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    I've only had 2 problems with any dancer, anywhere, forever. Both were at one club in town known for its touchy dancers (to both customers and each other). Both problems I had were for the same reason. Background - I will not waste my time with air dances. Generally I am a good customer. Or I don't go.

    Two incidents, each the same deal: dancer pushed my face between her boobs and rubbed my nose and mouth ther pretty hard against her chest. So my mouth was parted just a little bit, not opened, just rolled down a little, and my lower lip touched the dancer's chest. If anything I was trying to protect my lips from damage from my teeth. I can't help that my mouth is not as dry as a bone or that my teeth would cut the inside of my lips when squeezed that hard. The dancer thought I was trying to lick her because she felt something slightly wet. (It was not even visible.)

    First time at the tip rail. She pressed my face that way and then pointed me out to the DJ and he announced that customers cannot lick dancers. I HATE dollar bill tricks! There was no one else at the tip rail or doing dances or whatever. She soon left the stage, and it was over. I was a bit pissed off, but stayed maybe for another dancer. Just surprised and didn't try to explain anything. I really didn't care what she thought.

    Second time at year or so later, thought I'd try the club again. Some big-boobed dancer I had a few dancxes with at another city club convinced me to go in. I was willing but already knew she was paranoic about germs. After the mouth squeeze, she suddenly grabbed my head and slammed it against the wall. Said keep your tongue to yourself (odd there was no room for any tongue.) Then she started to finish the dance, downgrading it to an air dance. I abruptly said, 'this dance is over' and quickly got up and left. Good thing she moved away quickly. I would have touched her leg or something else while going by cause I wasn't stopping.

    That's the club I never go to. And it remains the same snobbish place with a different set of touchy, prissy, conceited dancers - Dream Girls, more like a Nightmare. I hate it when someone accuses me of something that is untrue. I can carry a grudge, but I control it well.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    sound like dancers sending mixed signals , that is not cool .
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    I'm sure they aren't all this way at the club, but it left me with bad memories. And emotions for a few weeks. I usually blame myself at first for everything that goes wrong in my life. On reflection I usually (eventually) correctly attribute it to the real source.
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    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    That sucks. You should have reported that. That's abusive...and if it's pissed you off...it's probably pissed off a lot of other people. Only about 1-2% of the people pissed off actually say anything...

    But, well, you're not going back, so that's the end of that.

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    Blah I got touched by a dancer once. I may have said this story in another thread. Oh well here goes. I was still in the Corps, my buddy and I went to a nude club I was sitting up at the bar nursing my beer. It was so good, I didnt get to finish it either.

    This girl is dancing on stage, for the most part my head is down. Not wanting to show that I want to give her anything right away. Well she squats down in front of me and starts rubbing her self. Which I look away, trying to give the hint I'm not interested in her. Then she pulls out her garter. I look up at her like shes insane.

    "What the fuck do you want?" I said.

    "What is owed to me." she says.

    "Go fuck yourself, I didnt wave any money at you. Nor did I look at you."

    At this point she slaps me, didnt phase me. I started to get up. Then she punches me, 90 lb stripper hitting 200lb me doesnt equal my cheek even moving. I look at her like shes insane again. She stands up and kicks the shit out of my face. I'm not happy now.

    Some of you may not like what you are about to hear. I don't care. You don't start slapping, then hitting, then kicking someone in the face and expect nothing in return.

    I grab her ankle and jerk her off the bar. I got the death grip on her arm and I look at her with my nose about 1/8th of inch from hers and say, "Dont you ever fucking touch me again." Then I let her go. She runs off. My buddy who has already realized whats going down. Starts looking for a path to the door. He knows as well as I do, that you cant win againsnt a dancer in her club.

    We start to make our way to the exit, another dancer grabs my arm from behind and says "Hey.". I quickly turn around. And give her my look of death. She dropped my arm quickly. At the door there are about 5 bouncers, not your normal run of the mill. These are big pacific islanders. They all weigh 350lbs with heights ranging from 5' to 7'. We back down.

    To end this story quickly I got thrown down a flight of steps, broke their glass door, they called the police on me for breaking their door. I called the police for their dancer. We agreed to mutually drop the charges and they would take care of the door.

    Thats the only incident I have ever had at any club though.

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    Wow TJ. Sheesh. My worst experience o far is a 3-way tie. I had one girl who everytime she would come and try to hustle me would run her hands up my shirt and bra. Made me a little more than uncomfy, especially when she propositioned me in the lap dance booth.

    2nd and 3rd place go to 2 dancers who usually partner up. I bought a dance from each separately. They both did the face in the boobs thing which I'm not a big fan of; and then they both proceeded try to try make me eat them out through their thongs. No thanks, you'd have to buy me dinner first.
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    hmmm...i think the best thing to prevent this from happening again is to just tell the girl you dont want her to put her chest in your face or to be very gentle when she does. problem solved. another dancer i knew had a reg who only liked air dances and payed very well for them- he told her that a girl being up close and standing over him made him feel intimidated, so no one here is alone on this one.
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    though i do think the girls got a bit crazy on ya- usually a gentle 'that's not allowed' is best for a 1st warning.
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    Maybe it might help to understand that alot of customer do intentionaly lick or touch us in improper ways. Sometimes even going as far as holding us down and sexualy assualting us so if a dancer over reacts to a mistake try to remeber that they ALL say it was an accident.

    Hey TJandDani, what club did that happen in ? Those are the kind of bouncers I want watching my back for sure !

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    Wow! Nasty! That's a reason not to sit at the stage or tip rail unless you're ready to tip the dancer. I just knew that I do that for some vague reason. Also generally I avoid liquored clubs too.

    Would have been better to just get up right away and walk out. Even if she hit you. We all pay taxes for police protection. Could have even been a profitable lawsuit.

    I have never gone to management about any dispute I've had in a club, save one. That was about some drunken female DJ loudly slandering someone I cared about. Of course nothing helpful happened there. That's another club I rarely go to anymore. I've learned a few things. I guess my experiences have been pretty tame altogether.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LionHeart
    Hey TJandDani, what club did that happen in ? Those are the kind of bouncers I
    want watching my back for sure !
    I'd rather not say, but its on Oahu.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LionHeart
    Maybe it might help to understand that alot of customer do intentionaly lick or touch us in improper ways....so if a dancer over reacts to a mistake try to remeber that they ALL say it was an accident.
    Yes. I knew the licking thing at the time too. You see, I was the person being held down. Thought it would be better not to fight her grasp; guess that was wrong.

    But my face was completely held between her boobs, pressed nose and lips inward, trying to protect my (musician's) embouchure from my own teeth. Only time I lick (which is for her, not me) is when a dancer I like already offers me her tit at my face and it seems clean. I remember in both cases I said I was not licking and that she rolled out my bottom lip. No apologies. No return visits either.

    I see one of them is starting to dance again at another club; wonder if she's still so touchy? You know, some dancers just should NOT dance. Desperation does not make a job fit anyone.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Maybe I am just dumb but what is Oahu ?

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    Thankyou Jay

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    Well, there you see it. Not too many people care about good customers, just their money.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer
    Well, there you see it. Not too many people care about good customers, just their money.
    Isn't a good customer "good" because of their money?

    Sorry to hear about your bad expierences. I work in a no contact club, so there is no room for misunderstading on these points. I also think that the dancers have to be a lot more friendly and personalble in a no contact club in order to make a living. Bitchy attitudes w/o contact leave nothing enjoyable for the customer.


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    Well....no....not from a dancer I'd want to see again.

    I think the service is quite a bit more personal than it is in a dollar discount store. Even moreso than in a restaurant. At least that is my goal for going to a club. Of course I am just a customer. Maybe that is my point.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LionHeart
    Maybe it might help to understand that alot of customer do intentionaly lick or touch us in improper ways. Sometimes even going as far as holding us down and sexualy assualting us so if a dancer over reacts to a mistake try to remeber that they ALL say it was an accident.

    Hey TJandDani, what club did that happen in ? Those are the kind of bouncers I want watching my back for sure !
    Let see... a dancer attacks TJ... TJ self-defends and begins exiting the club peacefully... a couple of bouncers decide to pick a fight.

    Sounds like a good way for a club to get burned down to me.

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    The club I go to is all nude. Rules, only single leg straddles, guys can touch anywhere but around front and butt. Girls can obviously amend those rules stricter. No sucking or kissing but over the past year or so I have had at least 10 of the dancers kiss me both in the private dance area, while sitting at a table and while sitting at the bar. I mean full blown tongue slipping passionate kisses. Last week a girl I never met walked up to me at the bar ran her finger lightly across my bottom lip, kissed me with tongue, then wiped the lipstick off my lips, smiled, touched the tip of her nose to the tip of my nose and walked away. I never saw or talked to her again but I have not been back since. The bartender (female)smiled at the whole thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TJAndDani
    This girl is dancing on stage, for the most part my head is down. Not wanting to show that I want to give her anything right away. Well she squats down in front of me and starts rubbing her self. Which I look away, trying to give the hint I'm not interested in her. Then she pulls out her garter. I look up at her like shes insane.
    If a customer is sitting at the stage aka. tipping rail ..they should tip. If you don't like the dancer and don't want to part with you one dollar...then just move off the stage seats.

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    TJandDani- I am appaled at your story. It's like hello, don't sit at the tip rail if you're not tipping. You are both in the wrong, but you are way more in the wrong.
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    Threlayer - I get what you are saying, but again, if you dislike being touched for your tip, you can nicely let the dancer know. She really won't mind. But if you have multiple stories of dancers thinking that you are licking them, and presumably they are not doing this with every single customer down the line, maybe you do need to watch your tongue a little? That being said, again, I get being annoyed because someone licks you. But when you, without saying anything, shove someone's face between your breasts, it's kind of weird to be shocked and appalled to the point of violence.

    TJ - I have never, never kicked anyone in the face. That is terrible. But, I would think that if you were really interested in diffusing the conflict (the way you make it sound) you could have gotten up after the first incident (the slap) instead of waiting for it to give you an excuse to essentially hit a girl (as you said - 200 lb you, 90 lb dancer. If you know you are going to lose it at some point, why sit around waiting for that point?) or (and this is exciting) you could have tried not being such an asshole in the first place. Why would you sit at a tip rail and treat a woman like that? If a guy sits at my tip rail, I ASSUME it is because he is watching my show and wants to tip me, and there are some place in which tipping is more customary than others (as I'm sure you know perfectly well).
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    UHM-- I agree with the "if you sit at the tip rail--TIP!" It is too bad the situation escilated as it did BUT Wouldn't it have saved all parties involved if you just gave the gal a dollar, ('come on one dollar?) and left; and made a mental note to self to avoid her from then on? It seems like this could have been handled better. One dollar buys you a peaceful experience, you both learn to avoid one another and peace is retained. Seems kinda crazy if you ask me, that this went soooo bizerk???
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    I've had problems like that happen from this new chick. She was giving me this dance, and grinding super hard, I had to remind her I didn't have a penis, so then she starts grinding my legs, and she got close to my hand, so I moved it out of the way. She noticed my movement, and gives this little squeek of indignation, I lookat my friend like wtf, and he's chuckeling. I don't even want to imagine what would have happend if I hadn't moved my hand. I didn't have any more dances bought from her, thats for sure!
    I also do not like it when dancers beat the hell outa me with their boobs(especially if their fake, those things are heavy, pretty, but way to heavy to do a face slap). A gentle face caress is always appreciated, but leave some room for air.
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    100 % agreed with Jenny. Do not sit at a girls tip rail if you do not plan on tipping. If you are sitting at the general bar area where there is only one stage... then i agree that the customer should not HAVE to tip... but I do not agree in cursing at the dancer when you do not want to tip. If anything, you calmly say no... and if the situation seems like it will escalate you get away from the stage. The way my old club was set up... the bar was packed around two stages where you could not really leave your seat without losing it... but it was not an actual "tip rail"... but i have seen how the tip rails work. That situation seemed so much more complicated then it actually had to be... especially since it was between adults. And in no way am i defending the dancer...both in the wrong in my opinion.

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