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    So, i went in last night for my first time and i chickened out, I went and changed, the girls were all in there and they were snickering at me, joking and laughing and swearing about random stuff. SO i change and most of the lockers are busted but i find a good one.....and my lock breaks of course, doesnt work anyway..so i panick decide to go ask the manager, cant find him...people are looking at me like im a freak...so i went into the washroom...cried,chaged my clothes and left like a little baby. Whats wrong with me, i completely chickened out...i couldnt stop shaking...maybe this isnt for me, but i stupidly spent all this money on shoes, outfits etc...for nothing...and now im in the hole even more. I soo need the $$$.....but what am i gonna do. Im so depressed, oh and of course to top it all off, i get home and realize that my ring (that my boyfriend gave me on our 1 year) was gone..i guess fell off or what not....oh what a crappy night...anyone know what to do, i feel so depressed...oh and the club i went to was Treasures in Mississauga, Canada..thanks all!Hope noone has to ever go through what i just did!

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    oh hun

    It sounds like you had yourself really worked up before you even went in to the club.

    I remember my first night; I was so intimidated and scared. None of the girls looked at me, people were talking about me... but I stuck it out and they all warmed up and became friendly.

    What those girls did were standard "scaring-the-new-girl" tactics. I'll bet you that almost every girl on this forum can relate in some way to your experience. You really need to psych yourself up mentally before you go in. When I start at a new club, I always smile really big, say hi to all the girls, and look them in the eyes; asserting my dominant, confident attitude (even if it's at times, a facade). Of course they are going to try to scare you off; the prettier you are, the more you are viewed as a "threat." Ignore the snickering and the looks, be nice, and they'll warm up. And if they don't come around completely - who cares? You're there to make $$, not friends.

    I would find a different club and give it another try with a NEW ATTITUDE and a BIG SMILE

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    I'm sorry you had a rough night! Well, just find yourself a new club and go in and try again! Don't let one bad time stop you from doing something that you want to do! Nothing is easy in life, Get back out there and give it your best shot!! I know you can do it!

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    It sounds to me like you are too sensitive of a person to be able to do this job effectively. Or at least to be able to perform clean and sober on a regular basis. I've met really sensitive girls that thicken their skin with drugs and alcohol while at work, but it also spills over to their off time as well.

    If you can't get through the audition (and I feel this is the easiest part of becoming a dancer) then I don't know that you'd make it working on a regular basis.

    If you really want to become a dancer, you need to learn more about the business and gain more self confidence, and then go out there and try it again.


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    Give it another shot before you count yourself out of the game completely. You now have a little 'experience' under your belt about how working in a club can be. Use it to your advantage and hold your head high and try your best to tune out what others are saying around you. Perhaps they were threatened also.

    Good luck next time- don't be so hard on yourself about making a mistake.

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    AW thanks Pleasure Vctim.....i think i just went in there and got super intimidated right away. I dont know why but i chickened out, im gonna take some more time and then give it a shot...thanks to most of you for the nice comments. I mean im not a sensitive person at all, and im very comfortable with my body and mind, I just had bad luck..my lock broke..i mean honestly..what would you have done...i asked the manager to keep it for me but he didnt want to be liable for me... and here in thoronto there are NO house moms....so it was either leave all my shit to the hands of strangers..or leave so i hung out a bit had a couple of drinks and left...felt better but the place was dead and that kind of upset me.. anyway hope i try again sometime..take care all..thanks for the reassurrance of most of you.

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    When I started to dance, I faced the same exact problem. As I read, I can confirm That it's eazy to get cought, up. My first two months I was drinking everynight to do the job. Then I stoped complitelly. It's very important to know, that it's nothing wrong with what you're doing. Be proud of yourself. It helped me a lot to look up to the girls who seemed to know what they're doing, girls who are there to make the money, only. Look up on them and learn from them. They usualy do their job with a big confidence. That's what you want to achive. I can guaranteyou're gonna have fun with it.
    MIND YOUR MONEY AND YOURONE BUSSINES, you're gonna be fine.

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    But, even if it's not for you...you can always sell the outfits to other dancers.

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    i don't agree that you should just write it off b/c you are "too sensitive" or whatever. especially since u spent all that money on stuff for work, at least try to give it one more shot and make your goal to make back what you spent, if nothing else. if you feel embarrassed about going back to the same club, try another one. dont get down on yourself, just use it as a learning experience.
    i like to try to have my hair and makeup done before i get to work so that all i have to do when i get there is change clothes and get out on the floor, to avoid hearing too much negativaty in the dressing room or avoid certain girls' attitudes. dont ask the girls if its busy or dead, you dont want to have their negative attitude before you even talk to any custy's.
    one thing though, if u were "upset" that it was dead, thats not good. while you are new you might take that time to get used to the club and dancing so that you are more comfortable and confident when it is busy.
    however if you try a few more times and still get your feelings hurt by the other girls or get upset if its dead....ok hey, maybe it isnt for you. but at least you will know you tried and at hopefully you will have made back the money you already spent on clothes/shoes. but don't give up after one night! i have had experiences like that before too....you really do have to be confident and keep focused on why your there. dont expect to be best buds with everyone, just do your job and eventually you will make friends, if not like someone else said, it doesnt matter. thats not why you go to work.
    and i agree that yes, they were trying to scare you off.
    give us an update if you decide to try again and let us know how it goes! good luck!
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    i was terrified my first time dancing, so much to the point that i broke out in hives before i went ons tage the first time.

    i think the first time int he dressing room and on stage is the hardest and scariest part, by far. get over that hump and youll be fine.

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    Even an experienced dancer can have a rough time starting out at a new club. There are a lot of nice dancers...you just gotta feel them out. Don't give up on the first night. And if you're too embarassed to go back to that club, find a new one and start over. At first, just mind your own business and kinda keep to yourself...and always keep your head up

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    oh honey, every ones nervous their first time. i totally scared myself to death when a club first called me. i ended up not going and just stuck with my personal business. i dance private dances and parties. i like it so much better than the club scene. i make more money in less time. i make my own schedule and i dont have to work long grueling shifts. all the luck to you.

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    Come and try the Airport strip...the girls are nicer and its easier to make money.

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    thanks Kromeangel, what days do you suggest at the airport strip...i was actually contemplating going there too...thanks so much to all of you...i love the support system here...it truly brings tears to my eyes. I will i was thinking of going in on thursday....what do u think?...ur all the BEST...ladies ever.

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    EVERYONE gets that way the first time!!!!

    Some clubs let you "hang out" on amateur-try-out night, flirt with the custys, get comfie just hanging out in "hustle" clothes, and maybe even have a drink or two. By the time you're on stage, you feel more into the whole scene.

    Tiffany's (where I danced) wasn't very kind to newbie dancers. I visited a friend in a club back east on their "amateur" night, and the veterans were GREAT to the newbies and helped them feel right at home. (It helped that the custy/dancer ratio was great, and all the veterans were getting all the VIP dances they could handle!).

    Shop around for a club. Get your b/f to take you to a few, and find one where the girls there will help you get used to the surroundins. Go there a couple of times before you actually try out.

    Hugs! Good luck!

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    Thursdays are good,try coming in before 4:30 that way you only pay a 20 dollar freelance fee instead of 40. Also it gives you some time to relax before it gets busy.

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    Krome angel hey are saturdays okay.....because unfortunatly i work during the day till 5:30 in a boring office that pays next to nothing, but hey if i go in on thurday at like 6-7 would that be okay if i do a stage show will they take off 20 bucks or is it different at the airport strip im soo excited....will you be working there ...i have brown curly long hair and i look middleeastern with a bit of a tan...lol....hope your there and pray that the girls are cool..thanks so much let me know regarding the freelance thing...thanksssssss

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    I think they only take off ten if you do 1 stage show, saturdays are kinda weird sometimes they are super slow and other times they are jammed..its open there on sundays too.

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    oh ok cool, thanks again for your advice...hope your in on thursday, gonna go in straight after work...gotta figure out how to get there from downtown toronto i dont drive...so dont know what to do...do you know any safe drivers that are kinda cheap ..thanks again.....im getting nervous again....yaya i hope this time is betterr...oh i hope so

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    Well, my first night and only one so far was pretty good. You just need to go around and find a club that u like. I visited the club I went to a few times b4 I inquired about a job. When I went in to inquire, the DJ asked if I wanted to dance that night. I said yeah, but I had on see through thongs on. One of the girls gave me some booty shorts that matched my bra (I wore my thongs under). But if it wasnt for the other girls I met, I would have chickened out too. They were really helpful. They took me into a private room and showed me some moves. So I think you should give it a few more shots. I mean if the girls are rude then screw them cause they are only trying to scare you or are jelous. And wish me luck I go back 2morrow night. My first night was just a little trial and error (not about the $) but 2morrow I am gonna get it in. MWAH-Mia

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    Oh good luck sweetie, im starting to get used to it no, gonna start full time so wish me luck, where do u dance?..in t.o? or mississauga?..just wondering whre all the nice girls are?..havent been able to find any in the toronto area..thnaks all

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