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    Default Ever refuse to dance for a custy??

    Have any of you refused to dance for a custy even if he kept insisting? Can you get fired for that? I have a couple of times because the custy is touchy, smelly or just plain disgusting. Especially cheap men that just want one dance for 10 bucks. I also partucularly don't like doing dances in the open, it makes me feel weird.

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    Default Re: Ever refuse to dance for a custy??

    Never refused to start a dance, but I've certainly walked out on a custy. If they're too grabby and won't stop after I politely tell them to, I'll grab my cash and walk out in the middle of the song.

    Actually did this last Friday. OOOOLLLLDDDD drunk man...I had just started removing my bottoms and he leaned in and planted a kiss right on my ass. I teasingly told him "sweetie, you can't do that, you silly man"...and began removing my bottoms again. When I had lowered them to my ankles, he grabbed my by the hips and pulled me towards him and kissed my ass again. I said "aw hell no, I ain't dealing with this" and grabbed my money and walked out. UGH! I'm no prude, but when he grabbed my hips like that, nope, sorry. I'm done.

    At my club, you don't get in trouble or fined or anything. If anything, it's up to you if the guy gets kicked out. I usually just tell the bouncer to approach the guy and inform him he's not allowed to behave in that manner. Only time I got a guy kicked out was when he tried to recruit me to work for his escort service. I just thought that was tacky, trying to recruit in the club.

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    Default Re: Ever refuse to dance for a custy??

    Have you ever refused a dance from someone you know, like an ex who things aren't friendly with and they're trying to piss u off?I always wonder how id deal with something like that

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    i used to refuse to dance for the guy if i got a creepy vibe off of him, now i'll start the dance but just like Abagail I will walk out. I give one warning, and that is given before the dance starts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by siliconedoll
    Have you ever refused a dance from someone you know, like an ex who things aren't friendly with and they're trying to piss u off?I always wonder how id deal with something like that

    the only time i've seen an ex in the club he ran the other way in fear(the guy was a freak and knew i was pissed still about things that had happened. he quickly left the club b/c i told my friends about what he did and they would laugh at him whenever they passed him.) yes it was mean, but he was broke and just lookin for some free sex.

    when i was working up in Flint, my boyfriend's friends would come in to see me and they got a few dances. that was awkward, but i never turned them down b/c it was hard to get dances at that club and i needed all the money i could get. What's strange is one of those friends is over at my house right now putting new siding on...sorta strange knowing that he's seen me naked.
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    i have refused to do dances many a time..

    if you dont feel comfortable then why shouldnt you be able to refuse to do it..

    it is your body after all

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    I'm the kind of person that goes on gut feeling and a few times something didn't feel right about the customer that wanted a dance from me.... it later turned out he was vice. If I don't want to dance for someone I politely tell them that someone is already waiting for me... and then send another dancer over if he would like.

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    My ex has come into a club I worked at, but it was a bikini club, so it didnt matter. But we did get back together.

    One custy I refused to dance for had ben harassing me all night. I got he WORST vibe from him although he was at my stage all night tipping me (I was fairly sure he'd been drinking). Finally, I broke down and said, "Ok, I'll dance for you, but you try anything, I'll kick your ass". He even paid me $100 for 3 nudes (they were $30 each) up front before I even started dancing, which was not necessary. Halfway through the first dance was ok, but then the second half he was grabby and becoming increasingly difficult. So I told him that was it. He begged for me to keep dancing for him. He had a wallet full of cash, but I just couldnt'. His friends even begged me, but I told them that I had given him a chance already. It would have been SO tiring to dance for him.
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    Default Re: Ever refuse to dance for a custy??

    haha i havent done this yet.

    (ive walked out of dances though)

    but i cant imagine it to be too hard?
    id jkust say "no thanks" or "im busy" or "get in line" (and then never come back!) or "i dont feel like dancing right now, sorry" actually, wait.. i think i have done this...

    cant see why you would get fired, just recommend another girl to do it!

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    I've never dated the kind of guy who would do something so stupid as to come into my work to annoy me And no I wouldn't dance for him. I'd ignore him.

    I have refused many dances with guy who: 1) are creepy 2) start grabbing/rubbing on me the second I walk up 3) stink or have yuck mouth 4) get too aggressive during the dance - I walk out 5) otherwise display a shitty attitude. I either ignore them / pretend I didn't notice them or just flat refuse depending on the level of asshole they're being - but generally I'll just say I'm busy.

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    if i dont like them or dont want to dance for them. i say i have to go onstage soon or make an excuse like i have someone waiting or need to freshen up in the dressing room and never return.

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    I refuse dances ALL THE TIME and have NEVER gotten in trouble for it.

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    one of the reasons this is my favorite job ever, i can say no to whoever the hell i want.

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    I refuse to dance for creepy guys... or guys that other girls have warned about... the grabby ones, etc...
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    I cant really refuse a show (I think I might get in trouble) so I just take it and I know they will try something or get stupid/grabby I will stop it right then and there and tell them to leave - or else!
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    Yes, he wanted to do a shot with me, and we got to talking about how he was moving to another, "better" neighborhood--one without "all these n-words". He dropped it like 3 times before I could close my gaping mouth. What th--??
    I told him that I don't appreciate people saying that around me, and he smirked nastily and asked, "Why, do you have a lot of black men in your family?"

    I told him he was a d*ck, and that I wasn't going to waste my time with him. As I got up, he was shocked,

    "What, we're done here?"
    Absolutely.
    "It was the racism, wasn't it?"
    Ya think?? I told him, "Yeah, I guess the shaved head should have clued me in."

    He came up to me later and apologized. Whatever. He's actually there a few nights a week...god, such a weasely creep.

    I avoid him. I will never dance for him.

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    I try not to refuse service to anyone, BUT there are a list of thins
    dirty (I can't take a shower at work so I don't want to smell like them
    dirty talk (why take chances?)
    dirty (I will NOT give a dance to a guy if I just watched somthing fishy go on between him and another dancer
    handsy (if he does it for free, what does he expect when he pays)
    bad rep (either he's tried something with me before or I just truly believe another dancer)
    I sometimes give guys a reasonable chance (like one dance and one dance only) but there are some chances that it isn't worht the head ache, the crawling skin or that smell of B.O>
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    I've refused a couple times, like if I know the guy will try some shit or I've danced with them before and they tried it. I got in trouble for refusing to tslk to this one guy that was a perv andthe manager said that I can';t refuse a dance but instead I'm supposed to start it and then walk out if it gets out of hand. This is hard for me because I always get ythe money at the end. So then the manager gave me a lecture on gettiing the cash in the beginning. I personally would just rather not put myself in the situation and refuse. I don't know if he would fire me over it but I did get bitched at.

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    I've only refused a dance if I got really bad vibes and the security people weren't there yet (they don't start until 5pm) Otherwise I just get my money up front and walk out at the sightest bit of trouble.
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    Ive never actually refused someone a dance, but ive had someone ask me if I would dance for them and it was the last song of the night, and i had to turn them down because I was on my way back to the VIP room with someone else...I know the guy thought I was being racist but i do believe in first come first serve...
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