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    I will try and make this short... I have been real confussed about things latley.
    Back in december we moved from tennessee to texas (where I was raised) and although we are really starting to get on our feet here...I hate it here, mainly because my daughter is still in tennessee and I miss her like something awful we are really close and I can't stand it with her so far away and even though she calls nearly everyday it just makes me miss her more. My husband says we can move back there if I want but we would have to move some where near Atoka Tennessee so he could transfer within the company he works for and that would make us only 7 hours way from her opposed to 13- 14 hours away....and if we do decide to move it is still going to be a few months before we can so we can tie a few loose ends here...and this is all great except I know that by us staying here in texas we could be buying a house and land in just 1 year but in tennessee land is so much more exspesive and it will take longer way longer to achive this goal and lets face it I'm not getting any younger and i need and want to own my own home. I am just not ready to let my daughter go....it took so long to get her back in my life (thats another long story) and I am face with a decisson .....I know some would think this should'nt be a hard decisson to make but it is because i want to have something to leave my childern when I die and as of now i have nothing but I want to be closer to her than 14 hours away.... I hate it here in texas my son hates it here in texas but my hubby loves it but is willing to move...UGHH!! i hate decissons...Now i feel really stupied for even posting this because I feel like such a dumb ass ....anyways thanks for letting me vent my confussion.
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    I'd be more worried about spending as much time as possible with my daughter than anything else...that is rough being separated like that... no wonder you are feeling at loose ends...

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    Myiah, it's funny. I'm from Knoxville too . While I'm not seperated from my children, my husband moved us from TN to TX and now to AZ. All of my family is in Knoxville and I miss it terribly. It has taken me literally 3 years to adjust being so far away.

    My husband moved us out to Texas and then to Arizona because there was a better income potential with his career. Unfortunately, the salary comparison for the same job sucks. I was always like "well, you would make less in TN but the cost of living is so much cheaper than AZ, so it evens out". Nah, he wouldn't go for it. I was SO depressed for so long being away, I even thought about leaving my husband to go back home. But then I thought, where is that going to get me in life. Running back to mommy (well, your situation is different though) and wind up dancing at "The Mouse's Ear" and waiting tables at Calhouns.

    I guess someone else has custody of your daughter. Since she can't be with you in your home, really there is no difference (to me anyway) from 14 hours and 7 hours. It's all a days drive or a quick flight. I used to make the drive from Dallas to K-town in one day all the time.

    Personally, if I was in your situation, I would do what is best for your future, in turn that is best for your daughter. Try to give the transition some time. Make as many trips as you possibly can, given time and cost.

    If you honestly feel like being back in TN is the right thing for you though, I hope your hubby supports you. If not, children trump spouses in my opinion. Good Luck and PM me if you wanna chat!




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    Thank you for "listening" to me ramble. It is real hard at times to deal with her living in another state than me. Right now she is married but seperated but her hubby has just asked her to come back to him...my daughter is 19 (yes too young for marriage but at 18 all you can do is talk to her and tell her how hard things can be at such a young age) when she was just 2 years old her father kiddnapped her from me when she was 9 years old he went to persion for child molestation and the court contacted me and gave her back to me ...I missed so much of her childhood and now she is married and with me living in another state I will miss alot of my furture garndkids growing up .... I feel so mental!! anyways I know i worry way to much and i honestly try not to but I still worry... Thanks agine for your support
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