to worry about girls like her!

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    mabye they should up her dosage on her medication.

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    What happened to you is exactly why I kept my nose out of other dancer's conversations. I went there, made my money, and went home. No fraternizing.

    Sorry that happened to you, though.

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    She's talking about it, and then says she doesn't want to talk about it...

    but really, maybe you should try not to hold it against her... I mean medication issues... maybe when the dosage is right things will be different

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    I don't hold it against her, I know she's having a rough time, but I still get more and more gun shy about chatting up other dancers. I feel like you, Venus!
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    The best thing you can do is ignore it. I'm pretty cautious about talking to the other dancers myself. Run ins like that freak me out... I do try to stay out of girls business. One time, this girl was all upset about a recent break up and I was going through the same thing and... well, that was all I said. She gave me the diiirrrttiiiessttt look. I've learned not to try to console strangers, I think they think it's insulting or something? I dont know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    She's talking about it, and then says she doesn't want to talk about it...

    but really, maybe you should try not to hold it against her... I mean medication issues... maybe when the dosage is right things will be different
    I don't think it was that she "didn't want to talk about it" as much as she felt that someone stuck their nose (uninvited) into her business. She's partly right (abbey wasn't directly asked) but she's also mostly wrong because what you air--loudly--in the dressing room becomes more of a "communal" discussion.

    But, let 'em rant...let 'em bitch...let 'em complain...and just thank your lucky stars that you don't have any part of it.

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    Are you at my club now Abbey? There are a couple of psycho bitches that you REALLY need to watch out for. Keep your mouth shut, and you'll be fine. Sorry about what happened.

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    I'm at Yellow Rose...you? I think you're at P10, right?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Abbeynormal
    I'm at Yellow Rose...you? I think you're at P10, right?
    Hehehe, Austin is full of crazy bitches, LOL!! I think your thread inspired mine subconsciously.

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    I hate that shit. When girls are talking really loudly in the dressing room about something and you join in the conversation and all of a sudden it becomes "BITCH YOU DON'T KNOW ME!" Well maybe if your conversation is so "private" you should take it outside of the communal dressing room or at least lower your voice. If there are three of you in the room, all sitting in a row, and two are talking loudly to each other how are you butting in on their business by trying to join the conversation? They are the one's publicly "airing" their business. Some girls seriously lack social skills. They need to grow up.
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    Ugh. This is why we need this forum. We can't talk to people at work. Don't be upset about it sweety. Just keep going to work, keeping to yourself and making your money. It's stressful enough without having to deal with mean bitches in the dressing room

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    I wish there was a way for all of us to hook up for a month or so and just work a club ourselves... "The Club de Stripperweb!" In an effort to bring you, the cutomer, our most drama-free entertainment ever!
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    there's an idea! lol
    i am naturally a friendly person and after a couple drinks i tend to talk to pretty much anyone sometimes. i think most ppl think i am a suck-up or something but im not!
    i try not to talk to dancers too much these days, a lot of the girls where i am at now dont like me but i dont particularly care for them either.
    i have found that for the most part girls dont like new girls and they are not nice to them! i wouldnt worry about it....you can tell when people are nice and dont mind being friendly, they might make eye contact and smile or something-i will talk to those girls but if i am in the dressing room and whatever girls that are in there are all ignoring me and dont say hello or anything, i just get ready and get to work.
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    ^ I'm exactly the same way. Even without drinking. All I have to do is say something... even "hi" and girls are just.... UGH! SO unfriendly. It happened today. I was thinking... why are some people IN this business if they're so antisocial?? Geez. Like, being rude to a girl is gonna up your cash? Nope.
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