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    I've been a regular for about a year at a pretty high-end club. Great time, wonderful girl, no false pretenses on either side.

    However, over the past month or so, while she still comes up to talk, and we do dances and VIP rooms, she's gotten a lot less, uh, energetic when it comes to the dancing. In the VIP rooms, still sort of sits on my lap, and then just talks. Don't get me wrong - we're not talking extras of any type (not really my thing); but she used to be one heckova dancer. Now, I seem to be a break...

    I actually can enjoy that atoo, but with the club in question, the cost is pretty high.

    I seem to have two options:

    1) Mention something to her - but it's hard to see how to do this ("hey, grind harder" seems a little blunt).

    2) Spend less time with her and more with some new girls, who are (as new girls often are) much more enthusiastic with the dancing.

    Yet when she dances as she did, she is simply the best LPD there.

    Any suggestions?

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    She was the best lap dancer when she was trying to get your business. Now she's taking your business for granted. Time for a new girl. She IS looking at you as a break. Talking to her will do no good, she will get resentfull even though the situation is entirely her doing. If she sees you with a few new girls she may come around but I doubt it. Unless you like things the way they are it's time for a change.
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    Being a "break" or a "home base" is fine (and can be fun) if it only involves buying a few drinks or dispensing modest tips. But it you are spending VIP size money and getting ho hum dances (at best) then you need to stop and evaluate.

    You need to think about and ultimately stand firm on your expectations. Considering that its YOUR money, your option 1 is not unreasonable, assuming youre not worried about the touchy-feely aspect of your relationship with the dancer in question. Most likely, though, she now views you as an ATM where she has your password.

    Good luck. The nice thing is, there are lots of dancers out there who want to earn your business.

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    Dancers can be a lot like wives...when the money is flowing in why try so hard. I've been in the same position with a dancer...just throttle back on the cash, mention how hot xyz dancer is looking and start tipping them on stage...or my favorite, when your sitting with her make a point of getting up to tip another dancer on stage who is better looking and tell her you'll be back in moment. Kind of makes them remember why they are there, and they get way more enthusiastic. Lets face it your not there to pay for attention but to get your dick hard.

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    If she's not giving you a good return on investment, invest it somewhere else.

    Dancers will measure your level of satisfaction by how much money you're spending on them. If you keep spending money on them (particularly if you're expecting low maintenence in exchange), you're sending the message that everything is hunky dorey, and that there is no need to give any more effort than is neccesary.

    The only way to counteract this is to sharply decrease your spending on her, albeit not completely. The point is to give her a subtle means of knowing that she's "fallen down the mountain" so to speak, but that you're not mad at her, and that she's always eligible to climb back up again.
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    I've had the same problem. but it wasn't the dance that was the problem. it was the casaul conversation that just completely died.

    i just recently switched back to a former favorite. and the conversation is good
    and just like you she has also has stoped dancing for me. which i don't mind all that much. their are a few things i miss from her danceing for me to be sure. but i won't force her to dance for me. besides to dances have been replaced with another privledge that i've wanted for a while. i'd much rather give her a massage than have her dance for me.
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    She was the best lap dancer when she was trying to get your business. Now she's taking your business for granted. Time for a new girl. She IS looking at you as a break. Talking to her will do no good, she will get resentfull even though the situation is entirely her doing. If she sees you with a few new girls she may come around but I doubt it. Unless you like things the way they are it's time for a change.
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    Tell her "I love love this song, You have to dance for me". When that ends tell her to keep going.

    Do this every couple of songs so you have her great conversation and hot dances.

    You should'nt have to ask her but she may feel you are more into conversation lately and not want to pressure you or make you feel like she hustling.

    If you tell her to dance more often she should get the point. If not someone else will.

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