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    Default How to let go?

    I have been dodging bullets for 10 years, but I finally got tagged a couple weeks ago.

    I have developed feelings for a dancer I met a few weeks ago. Considering that she is a beautiful young woman that just turned 19 and I am umm, the opposite of that (as in not handsome, not young, etc), do any of you gentlemen have any good advice on how to let go of these feelings?

    I've never run into this problem in the past. Sure, I've had my favorite dancers who I loved getting dances with, but I was always able to keep my emotions in check and keep things purely physical. Hell, that's probably why I started going to strip clubs in the first place: they're fun places to get your rocks off without the emotional baggage.

    Some of you cagey strip club veterans may have run into a dilemma like this in your past and could perhaps share some war stories with us. The rest of you can rub salt in my wounds and make fun of me if you like.

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    Go to another club for a while and never, under absolutely any circumstances, limit yourself to only one dancer in any given club. Never!
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    Yoda is absolutely right. Variety is the perfect medicine for you. I've been at this SC visiting thing for over two years now. I've gone from a wide eyed patron who wore his feelings on his chest to.... well, I'll let others describe the current me to you. Anyways, if you vary things, even if it's just a few girls, you are doing yourself more good than you could ever imagine. Believe me when I say that the girl who gets you giddy today will easily be eclipsed by that hot new girl that you stumble upon during your next visit.


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    If she's gorgeous, 19, loves you, and wants to have sex for free OTC, don't let go this year. Maybe in 2006.

    Otherwise, when she says you, think your money. List the things you don't like about her: smoking, tattoos, deadbeat BF, unprotected sex, drug use. Tell yourself she's gangbanging her boy and his peeps. There's nothing you can do to save her.

    Never up your spending and/or frequency of visits. You're a busy man.

    Make up another dancer in another club. Say, "She's a lot like you, but she likes me more." Meaning she does more.

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    Your just experiencing biological love for her. she matchs close to your ideal mate so you are getting doped up on love drugs and beleive me they are drugs.

    if they are reinforced the drugs can last anywhere from 6 months to 2 years. give yourself some time take a vacation from the club. if you can stay away for a while the drugs will stop.

    it happens to the best of us
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    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
    Some of you cagey strip club veterans may have run into a dilemma like this in your past...
    Or present...

    Yes, a nice out of town trip can do wonders to make you realize there are indeed other fish in the sea.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    hahah, while I agree with Yoda, I disagree with Yoda.

    If the potential is there for you to develope feelings BEYOND THE SPECTRUM OF GENERAL CARE and potentially HIGHTENED CARE for one particular dancer in doing what you're doing, then you need to back off, visit another club, do whatever.

    I mean I go to my regular dive ONLY when a particular dancer is ther, the fav, not because I'm in love, or because I hope to get more than a regular dance, <not even on the menu> but because she literally is my favorite dancer, good convo, awesome looks, and amazing amazing dances. End of story. Sure if she told me she got hurt out of work, or something went wrong, I'd be concerned and hell even scared for her, but as soon as I see myself saying "Wow I really want to be with this girl" which hopefully never happens, its splitsville.

    I mean, don't get me wrong, She currently is one of my favorite people and I care about what happens to her, but going beyond is not something I want in the club. Hey, if I catch her outside and she's single and interested, all bets are off, but I aint ruining my time trying to go about it in the club.

    So to point out my disagreement with Yoda, its simple, GO TO HAVE FUN, for me its doing whats in my trip report. And I have a good time and she makes good money and I can go home in a great mood.

    I do agree with Yoda in the same respect. Variety keeps what you are going through from happening. And EVEN I may visit that soon. So many hot new dancers at this club.

    I do agree with sporty, Make no more time for this than time permits. I go when I can go. I don't schedule around other things to go. I just go. when I'm free.

    I guess it comes down to what I've always said before, if you can go into the strip club with two mindsets 1: You're gonna have a good time for $$ 2: You're gonna see naked chicks for $$
    then you're probably gonna have a great time no matter what, anything else is just going to mount up.
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    I would take a break from strip clubbing altogether for awhile. Everytime you feel the urge to go to a club, go to the gym and work out instead. Eventually, you will be so pumped up that you will be getting laid all the time and won't have the mental energy to focus on that nubile young thing that seemed so important yesterday. If that doesn't work, start drinking heavily.
    A fat chick is like a big, warm, comfortable pillow that you can also have sex with....

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    I just wait for my wife to get back in town.

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    Lunchbox with the burrrrrnnnn!
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    While you could try other dancers in hopes that this will cause your feelings to fade, it's certainly no sure thing.... I mean, lap dances are fun, but some feelings don't go away just from experiencing transitory lust for someone other than the object of your affections. It could even backfire by reminding you how much you prefer the company of the girl you have the crush on...

    Staying away from the clubs altogether for awhile would be my advice.

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    If you are like most guys this happens to, it's pretty much that she is a lovely girl and you really, really like how she makes you feel. Not only in the crotch area. I mean she pays attention to you and likes you and probably always gives you your way - or if she doesn't, she doesn't in a sassy cute way. I wonder, if you are really so much older and more homely in what else all this affection you are feeling might be based. I actually think the guys are right - I would engage with a few different dancers and, honestly, you will probably see how interchangable we really are - I mean, we're all individuals, and some of us are definitely sassier than others, but ultimately, there are a lot of pretty girls who will make you feel that way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny
    I would engage with a few different dancers and, honestly, you will probably see how interchangable we really are
    or he might find out just the opposite.

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    Yeah... but no, probably not. Seriously - a guy who obsesses over one dancer will obsess over another (which is why punk has been, so often, subject to dancers clawing each others eyes out over customers). This might partly be because of the kind of guy, but I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we are all pretty much doing the same thing to the guys. There is always another version of the girl you like (except me - I'm special. It's all the rest of y'all that are replaceable)
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    well, Im just recounting my own experience. His may be different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus

    So to point out my disagreement with Yoda, its simple, GO TO HAVE FUN, for me its doing whats in my trip report. And I have a good time and she makes good money and I can go home in a great mood.
    Dude, where did I ever say I don't go to have fun? By the way, I do have regulars in every club I go to, I just have more than one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
    I have been dodging bullets for 10 years, but I finally got tagged a couple weeks ago.
    you've been going to sc for 10 years and you don't know how deal with this problem? it's look like you may need some remedial courses in scing.
    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
    I have developed feelings for a dancer I met a few weeks ago. Considering that she is a beautiful young woman that just turned 19 and I am umm, the opposite of that (as in not handsome, not young, etc), do any of you gentlemen have any good advice on how to let go of these feelings?
    oh, i see. she's young and fresh looking with perky b-cups and with skin and buttocks as tight and smooth as the drum skin of her musician BF bongo set. i'll even bet you think she's very mature for her age. well, the first thing to realize is that you're not the first perv in a sc to lose his mind over some empty-headed high school drop-out half his age and you won't be the last.
    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
    Some of you cagey strip club veterans may have run into a dilemma like this in your past and could perhaps share some war stories with us. The rest of you can rub salt in my wounds and make fun of me if you like.
    thanks, don't mind if i do. someone pass the rock salt please. seriously, why don't you just follow this tale to it's natural conclusion. i don't know if you want to ask this stripper out for a ice cream soda or a piece of ass, but whatever it is...just get it over with. so, go ahead and get it out of your system by doing something instead of just splooging cash and creeping her out by making goo-goo eyes in the hopes that your ship is going to sail into port. who knows? she might say "no" or she might say "yes" and let you take her shopping with your credit card, but whatever happens. in the end, you'll get over her real quick.
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    Whatever you do, DON'T ask her out unless you are willing to pay her hourly rate. We really, really hate that. And if you tell her about your feelings, expect to get your savings wiped clean. Even a 19 year old chick knows what to do when she has a PL by the balls, I mean, err, his heart.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    Dude, where did I ever say I don't go to have fun? By the way, I do have regulars in every club I go to, I just have more than one.
    I apologize yoda! I disagree ONLY with the "NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES SEE ONE DANCER"

    While right, I think go to have fun takes precidence, especially if fun involves a particular dancer repetitivly. Hopefully that makes some sense :/
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    Mast: I see one dancer regularly, then another and another...In fact, there are at least a half dozen that I have been seeing regularly for four or five years. I almost never do pot-luck when I go into a strip club. Unless they've hired a new Brazilian....
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    you and your goofy brazillions.


    I think I may work more towards that, but I need a little more flow first.
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    ... ditto what the others said - i'm just a six month vet but I suggest you leave that club/girl for awhile - hopefully you have other SCs you can visit - this should be an excellent opportunity for you to find even more SC fun elsewhere.

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    I go to several clubs and have faves at each, that way I don't find myself getting too attached to any one dancer.

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    I appreciate the feedback and sentiment in this thread.

    I have decided to stop going to the club. As much as I enjoy going, everytime I see this girl, the wheels start turning, and I have a hard time enjoying myself. Talking to the other girls who I have casually befriended at the club helps, but the other girls are there to work.

    I was getting weird signals from her. You know like when a dancer walks by you and casts glances in your direction but never ask you for dances? Or when you try to make eye contact or get their attention, they suddenly act like you don't exist? When I tip her on the stage, she puts on a big fake smile, takes the dollar, loses the smile, and moves away quickly, avoiding eye contact with you for the rest of her set.

    I must be creeping her out something fierce. Ah well. I stop going to the club; problem solved.

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