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    I may start dancing soon.. (as a job not just amateurnights at 4 different clubs a month..) and my boyfriend says (and seems to be telling the truth) that he is OK with it.. since im ok with him going to the clubs with his friends.. and ive even bought him dances before.

    anyway.. I was wondering.. If I was working at a club and he came in with friends.. would I be allowed to give him a free dance? is this always a nono.. or does it depend on the club?

    also.. if he came in as a customer while i was working and i were to leave with him (since my car likes to be a shithead alot) would anyone try to arrest me for prostitution?

    or.. am I overthinking this and being too paranoid?

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    Default Re: freebies at the club?

    Ok just some advice......

    Dont let him come in with his friends,it usually ends with bad vibes.

    In many clubs,boyfriends and hubbys are not even allowed to come in.

    If you give him a lapdance,your usually still going to have to pay the house fee or cut of that dance,so while your at work,there is no such thing as a free lapdance.
    Give the hubby/boyfriend a free lapdance at home.

    some things to think about.....

    If your hanging with your hubby/boyfriend and friends,you wont be working the room,so basically,your hustle is fucked and your working for free,because you aint makin any money.

    lets say your with that group,and your hubby's friend decides he wants a lapdance from you??Do you say no???

    Best thing is to tell your boytoys to go to another club,avoid the drama,make some money,fuck um when you get home.

    SAtep off that beaten path and your asking for problems.

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    Default Re: freebies at the club?

    ^ Agreed...completely.

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    I don't know about atually being arrested for prostitution, for getting a ride home. However, you need to let management/security know well ahead of time, to avoid the stigma, or any confusion. Most places I've worked are very strict about this So please be forthcoming about yuour transportation plans with your club, as early as possible
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    I agree with BigGreen. Having your signifigant others and friends visit you at work is also very unprofessional.

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    Default Re: freebies at the club?

    It also may affect your personal relationship with seeing you flirt and hustle . The Jealousy can build up if he's watching you work, make you uncomfortable, thus affecting your money.

    If a drunk custy is disrespectful or too handsy during a dance or stage rotation and your boyfriend observes he may want to confront the customer and usually results in a fight. You would more likely get fired and he would be thrown out.

    My husband has no desire to see me working. The club stays at the club just like and our personal life is just that.

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    Another thing to consider, is how do you think your boyfriend will feel about all his friends seeing you naked, dancing on another guy's lap? Although he may say that it wouldn't bother him, when it's actually happening, especially if alcohol is involved, it can cause big problems.

    Also, if customers see you being affectionate with your boyfriend in the club, they will assume that they are allowed to do the same. If you say no to them they could get angry, or if you tell them that he is your boyfriend it could seriously damage your chances of getting any dances.

    Just like Brandi, my boyfriend doesn't watch me work. He's 110% supportive of me and totally cool about what I do, but we keep that separate from our personal life.

    Think of it this way - you're there to work, and yes it is a REAL job. Do you sit around and watch your boyfriend work? I bet you don't. Now, if your boyfriend can occasionally come in quickly just to say hello for 5 mins and not get angry/upset or distract you from your job or have a negative impact on your earnings, then hey, I don't see a problem with it. But if he's going to come in with friends, spend a lot of time there, ask for free dances, and expect you to give your attention to him... then it's just a recipe for disaster.

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    Default Re: freebies at the club?

    ah. makes sense. so one other question.. how do I ask him to stay away when i work without seeming like im hiding something? (its a small city so the next closest club is about 2 hours away) and how do I deal with people I know (mainly ex boyfriends/ sex partners/ .... whatever) coming in (or.. god forbid... my EX HUSBAND).. that could get ugly....

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    Just tell him that it is against club policy to have boyfriends/ s.o. in the club while you are working, but you would be happy to go party with him there on your night off etc.

    About seeing people you know in the club, it happens in large cities as well as small towns, it just happens faster in small towns. And if you think driving 2 hours to work out of town to get away will work, it won't.

    I have run into bosses, exes, friends from school, and my ex husband who hated strip clubs, but his friend's band was also playing there that night, so there he was and looking right at me on stage! The club was over 100 miles away from where my ex husband lives, so this does happen anyway.

    It actually made me feel pretty good to be up there dancing and having guys approach me for lap dances, all while he watched! He was abusive both physically and mentally, so I felt like "nanny nanny boo boo" to him!

    I guess my point is be prepared to see people you know in the club (I think the worst is teachers, shock wise anyway). Good luck, and make lots of $$$$


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    Oh, about the ride thing. It is pretty common for dancers to get rides home from their boyfriends/ husbands. Getting a ride does not equeal prostitution.

    I would also like to add that my husband does come in to the club when I'm working, and I will give him dances if I have time. If I don't have time I don't mind if he gets dances from another girl. When I'm at work I'm in stripper mode. If he is in there, he is in customer mode. We aren't married in our heads because we are "different" people at that point. If you can be a little schizophrenic like that it is very useful in your career as a dancer.

    I should also mention that my husband and I have a very open and non jealous relationship. He used to dance, and we have done the swinging thing as well, so we are freaks and by no means typical.


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    Yeah unfortunately seeing people you know is just something you're going to have to deal with if you become a stripper. Especially if someone from your old high school finds out, and tells everyone else, for a while you'll be a main attraction. At first I was regularly having people I used to know come in to see me. After a while, the novelty wears off. It was quite funny how many guys who never gave me the time of day in highschool would approach me in the club like we'd been best friends for years and be like "omg we should catch up for a drink!"

    If someone comes in there who makes you really uncomfortable though, you can always ask the bouncers to get them to leave. A guy from my school who had an issue with me for rejecting his offers of sex used to come into my old club and yell out my real name, what school I'd gone to, etc, while I was dancing. The bouncers would throw him out straight away.

    But yeah, the first few times that you see someone you know, it can be a little weird, but try not to let it distract you or upset you. Eventually you'll get used to it and just brush it off!

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    Also anytime a customer walks into the club it is "fair game " in the sense that every girl is in there to make money so flirting, sit on laps, ect is part of the game. There was a girl that would accually get furious when girls would walk up and sit with her boyfriend. These girls assume that he is a spending customer. She spent half the night spying on him or feeling jealous if he looked at her too much or has a leagthy conversation. Not saying that you would but it may be uncomfortable to you. Just think if all our spouses came in regularly how much our money would drop from wasted time since they are not in there usually to spend big bucks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brandi004
    ... It also may affect your personal relationship with seeing you flirt and hustle....
    Agreed. For whatever reason (illogical though it may well be) knowing it and seeing it are two entirely different things.
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