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    Angry bouncer has it out for me

    ok, here's my issue. i'm at a new club now and my bouncer nags at me- for no reason- i'm too busy working to even say 2 words to him! i'm low-maintenance, am on time and do my job- no drinking, no going home w custies, no drugs. i have some ink, yes, but its part of the package. anyways, since i walked in the door this bouncer doesnt like me. many staff ppl liked me and wanted me there, but he told me they werent hiring. tough- the manager and housemom liked me and hired me. he tends to pick on tat'd girls (he did this to another girl here). ex: when i had someone for vip, he told me there were 6 girls ahead of me. when i went back later to the other bouncer (whos nice) he looked at me funny- turns out only one girl ahead of me. this a**hole will make up dumb rules for me (and me alone) and not for the other girls. ex: one night i had on a shirt w writing on it- many other girls have this- but he told me i couldnt wear mine (nothing innapriopriate- it was cute- many girls wear dirtier ones). he told me i couldnt wear it, but not until the end of the night. so i'm like 'ok'- not making a big deal out of it and dont wear it. the next two nights when he asks for tip out, he bitches about the shirt still! so i said, 'i know, you told me the other night. i didnt wear it tonite' and he goes 'no, youre not listening to me, you cant wear it!' yeah what an ass. i swear he's just trying to get me worked up. but this is just not cool. any tips ladies?
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    Default Re: bouncer has it out for me

    Jerk, I have found that at some clubs the bouncers think they are gods gift to women and we should worship them and want them ect just a bunch of crap, but I must say that I would kill him with kindness the truth is that the manager likes you and that is all that matters, maybe you should talk to the manager and him together at the same time and let him know how he is towards you and that you don't like it and figure out what his deal is with you.

    Best of luck

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    Grr. There are few things worse than a bouncer who thinks he is the boss. They earn most of their $ from the dancers but sometimes they forget and need to be reminded.

    My tip for you is to not tip him until he starts to earn his $ from you by sending custies your way or backing you up when you have a problem custie.

    Until he starts to do his job just ignore him as much as humanly possible.

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    I agree, just ignore him as much as possible. It sounds like you are already doing that though. It might be time for a talk with the manager. I'd go to him privately and let him know what's up. You don't deserve to be hassled at work, our job is enough of a challenge as it is.
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    Tell him: SHUT UP, UR FAT.

    ....just kidding. If he really bugs u (and the managment likes u enough that they wouldn't fire u if u gave him a piece of ur mind), why don't u tell him? What ever happened to "talking about it?" or just telling him to f*** off and leave u alone the next time he screws with u.

    I remember I worked at one club and got tight with one of the managers. I stopped wanting to go on stage ('cause they'd keep me up there for like a half hour, it was ridiculous) so I ask the manager if I can stay off stage, and if I can, do I still need to tip the DJ? (SORRY TO ALL U DJs OUT THERE, BUT THE MANAGER WAS LIKE 'NO, U DON'T HAVE TO TIP THE DJ.') The DJ wasn't really my cup of tea, we never talked much, he picked all the music, no big deal. The DJ never hunted me down for his tips. But the head bouncer, (fat, obnoxious, rude) would always come up to me, "Did u tip the DJ?" "Did u tip the DJ?" and I told him I was told I didn't have to, talk to the manager, but he would still ALWAYS bug me about tipping. Never did, but one day I told him to just f*** off and leave me the hell alone. He tried to get smart and while he was still trying to talk to me, I walked out on him.
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    You know what your should do. Every time you see him in the club just look smile and say are you having a good night. Then when he starts to say somthing smart just laugh and say i hope you have a good night see ya later. I did that before to a jerk bouncer we had. Then i got a drink sent to him. He didnt know what to do. And you cant get into truoble cuz you where just trying to be nice. he he he

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    Kudos to you fro remaining professional , Toxic. I know a lot of girls who would've thrown a tantrum after the first incident. I agree with both the kill him with kindness suggestion as well as withholding his tip. I would be sweet as pie to him for a couple of weeks, if he shows no sign of dropping his 'tude, then it's time to remind him who butters his bread.

    Be super professional if you have to take it to the point of not tipping him. First, approach management about it, let them know that you beleive this guy has some issues with you and he behaves in a way that interferes with you doing your job to the best of your ability. Basicly, tell them your game plan and how you plan to fix the situation before having to let them deal with him. As you said before, he has a history of this so it's probaly not the first time someone's complained about him.

    The really hard part is remaining as calm as possible when you pull the jack ass aside and explain to him why you're not tipping him. I know most people would say not to do this, that the absence of your hand physically handing him money should make your point clear, but this will save your ass if he starts acting like a bigger jerk by spreading rumors about you or going to management with some exaggerated story about your little chat with him. It also sets a clean slate from that point on so if he does anything that would directly f*ck with your $$$ (like the VIP thing) you'll be able to give management another example of his unprofessional behavior.

    Good luck!

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