here's an account of my first time at a topless bar. and i have a lot of questions, so i'll apoligize in advance for the long post. but greatly appreciate any feedback.
i'm on leave from iraq, and get laid over in dallas for 2 nights before continuing my flight back. so about 9:00 sunday night, i tag along with 6 other random soldiers i don't know to this topless bar.
being my first time, i have absolutely no idea what to expect, and don't bother asking any of the other guys since i don't know them at all. i don't know the rules, tipping etiquite, just completely in the dark here.
i've had enough time to drink barely half a Corona, and this short brazilian dancer starts giving me a lapdance, just out of the blue. and she made a lot of contact, which i guess varies a lot between clubs. but i found the rules posted 2 hours later that turned out to be pretty strict. after reading some of the other threads, seems like the girls usually try to subtlely convince men to buy dances, not just jump right in w/o payment.
1) so generally, what's the motive for this type of maneuver?
i'm instantly suspicious, feeling like i'm a target to get hussled easily, being young and possibly because i'm in uniform. though i'm not going to let this interfer with having a good time before i have to come back the next day.
2)is this a valid concern? do you dancers target younger customers for any reason?
now after doing a little research, i realize how lame i was in not tipping her, though i did buy her a beer upon request. this was the trend thoughout the night. now she convinces me to pay $15 of $20 fee so she doesn't have to dance the stages, but we're not in time. so she dances the stages, but really just for me. rubbing her tits, ass, and couch ins my face. the bouncers ask if we're OK several times.
3)are these kind of stage dances for a single person normal?
4)is there a some code, like asking if we're OK, to tell the dancer she's going too far or any other message/system like that?
after we finish the 4 stages, she takes me to a somewhat isolated corner for pretty much the duration of the night. dancing for me, letting my hands and mouth go everywhere, then talking inbetween periodically while she sits in my lap. she asks if she can have my dogtags...and ends up haggling for one of them.
5)do dancers ever ask for something like this?
all this while, she also kisses me several times.
6)what's the indication here? and how common is it?
when i mention i have to return to iraq the next day, she literally starts crying. she says it's because she was there before and it wasn't a good experience. also, periodically a waitress would come to collect my lapdance fee of $20 and sell more beers. and she seems to be getting mad at them for some reason. so i pay twice, but the next time she pays the fee.
7)what would provoke her to pay the fee?
then at the end they ask for $40, which we split. so all in all i paid
75 in lapdance fees, and 45 for our beers(3 for me 4 for her), for a total of 120 for almost 3 hours of dances. but she also spent 45 of her own money.
i saw some nightly earned amounts in some other posts, and this would be an absolutely terrible earn rate for almost 3 hours even if she collected all $20 per dance.
8 )do many dancers drink on the job? what about getting hammered?
though i don't know how much she drank before i got there, but 4 beers in 3 hours isn't really anything. though she was a mere 5ft tall, so maybe alcohol had something to do with her actions.
ok, almost through. she gets off at midnight. so she tells me to meet her outside shortly after 12. i find her, and we talk for a couple minutes when a car pulls up and is apparently waiting on her. she starts crying again, but eveything i get out of her is portugese or muffled into my shoulder. then the guy gets out of the car, so we say goodbye and that was it.
9)do dancers spend a majority of the night with just one customer?
10)how often can i expect this kind of experience and reaction out of dancers?
i'm really am hoping for hustle/attempted hustle rational behind her actions, so i don't have to kick myself for not getting her number or something. and like i said, i only had a few beers, so i remember the night pretty well.
but reading other posts, i found that the you dancers are in a work/hustle mindset and would never sacrifice a night of earnings for any one customer. hell, maybe her boyfriend was somewhere else in the crowd and she was trying to make him jealous.
for those who made it all the way through this novel, thank you for reading and your feedback,


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