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    A customer of mine couldn't pay me the other night. His friend was wasted and spent all the money given to him to hold. This custy isn't the brightest bulb. He just moved to Austin and was waiting for his ATM card in the mail. He paid me everything in his pocket. I guess I could have made his friend give me the money but he's a jerk-off and probably wouldn't have given it anyway.

    He owes me about $140 ($120 and I'm tacking on $20 for interest). I have been calling him all week for it with no response. Today I left a kind of threatening message. I've partied at his house before, so the threat mentioned knowing where he lives, etc. Stupid, right?

    I just heard back. He's in his home town, his mom is in the hospital. It could be a totally made up story to get out of paying me, but I'm inclined to believe it since he knows I can find him.

    I feel like such a jerk, even though he might be totally scamming me. There is no way I can know for sure, I don't know him THAT well. My suspicious mind wants to believe him, we've spent enough time together for him to pass himself off as a genuine person, but scam artists are everywhere.

    I can't really do or know anything until he gets back in town. Should I just write off the money anyway, just in case he is full of shit? That was pretty much the only money I would have made on Monday, it was a SLOOOOOOW night at the office.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    ... Should I just write off the money anyway, just in case he is full of shit?
    For now, yes. From description you've given, suspect he'll reappear and pay on his own... and as he'll likely be quite embarrassed by whole episode, he'll probably wind up spending much more on you after that! Know none of that helps right now when you need the money he already owes you but, as there's nothing constructive you can actually do about it right this moment, "wait and see" appears to be your best option for now.
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    Write it off. You've been in this biz long enough to know that the odds of getting paid in a situation like this are pretty low.

    Threatening him is just a waste of your energy that could be used in a more positive way.

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    imho,
    no you weren't an asshole,
    yes, you should write it off - for now... my guess is you will end up getting it eventually...

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    You're nicer than me by comparison. I learned from agency dancing to never accept checks or promises. "In God We Trust, All Other Pay Cash."

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    Default Re: I think I acted like an Asshole-Maybe?

    If I don't get the money inside the club or loose money inside the club... it's disappointing and frustrating however it is a write-off. Nothing really can be done about it...

    All I can say is that it is situations like this that make me thankful that it is common custom in my country to pay before-hand/up-front.


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    Hey Kat - business is business, even if he's your best friend in the world. Did he make a mistake? It would seem. Should you just shut up and let him skate? Nah - keep reminding him.....because ultimately it comes out of your pocket.

    ..........and if that doesn't work, lemme know and I'll break his freakin' knee-caps.
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    Write it off mentally too. It will cause more mental agravation than it is worth. You may want to put a 1% account on your balance sheet for bad debts just to keep your accounting straight.

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    Don't know if you caught this link on the SW home page:

    http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0902052lap1.html

    Two 18 year olds in New Mexico were arrested last Tuesday on felony charges for not payiing for dances.

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    ^^^
    , Craig Everett and Malik Wakji, both 18, were hanging out in Fantasy World's VIP room with Orchid and Carmela when the music stopped and their bill came due. And their damage for sitting through 41 consecutive songs (82 dances)? Almost $2500. Everett and Wakji, who between them could only come up with $550, explained to cops they "did not know that a new dance started with a new song." But that excuse didn't sway the cops, who hit them each with a felony charge for falsely obtaining services.
    You'd think that after the 20th or 30th song Orchid and Carmela would start to wonder just how much money these eighteen-year-old kids were carrying around...

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    Default Re: I think I acted like an Asshole-Maybe?

    Quote Originally Posted by GnBeret
    For now, yes. From description you've given, suspect he'll reappear and pay on his own... and as he'll likely be quite embarrassed by whole episode, he'll probably wind up spending much more on you after that! Know none of that helps right now when you need the money he already owes you but, as there's nothing constructive you can actually do about it right this moment, "wait and see" appears to be your best option for now.
    I'm also taking an optimistic view for once. But I believe he should have gotten in touch with you in the first day, telling you of the emergency and reassuring you that you will be repaid, and when.

    But if it's lost, its lost and not worth stewing over any more.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

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