Hey dancers out there... I am very new to this and have worked two nights so far. What an eye-opener. I'm already realizing that one of the hardest parts of being in this business is that there are so many gray areas when it comes to defining what is classy, nasty, dirty, whorish, ugly... that the dancer must define this for herself. Club rules cannot do this. They are broken all the time: bent by almost all and broken by a few. It's not always just about what is and isnt legal. I watch other dancers to see what is protocol for my club, and that "helps", but then there is how I will personally draw the lines. It is about defining for myself what kind of dancer that I will be. It's not just about creating a kind of persona that will help a dancer become unique, but also developing a persona at work that protects the real self. It's like creating an identity with limits that protect the real you inside you while you dance. That is where dancing becomes a journey of personal philosophy. I came into dancing, even after reading for hundreds of hours on this site, thinking well a dancer is a dancer and puts up with dancer issues, etc etc and here's how you handle this and that... blah blah blah... isnt that funny... blah blah Helpful yes. (No offense to SW... I LOVE IT!!) Now that I have started dancing, I realize that what I learned I only knew in theory.
A new dancer cannot anticipate all that she will be asked to do. It takes a serious inquiry, at least for me, into how i personally define what i am worth and therefore what I will put up with for free in order to sell a dance, and what I will do during a dance to make multiple sales, etc etc etc.
I made one of my first personal "mistakes" last night. (BTW, this has to do with my PERSONAL limits, and what may be a mistake for me may not phase another dancer.) I danced for a guy, was butt naked, and then he asked me to sit on his lap. I just plopped down on his knee (no, not facing him, just sitting on one leg, not straddling it.). For free. My pu$$y was on his knee. Eww. I came home and thought later... crap... Why should he get that privilege for free? In my mind, that is more of a VIP experience. Why in my right mind would i sit on anyone's lap and expose my nether regions to contact with ANY part of his body FOR FREE. I feel like it made me look like i was in a brothel... like he was getting a VIP experience in public. I really want to look like and be a clean dancer. I'm thinking of politely and quickly dressing, or at least putting my thong back on and then sitting or tell them that i'd love to have a seat on his lap and chat fully nude, but that I consider it more of a VIP experience so how about we move to the VIP room or tip me a $10 for the privilege for three songs (a set).
I have also decided that the only situation on the job in which I will drink alcohol is limit two in the champagne room. I made this decision before my first night so was not caught off guard. YAY!
Also, if drugs ever come out in the VIP room, the fantasy is over immediately, and I will grab my clothes, step outside of the curtain, and call a manager. I do not want to be associated with drugs. Yes, those things come into strip clubs. Yes people do them and good for them if they enjoy them. But I want to be prepared for when and if drugs do come out in front of me instead of acting naively in the moment and regretting that I was not prepared for it to handle it properly.
Those are some of mine...
So my question... can you ladies respond with some examples of personal limits that you have set for yourself as a dancer so that you do not become one of those "nasty" etc girls? Or what limits you set so that you can return home and not have such a hard time coming down off of the alterior world that we work in? What limits have you set so that you remain classy? I know this is probably sounds like a nutty question, but I am really struggling with defining the kind of stripper that I will be that will not make me resent the wad of money that is sitting on my desk when i wake up in the morning.
And yes, I still love dancing, even though I'm getting my reality check. I"m learning so much about myself. That's the hard part. "dancing" is easy.
Thanks, girls. Please help me with some examples?




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The most I will do is what is referred to as a masturbation show.. however I will not put anything (including my own fingers) up my pussy in public. I will touch it... rub the clit a little bit in the masturbation shows.. that's it. (It's all an act/performance) My personal preference is straight strip shows where I just go full nude (no masturbation just implied).


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