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    Miss. Kristina Lee
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    I dont know if this belongs here or not.

    Im just frustrated a sall hell at "friends" who only call when they need help with money or favors. i guess since im a stripper and i have money im the best person to run to for help.

    fucking rude.

    anyone else have similer problems?

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    heard a lot of story about a girl helping her "friend" with money issues, lending out money, paying their bills, rent, food and stuff. It is understandable if the "firend" here equals a loser "boyfriend". Do you girls also lend out money to your noraml friend? I hope I could have a stripper "friend" to help me out.
    And do you call these guys your "friend" if they are just there for money? Sounds weird.

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    Well I think that can happen anyway, especially when you have a "good job". Before I left my corporate job, I had both of my sisters hitting me up for money. I've always helped everyone, friends and family. But as I've gotten older, I feel like they are taking advantage of me.

    Once my best friend asked me for like $100 I was about to give it to her then I decided to test her. I was like, "oh I ain't got it" She looked at me like I was nuts and was like, "really, why not? I thought you just got paid...Oh well, I really do need it. If you can come across it, please help me out" I was beside myself. From that moment on, I was like F%#% em' all!!!

    Since I have no children, people automatically think I've got money to burn. LMAO sorry, I spend that money on BILLS, and SCHOOL!

    Kristina, why don't you just do like me and tell them you don't have it. If they are persistant, ask them, "hey where ya man at" LOL that'll shut em up promise ya.







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    Id like to stress that this "friend" is not a boyfriend. my boyfriend is a very good Man, and would never take advantage of me.

    i did tell them no, and i told them how rude it was of them to ask me for a handout when they dont even have a job to pay it back, nor ever talk to me otherwise anymore except when they want something.
    Last edited by Miss. Kristina Lee; 09-25-2005 at 05:04 PM. Reason: wanted to add something

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    I'm going through this right now with my friend. She doesn't work (by choice), her live-in bf got fired from his main job, so he only bartends pt at a banquet hall. So, she knows that I just got a decent sum of money owed to me from my ex-job. I mentioned that I bought some chanel makeup and she says "Must be nice. I can't even pay my electric bill" Then she proceeds to 'hint' that she needs to borrow money. I just act oblivious, b/c as far as I'm concerned, she should get off her ass and get a job. Gr!






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    ^^ Thats rude of her. My gosh.

    People that know I dance (except my best friend) think that I have tons of money to go out and go shopping all the time. Rich people never got rich by twiddling away money.

    I just tell them I have a ton of bills or something. If they dont get that you are not made of money then I doubt youll will be friends for long. Its hard to be around people who think you are going to pick up the check, pay for an extra movie ticket or have money to do everything and go everywhere.

    Tell them it makes you feel uncomfortable and its flat out rude to ask someone who you think has money just b/c of their job. Tell them that if they were real friends they wouldnt put pressure on you like that.
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    i use to have the same problem but i pulled the wool from my eyes and am no longer friends with ppl like that..

    now i just got my mum borrowing money all the time.. cant really say no to my mum but at least she returns the fav and pays it back when im in need

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    Even though I am done dancing, I take $500 off the top of my salary at my job and stick it away. Because some of my ill weathered friends know my habits (they know I save, they know I prepare, they also know that I have helped out others - I had a friend who's house caught fire and I helped her out).. they seem to think that I will be there when they need money.. then of course, if I do help them out, they ditch me. This has only happened once..

    Family, I've been burned by family as well. I don't help out anyone except my daughter and of course, my husband, although, he is like me as well.. we don't live above our means, we live below them and we save first, spend last.

    But yes, had friends like that and I kicked them to the curb after I realized that all I was was a friggin ATM machine.


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    Alot of times people think that dancers are filthy rich... and that we throw our money around.
    A few years back a friend gave me some good advice.

    Tell People that you are broke!!!
    If people don't think that you have money they won't ask you for it.
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    I learned a long time ago not to "lend" out money to friends or family. It only causes problems. I have either helped out on a bill or groceries at times only when the money goes directly from me to the clerk.

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    Friends who do this are bad. Family members who do this are even worse because they get this idea in their heads that because you're family, you're obliged to help them out of a financial jam that could have been completely avoided had they exercised some budgetary restraint. Of course, when you refuse, or even try to set some terms for the loan, you're suddenly Scrooge.

    It amazes me how so many people who struggle to pay their rent or utilities always manage to have money for booze, cigarettes, and eating out 2-3 times a week.
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    When ever "friends" are in "need" & ask for money I say the most I can help out with is a $20 because I gotta pay my bills too. I NEVER expect the $20 back. Some have shocked me and actually given the moeny back when they got it. Others realized quick that I wasn't handing out anything more to them after that. It's kind of a test. The real friends will give you a $20 when they get paid or see you next. The other "friends" won't and you can soon mark them off your "friends" list!
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish
    It amazes me how so many people who struggle to pay their rent or utilities always manage to have money for booze, cigarettes, and eating out 2-3 times a week.
    How true this is!!!! My sister is a prime example of this!!! I asked her to begin making payments on a loan (small payments mind you, like $100 a month or $50 a paycheck) and she promised she would.. then she backed out.. but she always has money for booze, cigarettes and eating out.. one day, she offered to buy me lunch! I was so pissed I said, "How about making payments on the $700 you owe me?" and I got "Its just lunch.. jeeeze... and you know I can't afford to pay you back".. hmmmmm... 10 dollar lunches multiplied by 5 (2.5 a week) is $50, multiplied by another 2 weeks in the month is $100!!!!!!

    Now I hear about gas prices being the reason why she can't pay me back...

    God, I hate moochers.


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    This is one reason I dont discuss my income with anyone. If a friend or family member asks how work/money has been I tell them below average . How much money I make is my business. I found the girls that brag about their income tend to get the loan question more often.

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    Dont let anyone borrow money. Thats what banks are for. If you are broke it maybe by choice or bad luck, I dont care pick yourself up and move on. America is a great place, if you work hard. When I lived on my own before me and dani moved in together i worked 2 jobs, and then danced for private parties on friday and saturday nights. 16 hours then showering to go and dance for another 2-4 hours.

    My mother-in-law is all about borrowing money and being nosy about our finances. She doesnt work, my father-in-law left her, she burns money like crazy buying gifts for her friends and shopping at the fresh market. My sister-in-law is the same way, only she works. She asked dani last week to borrow $200, againsnt my wishes you dont talk bad about me and then want money, then when dani called to give her the cash she said she was out eating dinner with friends.

    The only friend that I have borrowed money from, i was really needing it. He did it without question, he heard me and dani talking about money so he left it for us in an envelope. So for the past two years this envelope has been passed back and forth. I throw it in his bags right before he leaves, somehow he figures out a way to slip it back to us.

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    My sister also considered me as a human ATM; finally I put an end to it when I told her that if she wanted the same income I had she should start stripping. Since then, no more problems

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