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    Default Girls I need some help. please read <3

    So I just started dancing a couple of weeks ago, & I made a mistake.

    I had a customer on a weekend who I sat with for a very long time who paid me very well, & I was a little too trusting & agreed to go on a date with him.

    We went out, had a good time, not a big deal.

    I worked tonight, we were supposed to hang out, but he ends up showing up at my club. Obviously I couldn't spend my whole night with him unless he was paying for it, & I didn't expect that, so I went about my business after talking with him for a couple of minutes.

    One of the cocktail waitresses who was highly aware of the situation took advantage & basically really pissed me off by acting as if she was an entertainer- sitting on his lap, wearing his hat, sitting in the VIP area which I GAVE HER PERMISSION TO DO, etc instead of her job.

    Anyways he basically kept buying dances & shit from other girls to piss me off throughout the night, & it really disturbed me more then anything but also messed with my head & I couldn't hustle knowing he was there.

    Has anything like this happened to you with a customer/boyfriend/etc, please give advice!!!

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    Default Re: Girls I need some help. please read <3

    Oh I had a drunk regular do that junk to me once.

    I ignored him for being an ass and actiing like he was in HS trying to make me jealous. *rolls eyes* He eventually came back over and apologized for doing that.

    Anyone who wants to make you jealous, play games with money in anyway....just think its their money and its your time. So while they are spending their money in any way they see fit youre talking to other guys making money anyways.

    Well, now you know not to date custys...some girls can profit from it often others cant. Since youre new .....see what everything is about before you make any more decsions like that. Your safety is important in this business.
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    Yep. I had a regular who did this as well.. after about twice of this bullshit, I decided that I was no longer going to have regulars, killed my belief in them basically.. this guy ended up coming around in which, after a few drinks and a handsome pay for two hours of work, I merely told him that I had others waiting and could no longer sit with him anymore unless he was going to "buy" me out of the club for the rest of the night, (meaning- he pays me a flat rate for the rest of the night to sit with him and only him)... he got the hint..

    I never, however, went out with any of my customers. Ever. I kept my contact strictly within the club walls and with my stage name only.


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    Default Re: Girls I need some help. please read <3

    Hi, I'm new and was wondering Gynger, how do you calcuate what a flat rate for the whole night would be?

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    My flat rate to buy my time for the night is based on the # of hours left in the night, then I make it $150 per hour assuming no dances. I.E. if its midnight and the guy wants me to sit with him for the rest of the night (till 2 am) its going to be $300, remember though my club has no VIP or anything so this is with us sitting on the main floor. I have some older customers who prefer this....

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    Default Re: Girls I need some help. please read <3

    you cant let customers, whether you know them on a personal basis or not, get to you...if you want to make money you have to ignore them when they act like that. maybe i'm wrong but i try to leave my feelings at the door (or id be bawling everytime someone rejected me for a dance or whatever)...Lex
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    Giving him a reaction, encourages him to make you jealous. He knows how to get to you. If it happens again go about you business, make money, keep telling him you have a customer waiting, and pay no attention to him. If he asks how you are doing tell him you are banking and having a great night (even if your not and he's driving you crazy. That gives him the point that your time costs money and you are in demand.

    Since you have seen him outside the club, this may change things. When he comes in he may start looking at you like a friend instead of respecting that you do go to work for compensation. If this happens, move on. It probably is a pattern for him, then he moves on to a new girl.

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    Why should it matter to you wether or not he's buying dances from other girls that you work with? He's a customer, not your boyfriend. You shouldn't have went out with him in the first place, but since you did you're lucky you're alive. There are a lot of crazy guys out there, my suggestion is leave him alone. Do your job and leave that life there and your "outside" life outside!

    You can't let something that petty get to you. You're there to do a job, to get paid, and to use that money for whatever reason you're working there for!

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    Default Re: Girls I need some help. please read <3

    Don't date your customers. I hope you learned your lesson. It's bad for everyone involved.

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    The club environment is a confusing place at times. It really is not as clear cut as customer and entertainer. The job entails a lack of honesty from the first encounter and yet once in a while a connection is made beyond the glitter, but from a guys perspective you just never know if your being hustled or toyed with, so when you let your gaurd down it hurts when you are confronted with the reality of the situation. It is very like high school except we're adults. Its like the girl you were hot for in school going out with you and then the next day catching her flirting with a bunch of other guys right in front of you. Messes with your head. You girls are doing a job, no doubt, you get paid for casual encounters and flirting which I think is great...but please keep it in the club unless you can tell the guy seriously that once you start dating they need to be prepared that the "in the club" fun will be over cause thats how you get paid and now that your friends or lovers or whatever you can't see taking his money for giving him some attention.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sneaky Ivy
    Hi, I'm new and was wondering Gynger, how do you calcuate what a flat rate for the whole night would be?
    It depends really.. many girls have different ways of calculating.. for me, it was what my average hourly earnings were on the night given.. so, if it was a Saturday night, I would average stage, and dances as well as how many hours were left in the night and come up with a figure. When I danced in L.A. I got bought out all the time so that I could go to a party with regulars and other girls within the club.. in that case it was higher, much much higher.Where I am currently, economically, $150- $ 300/hr depending on the customer and the day of the week. If there was any type of fetish thing involved- certain talk, foot rubs etc.. then price would be different..


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    Just ignore him and piss him off. he's obviously a prick deepdown so don't waste your time unless it's strictly buisness. Sorry this happened to you though!

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