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    Sad Remaining Anonymous in Porn

    (I wasn't sure where to post this, but since it pertains to "other work", I figured this was the best place.)

    sigh...

    In the past I have done porn...and I'm not too proud of it, and it is DEFINITELY something that I can't admit to (for various reasons) although I am now comfortable enough with my past to be honest and tell the truth, but I'm constantly either having to tell my business upfront before I really know someone to give them a "heads up" or they find out through other means and I end up looking like liar or a hoe.

    To the ladies in the biz...what are some of the things you do to remain anonymous? I change my look quite often but the biggest argument for people to make is my tattoo on my lower back, albeit faded, and my nipple ring. I was thinking of taking out my piercing, or at least getting a clear ring and getting a cover-up over my tattoo...any other suggestions?

    I have gotten out of b/g and I have no problem admitting to shooting (and loving to shoot) g/g...and so I guess it's too late to take preventative measures but I guess I'm trying to do damage control?

    Should I hire a lawyer to tie up the work I did? By now I feel it's impossible to be contained and it's been 8 months since the shoot and people are STILL talking about it....(I guess I was good lol )

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    Is that you in the avator? Because if it is, you are a very unique looking lady, and merely removing your nipple piercing is not going to 'disguise' you.

    Who did you do the shoot with? A big-timer like seymorre butts or QMOV, or some small production co without the $$ to distributee your films? If it's a small production co they may be lost over time. If it is a bigger one, or if they are sold to a larger distributor (very common), then you run the risk of a bigger audience.

    You mention that it's 18 months from the shoot and people are still talking about it. What do you mean by this? Who are the 'people' and how did they know about the shoot? How do you know they are 'talking'? Did you tell them about it yourself?

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    not speaking from experience here, but I think a simple "no, thats not me, although she does seem to resemble me closely" will work 99% of the time.

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    I agree with the last post. While you are a unique-looking woman, I would just say it isn't you. Deny, deny, deny! However, I am curious to know who these people are and how they know, etc. I mean, with all the porn out there, I think it would be hard to pinpoint any one specific person...






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    I deny but it always comes back to my tattooo...no I tell no one people are like (either to my face or to my friends) oh my god I saw miamichick in a porno and blah blah and I know it's her because of the tattoo....yeah it is me in the pics and I still change my hair and makeup and that's why I want to get my tattoo redone...it was with the bangbus company (one of the top producers nowadays)
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    It has ruined about 4 of my relationships... But I only did it because there was a death in the family and I had to pay hospital, and final bills, and rent...
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    I'd also recommend having relationships with people who are OK with the fact that you've been in porn. For one thing, such people are also more mellow in general -- and less likely to leave you for random stupid reasons!

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    Once that's out there, it stays out there. Especially on the internet.

    It's hard to find guys that are okay with a chick doing porn, but some guys take it in the opposite direction and seek out "porn chicks".

    Get that tattoo removed.
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    Oh God that sucks.

    I'd say get the tat removed. But if your circle of friends already knows, then unless you move out of state or something people will keep on telling more and more people.

    I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

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    if the reason you stated is really why you did the porn, then anyone who would dump you over it is a huge asshole and not worth your time.

    bangbus eh? ive seen their stuff, they seem pretty raunchy. are they nicer to work witht han it looks, or are they that crass and crude in real life?

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    well i didnt do bangbus...i did one of their other sites...being that I know the industry well I got to choose who I wanted to work with, which was a friend of mine and it went pretty well! But yeah I am going to get a new tattoo covering my old one so people don't have that to fall back on...

    I agree people are assholes, but I can't blame them for wanting someone more "traditional"...thank you guys for the advice!
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    If a boyfriend can't leave your past in the past, then he should be history. How many crazy things have you done that people don't know about, that are alot worse than a boy/girl filmed by someone. I know the Bang Bros and how much they pay. It's not much but for whatever reason you worked for them it your own.... Don't sweat it so much, we all do crazy thins while we are young.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miamichick
    Should I hire a lawyer to tie up the work I did?
    That's interesting...what might a lawyer be able to do for you here? Are you looking to have the standard distribution halted?

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    It's not as if you didn't understand that your appearance would become publicly available. You agreed to it and profited by it. And now you don't like thge other price you paid for that. We've all done regrettable, embarassing things as kids. Better to have covered up the tattoo or other identifiers before you made the porn tape. This concept may help some others with that idea. Easier to disguise youself before you rob a bank than afterwards. Just a simile here.

    You could always deny and then ask if they really subscribe to internet porn sites with a disapproving look. That will stop some from probing further.

    About the tattoo, you could have some of it laser-removed and rework the remainder into something very new - color etc. Less easy for us arty types to figure out.

    However if that doesn't work.... If the porn looks like from an amateur maybe you could say you sold a tape/license you and your guy made to raise cash for a burial/funeral and huge med expenses.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Batman
    If a boyfriend can't leave your past in the past, then he should be history. How many crazy things have you done that people don't know about, that are alot worse than a boy/girl filmed by someone. I know the Bang Bros and how much they pay. It's not much but for whatever reason you worked for them it your own.... Don't sweat it so much, we all do crazy thins while we are young.
    well actually bangbus pays well...it's not like i was gonna risk my reputation for nothing, but that's neither here nor there. at this point i dont know what a lawyer could do because the tape is out but yes it would be nice to see it halted since even after all this time people are still asking me about it. I'm getting my tattoo covered up in a few weeks so I'm excited about that.

    as far as preventative measures, I actually have another tattoo that I successfully covered but I believed the makeup on my one tattoo rubbed off

    it just annoys me that people would actually bring up the tape in regular conversation like that's something i want to talk about! but i guess it is public and for everyone to watch
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    A friend of mine worked with an former porn actress in the Navy, so if girls who did porn are good enough to defend America, no one should make you feel like a bad person for making money off of what God gave you. I don't expect all the males of the world to give up porn anytime soon, and someone's gotta make it.....
    BTW, many famous men have been proud of their women having fame in the erotic arts. Richard Belzer (actor) married a porn star, so did Jonathan Davis of the band Korn and there's more but you get the point. Any guy who has an issue with this part of your past needs to poke his eyes out for being a hypocrite.
    PS The way the porn industry is now, this tape will be long-forgotten in a few years.

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    i was just gonna say could you have your tattoo modified some how, with out getting it removed?


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    Any guy who has an issue with this part of your past needs to poke his eyes out for being a hypocrite.
    Truth.

    PS The way the porn industry is now, this tape will be long-forgotten in a few years.
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    It's too late to lie. But that city is big enough that you can find people who don't mind you did porn. I wouldn't go through all of that tattoo removal either because if I saw someone I knew in a flick the last thing I would notice is some tattoo. A lower back tattoo, what are these people actually making you show them your lower back, mid-convo? WTF? Clear the air like, yes I did and find people who don't care. If someone was acting all entitled, interrupting my conversation to ask me about some old tape, I would roll my eyes at them hard and keep on.

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    I've done porn too....fortunately, the DVD was released in Japan, on a small time label. SO I highly doubt anyone I know will see it. It was something along the lines of, "American Girls nest door." I had pigtails, brunette hair, and did facials. Uuugh.
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    Did you make good money??? How did you get in??

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    I think it would be almost impossible to remain anonymous. One of my close friends dated Tawny Roberts before she went by that name for a few years and even though she goes by her porn name now, it's not hard to find her real name these days with the internet. If you want to be anonymous, you will always wonder who knows.

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    I have done a good bit of film work myself, and although I no longer partake, I do not hide it. I suggest telling whomever you are dating about your past upfront. I have lost several guys this way, but it is better then getting involved with someone, falling for them, and then getting your heart broken because they can't respect the choices you made in the past.

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    I did two bangbros sites and didn't bother to think through disguising myself. I have a very unique look. It's impossible that anyone would just happen to look like me, including my tattoo.

    I wish I'd worn a wig or something now.

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    I'd say there isn't much to do about it now...

    But I do know it is possible to buy your episode from the production company. It's pricey but if you care that much, it can be done.



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