I've been at my club for almost two months now, and it's going reasonably well, but the honeymoon phase has fallen away. I'm starting to be more perceptive of all the shady stuff at strip clubs (yeah, duh, I know), but what I am most surprised at is how dangerous some of the other girls seem. Not all, but one dancer warned me "don't trust anyone, especially the girls" (I realize the irony of her telling me so) "they can bring you out 'partying' and you'll end up unconsciously dragged off to their pimp". Yeah, I wouldn't 'party' in any case, but as much as that seemed like an exagerration, I have seen pimps in the club. And while I'm not there to make friends, just trying to be polite/ casually social has not been met well...at first so many of them seemed genuinely friendly, and still do at times, but other times I'm met with shocking hostility. Like the other day when one of the girls who I considered especially friendly (she went out of her way to find me a locker, etc) freaked out at some girl (who's new at the club, but used to dance in Toronto) for counting her $. The toronto girl agreed it was a bad idea and apologized, but the dancer continued on to say something like "I used to be one of those girls who'd pull you out back and crack your chin to take that cash...but I won't, I like you, but word to the wise, don't count your f****** money". It was a joke I'm assuming, and yet didn't seem completely exagerrated either. And another dancer who was going on about going back to school- I just asked politely what school she went to being a student myself, and she said "none of your f-ing business". I dunno. Fine, it wasn't my business, fine I won't try to chat...I just don't know what a good balance is...I think it'll be my new strategy to just avoid the changeroom as much as possible. At the same time, it hardly feels right to be excessively aloof...but then again, maybe that would be the safest bet? Just stick to my lonesone? Damn, I don't know. Any practical tips? I like working at this club, I'm just figuring out how self-reliant I really need to be...like the whole 'trust NO one' thing isn't second nature to me. What would be the most pragmatic approach to coworker relations?
Oh, and as a sidenote, does tipping the manager when it's not common practice make it seem like I'm doing extras? Honestly? I'm not at all, and this may be paranoid-sounding, but could that be the reason for some dancer hostility? Other than that, I can't think of a single faux-pas I could be doing at work...



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Still, she didn't cause ME any problems... I was just really careful not to get dragged into her drama. Seriously, there's no good to be hand with befriending girls you work with. You never know when someone ends up being a psycho bitch.

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