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    Okay I need some opinions from customers here. I took last week off from work and when I returned this week for some reason the other girls are now sitting on custys laps when they talk to them. I've never been comfortable doing that, on top of the fact I'm a big girl (5'9 barefoot and not rib sticking out skinny) and I'd feel pretty stupid sitting on the lap of a customer thats smaller than me. We have also gotten a lot more girls working so I know I need to turn up my hustle a bit.

    Heres my question for you. How do you feel when I girl comes over and sits on your lap as opposed to sitting next to you. Does it influence whether or not you get a dance from one girl as opposed to another?

    I really appreciate any help I can get because my money has dropped quite a bit this week.

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    Sitting in laps is part of the culture here. If I wouldn't do it, I would lose out on money. If 3 out of 4 guys have dancers sitting in lap, flirtatiously whispering in their ear, then the fourth will want the same. Other places do not allow it by rules or culture, but you can't lie about lap sitting if EVERYONE is doing it, its not illegal while dancer is dressed.

    As a customer, I don't want the chick sitting in my lap if she isn't doing the dance because I'm not a big girl and it gets heavy, but then again, I don't need my ego fed, I just want her nekkid and moving already dammit!

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    I'm more likely to buy if this happens.

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    Default Re: Sitting on Custys Lap

    I do think it is a good idea, especially if the guy has shown some interest. It can seem a bit pushy if there has been no kind of invitiation or interest shown. I have had several girls come over and sit in my lap while I was already talking with someone. When that happens it is often offensive to the other girl.

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    Kat's right, it's all about the club culture. If lap-sitting is now more common in your club, you may have to adjust your hustle to keep your sales up.

    On a personal level, I've always liked it a lot. It plays to the sweet side of the interaction, and makes conversation much more intimate.

    From your physical description, I don't think you have to worry about overwhelming or "crushing" a guy. I'm 6', 175lbs and can't think of any dancers in the high-end club realm who are going to do any permanent physical damage to me. If you've got a tiny, frail or old customer, you may have to do a snuggle sit or hoist yourself on the edge of the chair.

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    Just choose yourself some healthy looking men - if you really don't want to sit on laps, for whatever reason (because it is your ass, dammit, and you get sole control over it) a sort of compromise is to sit next to him, and let your legs drape over his.
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    I'm going to have to dissent ever so slightly with the previous responses.

    It's not that I don't like lap sitting, I in fact enjoy it quite immensely with a favorite dancer. Its that I think it can be a bit too intimate for some first time customers. I generally don't like new gals just plopping down on me when I've given no permission for them to join me. If they're not my type, then it's that much worse. Always, always ask permission.

    But lets say for sake of topic, you have permission...

    You have to consider that if you're sitting in a guys lap as a hustle tactic to buy lap dances, then to some respect, you're devaluing what you're trying to sell. Sitting on his lap in fact may actually be viewed in his mind as more intimate than dancing for him.

    So what's a good compromise? Sit in the chair next to him, and once you think you've flirted with him enough, turn up the heat ever so slightly. Cross one of your legs over his. Massage his neck and shoulders a bit. Run your fingernails down his arm.

    As for the lap sitting, save that priveledge until after the dances, and for your repeat custys, your regulars, and for the VIP room. It's kind of like cuddling after sex. This way the customers leave with a good impression of you burned into their minds, and wanting to come back for another round. Be sure to give them your work schedule.

    I still have pleasant memories of dancers from years past, whom I've met in far away cities etched into my brain, not so much because of their dances because of the way they got me to buy them.
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    I have a problem with girls doing that because of 1 bad experience. Its one thing to sit in a custys lap that you have been dancing for but to just sit in someone's lap is trying to command their attention and I find that incredibly tacky.

    The main reason I think a dancer should not be sitting in a custys lap stems from 1 stupid girl saying a custy tryed to finger her when she CHOOSE to sit in his lap. It cleared my club of 15 fucking customers not to mention made a ridiculous scene that the remaining custys dwelled on all night. The stupid bitch.
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    After some dances, or if I know her already, it can be pleasant. But as a hustle from a dancer I don't know? no

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    I agree with the other guys, random dancers sitting in my lap = NO

    Not that it ever happens.

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    I have always asked to join them, I then say" is it okay if I sit here"? Assuming his answer is yes I making the move to sit in their lap. He has the option of saying No . If the customer doesn't want you in his lap you have been polite by asking and they will ussually tell you. I always ask if they are comfortable. I have been told NO once and it was because his leg was injured. So move to the chair next to him.

    On that note , if you have a boney butt (OWCH)slightly position your rear to the side of the chair and not on his thigh. This also help keep fingers out of the cookie Jar. in regards to Phedre's comment .

    It is the norm at my club and it seems more personal in conversation before the dance.

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    I generally don't like new gals just plopping down on me when I've given no permission for them to join me. If they're not my type, then it's that much worse. Always, always ask permission.
    I agree. If I don't know you well, stay out of my lap.

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    I like this response. It's just about what I would answer. If I 'like' the dancer, after getting familiar, I really like to have some casual contact like this. At least if she would not be repulsed somehow.

    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish
    ... Sit in the chair next to him, and once you think you've flirted with him enough, turn up the heat ever so slightly. Cross one of your legs over his. Massage his neck and shoulders a bit. Run your fingernails down his arm.

    As for the lap sitting, save that priveledge until after the dances, and for your repeat custys, your regulars, and for the VIP room. It's kind of like cuddling after sex. ...
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    If I just walked in the door and haven't even ordered my drink yet; I would have to say no. If I've been there for an hour or longer then I would welcome it. I do tend to like the more subtle approach however. Whispering in my ear, touching my hand, fixing my collar (even if its fine), playing footsies (one of my favs), or even just sitting close enough to me in the next chair that you occasionally brush your arm up against mine. I find all these little innocent things create a very "enticing" atmosphere which will almost always result in at least half a dozen VIP dances.

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    I don't mind a random dancer plopping down in my lap on occasion. It really just depends on the dancer and her approach. If I find her attractive and she has a good approach- line- hustle or whatever you want to call it then being in my lap will probably increase her chances of making money.

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    In London clubsm so much as perching on a knee would get you the sack I think its mental! Stringfellows still allow it as quite frankly its more intimate, friendly and fun for the customer and the dancer.

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    The sexiest approach a dancer ever took with me was to sit in a chair opposite me, with no table between us, leaning forward towards my face, with our kness so close that they occasionally brushed against each other. I don't know if it was this particular dancer, my mood that night, or any one of a number of other "perfect storm" variables, but I found it to be an incredible turn-on, to the extent that I immediately went with her for an extended VIP session. That was the only time that a dancer ever took that approach, but it worked very well for both of us.

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    I don't mind if the dancer asks first. If I am not interested, I'll tell the dancer "no thank you".

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    also depends on how heavy the girl is!!!!

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    I don't like it. What if you see a hot dancer you want a dance from, and she spend hours sitting on some guy lap. You can't just go up to her and ask for a lap dance from her now can you?

    This has happen to me before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uncanny
    I don't like it. What if you see a hot dancer you want a dance from, and she spend hours sitting on some guy lap. You can't just go up to her and ask for a lap dance from her now can you?
    Actually, yes, you can. Don't be shy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    Actually, yes, you can. Don't be shy.

    The guy lap she is sitting on might get piss off or something and want to fight. I think women can lose out on money by doing this. Most men are not gonna just walk up and take a dancer from someone she is talking to.

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    Uncanny I think you are right saying a girl can lose out on money that way. Unless said butt rest is paying you to sit in his lap, it's just not something that really makes you money. I know a lot of girls would argue that saying it helps them sell a dance; I still don't think so.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uncanny
    The guy lap she is sitting on might get piss off or something and want to fight. .
    So... kick his ass,


    Seriously, I just don't think fear of some random guy is a sufficient reason for doing or not doing something.

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    If a girl is proportioned right for my size sitting on my leg rather than my lap can be a nice prelude to a dance.

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