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    i left the club today (6 hour shift on saturday night) with a few bucks short of $500 and i'm crabby about it. i worked very hard for every dollar (and for once racked up a nice chunk in stage tips) but i'm still grumbling to myself that i didnt sell one VIP dance, the chaos, noise and crowds i had to put up with, and the semi-regular of mine who dicked me around and for nothing (who i ended up -- this i have never done before -- bitching out for wasting my time). i dread i have become whiny and greedy or am i not crazy in thinking that i deserve more for my labor? though its about my average anyway these days, 500 dollars is more than i make in two weeks at my day job, most my rent, and, what it seems these days, above average for jane-stripper USA. i need a little help to get my attitude back in gear....im embarassing myself right now...

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    Sounds like you may be hitting the burn-out stage. If you have money saved up a bit, why not take a nice break? Get a massage, a mani and a pedi, and a hot bath?

    I know when I'd get that way, doing the "me" weekend worked wonders.

    The thing I learned about dancing is that when I had an attitude (like you do) about dancing and money, I would start earning less and less. $500 would become $450, $375, etc. It's because you are putting out bad energy...people may not recognize it and you may think you aren't doing it...but you are...and it'll start to reflect in your income. When I'd take my break and go back to the club "fresh"...I'd usually do much better with a more steady stream of income. The "high" dollar amounts are not the same nationwide, but one of the things to look at when your income goes down, is your attitude.

    About VIP...I usually sold a VIP a night...but sometimes, I was happier bouncing around the club and doing dances, etc. Sometimes VIP is more hassle than it's worth and I would just get tired of going up there. Besides, with our tip-out rates and funny money exchanges, sometimes working VIP and making all funny money and working the floor making 98% cash was not much different.

    Take a break.

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    i made 900 one night and that being the most i have ever made in one night you would think i would have been happy.

    nah.

    i just went home, and thought geeze, i shoulda made more.

    i hate getting like that.

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    One good way to maintain perspective about dancing is to make yourself two lists ... on one side, write down average hourly earnings, management and co-worker 'drama' and customer frustration factor at your dancing job. On the other side, write down average hourly earnings, management and co-worker 'drama', and customer frustration factor (if applicable) for your straight job. You'll undoubtedly find that while the management and co-worker 'drama' factor as well as the customer frustration factor are probably twice as high for dancing as for the 'straight job', this is counterbalanced by earnings potential that is 5-10 times as high.

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    you set high expectations for yourself...nothing wrong with that

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    I don't think it is you, it is your location. San Francisco is not in the best place economy wise, and it is getting worse because of the impending real estate bubble burst, painfully high fuel prices in a comuter city with lots of SUVs, a tech industry that has be outsourced to India. Just to name a few of the troubles of your area.

    Put on top of that the fact that the city is friendly to prostitution, and very high mileage is expeted in the clubs for very little cash outlay, and it is no wonder that you are having a tough time reaching goals.

    If you were accustomed to making quite a bit more for your efforts and are not doing it anymore, your attitude and frustration seems justified. Unfortunately, it does nothing to help you make more money.

    Maybe a trip to Vegas for a few weeks of dancing might help you feel better and earn lots more $$$$.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    I agree with Paris. I change of venue will enlighten you. Maybe you will view money in a different way. I feel like you do sometimes. The other day I was close to 400 but went home with 390.

    I use: (I say these out loud to myself)
    "Well no other job will let me earn this much in a day"
    "500 is better than nothing"
    "I could have had a really bad night - but didnt"
    "Im this much closer to boobs/rent/new thing"

    Sometimes the above affirmations help humble myself from getting to hot n bothered that I didnt do that extra money.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
    -Kenpachi



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    What I wouldn't give to make 500 dollars in a night. I'm down in Austin, and I have NEVER made 500 dollars in a shift.
    "This above all: to thine own self be true."

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    When things are good in SF, they're REALLY good. When they're bad, they're worse than bad everywhere else. I've been MIA on the SF scene. Try Vegas, maybe. Keep in mind, darling that $500 without going upstairs is damn good!! Or just remember what it was like to work an 8 hour shift, make less than half of that or not even make your house fee. It's very humbling to look around you, see tears in the eyes of the girl behind you because it's the 5th shift in a row she hasn't even made the minimum and then happily make your payout AND leave with $500.

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    Keep in mind that a "semi regular" customer doesn't owe you anything. No one is going to spend money on a dancer who is crabby and demanding. Some nights guys have more to give us than others. Cussing the guy out cost you his future business, didn't it? I have regular guys who may spend $100-$200 some nights and others only buy 2-3 dances. They still come and see me, and I appreciate EVERY dance a customer regularly buys from me, because he could have spent that money on another dancer, right?

    Weekend crowds are more comprised of younger customers. They aren't able to spend as much in the club and being younger are not at the point in their lives of "paying for company". The VIP room isn't for them.

    Plus, you said $500 is what you bring home in 2 weeks at your day job. If you were a customer, how much of that would you be able to spend at a strip club? Everyone doesn't have hundred dollar bills to blow on girls who just see them as walking money. If you didn't dance, you would see money differently too.

    I only made $200 on Saturday and $1300 for the entire week. It was a slow week and the clientele who spends more wasn't there. The week before I made $1000 more than that. Thats just the way it goes in this business. Everyone is not a VIP customer.

    Do you complain and bitch out customers at your $250 a week job? Dancing is doing well for you compared to that, right? You made as much in one measly 6 hour shift, as you made in two weeks at a mainstream job. You should be thankful that you have the looks and ability to be in this business, shouldn't you.

    More girls need to treat dancing as a career instead of quick money. You are dealing with a variety of customers and a lot of competition for dance sales.

    Work on understanding people and treating them as you would like to be treated, and you will be fine.

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    thanks guys for all your responses, i think you were all pretty much right. i think my resentment had a LOT more to do with the actual night i had rather than the money. it was a crowded saturday night with tons of people, lots of noise, several of those STUPID bachelor party shows, people leading me on, nobody spending very much and not even a cute boy to flirt with. oy vey. i think i just felt like i SHOULD have had more for having to put up with all that! yeah, i made 500 with probably a $100 pay/tip out....thats a hell of a lot of $20 lapdances.

    i did take the next saturday off and it was nice. sometimes to get my spirits back up i go out to a strip club for fun and chat with girls and spend money. usually i end up scoping out the guys in there as if im in work mode thinking "man! so much money to be made here!" its like being at work without the pressure.

    oh tina, im not always that horrible. i mean, im no follower of the capitalist-slave-mantra "the customer is always right", but i do strive to be decent and friendly to everyone (and indifferent or cheeky to the jerks) if not just because its easier. this one guy just got under my skin the wrong way -- the irony of the situation is that i think he actually LIKED it, doubtless he'll be back to rectify the situation. i've got to refine my "bitchy stripper" sell when the situation calls for it. haaah.

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    Okay whoa, I would be happy as a clam if I made 500$ a night. I don't think anyone around here sees that kind of cash consistently even one night a week.

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