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Thread: my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

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    Default my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

    Hi ladies. I worked my very first night. It wasn't bad at all. In fact it was too easy. I met a guy within the 1st 20 minutes and ended up yapping the night away with him. The only $ I made that night was from the stage and him. I didn't even give him a lapdance. He's really a cool guy. A guy that I totally wish would've just met in the supermarket. But with my luck my1st night dancing I meet him. He doesn't want me to dance or think that I should. In the back of my mind I feel the same way, but finances are finances which is why i drove 60miles to dance in the 1st place. Is all this a sign? '-'
    The really crappy part is I really liked the club too. Everyone one was really nice and respectable. But now I can't go back because it's his spot. What should I do? Sorry if I sound nivea. I'm just lil' confused. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. ^_^

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    If this is your first night dancing ever,then he could tell you were fresh meat and wanted to take advantage of you.He monopolized all of your time that night.That's the first sign.I would stay away from this guy.Who the Hell is he to tell what you should be doing anyway?????You need to be careful and not believe all the BS you will hear in this business,especially from the customers.
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    Default Re: my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

    ...my popcorn is ready.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    ^LOL!!!
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    Default Re: my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

    Why doesn't he want you to dance or think that you should? Does he also think that he shouldn't go to stripclubs? If there is something wrong with you being a dancer doesn't that imply that there is something wrong with him being a customer?

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    ^I agree commpletely.As far as staying away from the club because it's his "spot"???Are you kidding???It's your place of work where you make money to pay bills.You have the say-so if he stays or goes.Not the other way around.This type of psychological mind trip makes me sick.
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    It's HIS SPOT? Excuse me? <rolled eyes>

    Controlling manipulative self-centered jackass alert. And a cheapskate who wasted your whole night, too. If you had met him at the supermarket he still would've been a self-centered manipulative jackass. Work wherever the hell you want to work and don't let him waste any more of your time. Time is money, after all, and you wouldn't give all your money to a stranger you just met, would you?

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    You should of said something along the lines of...your right this will be my last night,since I only made $1 can you at least give me a farwell dance? You know,you can lie to the guys. Dont let them into your head.

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    Default Re: my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

    Quote Originally Posted by nicopico
    He doesn't want me to dance or think that I should. In the back of my mind I feel the same way, but finances are finances which is why i drove 60miles to dance in the 1st place.
    Are you serious?? Geez child how old are you? When did his opinion begin to matter to you? Baby, you don't even KNOW his a#$!!! Did you fail to remember that? Read up in these forums about all these "good guys" in the club who later turn into complete psychos.


    He doens't want you to be there...so then umm why is HE A CUSTOMER in there? What did he come in there to save? Yes, I do agree with you..you are being naive. And the sad part is...sweety you KNOW IT! You know why...cause if you thought what you were doing with this dude was ok, you would've have asked us in the forum about it. Shi$ check the results..3 votes so far..umm 100% of us basically telling you to tell him to just go an F^[email protected] himself

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    are you kidding??? you're actually thinking about not dancing b/c some guy you met on your first night doesnt think you should?
    haven't you read this board at all? lol
    sorry not to be rude, but come on.
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    He's a pimp, honey. Why roll around onstage when you can run his circuit? Blaaah.

    Ok, whatever he is.....ignore him from now on....I cringe when I think of all the times people rolled me because I was so naive and trusting. A sweet dancer warned me the first day of work that "new girls get stepped on" by everyone. This is an ugly business.
    This really bothers me. Tell management to bar him. You're not the first and you won't be the last.

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    Do I hear wedding bells? *waits* No, I don't. Now get to work at the club of your choice!

    He tipped you $1 for all the time you spent with him. Cheap. If he really cared about you, he would have tipped you $200. Friends don't stiff friends. If you go to a restaurant and your friend is the server, do you stiff her? Or, are a good friend and tip 25%? Yes, you would. And why would you do that? Because she's working and needs to be compensated for her time, friend or not. It's the same situation with you and the douche you met.

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    Default Re: my 1st night met a Guy who doesn't want me to dance

    But now I can't go back because it's his spot.
    sorry sweety,its your world,he paid to enter it.

    Being "Sir Lancelot"is his game with the new girls.


    For kripes sake,read some of this forum and grow a set of balls please.

    And for kripes sake,stay away from the dj booth at ALLLLLLLLL cost!!!!

    Your easy pickins for even an old decrepid dj!

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    If you want to keep dancing there, do it! This guy sounds like a tool-he knew you were new and he was wasting your time. You said he didn't buy any dances-did he spend any money on you at all? I hate it when customers come in and try to "save" dancers from dancing and say crap like "I wanna take you away from all this."

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    Where do you dance? What days and times?

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    Lets be realistic here. This is your JOB, not a dating service!

    Do not, Do Not, DO NOT date custies or fall for that kind of shit. You will hear similar crap evry single night of the week.

    And no matter how long you dance, you will hear the same shit. I currently have 2 regulars who are convinced they are going to "take me away from all this"--""all this" including my husband and child. (I have been dancing for 18 years; I defiitely don't have that "new dancer" smell any more!)

    The best way to avoid this trap is to remember that you are there to EARN money. By DANCING. If any particular custy will not cooperate with your effors to earn money by dancing after you hae been talking to him for 2 songs, move on. All the sweet talk and promisesin the world will not pay your bills.


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    Sorry, I'm not a dancer and even I can see right through this. Do what you want- he sounds like a mega-loser anyway.

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    WOW! if you believe or take to heart everything every patron says you will not last in this business. It may have been your first night, but listen to your gut. You are there for money and when you feel you aren't making any get up and get the hell away from that person. He wasted your time and if you see him again, smile and walk on by. It wasn't a sign, it is common bs that you have to avoid.

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    You aren't ready to be a dancer yet.

    1. Don't date this guy. He is a hippocrite. think about it, he was there getting horney looking at beautiful women, and has the nerve to say to you that he would like to date you but not if you work there??? WTF?

    2. You don't sound like you have the personality to be a hustler. Read this forum, ask for advice, take the Dancer Wealth seminar, and learn about this business. In your short post you pretty much made all the mistakes a newbie dancer can make on her first night.

    If you were a waitress, would you spend your whole shift doting on one table and ignoring the rest? If you worked as a receptionsist would you only talk on the phone to one caller? So why as a dancer did you spend your entire shift with one (cheap ass) customer?

    This is how you make your living. If you just want to party at a bar all night, I'm sure there are plenty of places to go on your free time.

    OTOH, I'd love to work the same shift with you. Less compition. More $$$ for me and the others who actually work when we are at work.


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    Oh, my fucking heavens. You're kidding, right? I don't mean to be a bi-otch, but come on!! Let me get this straight... it's your first day dancing.... and you spent the night talking to some guy who doesn't want you to dance, but doesn't have the respect for you to at least give you a few hundred dollars to spend time with him? Furthermore.... if strippers are so wrong, what the fuck is he doing in a strip club?

    I really think that you need to up your self esteem a bit. I mean, if you are going to let some dude tell you what you can or can't do on the FIRST DAY YOU MET HIM then... I don't know what to tell you!!

    I'm in shock!

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    Honey... these assholes are all over the strip clubs. I agree that your not ready to be a dancer yet... if you really want into the idustry try waitressing in a SC first and get an idea of what kind of creeps hang around these places. Seriously even as a waitress i've gotten 'your to good to be here let me take you away and show you what you really can do' Umm PIMP. These men lurk around SC's trying to find girls to pray on to be their hookers or personal sex slaves or whatever. Dont let him scare you away. Ignore him if he follows you tell a door man or management. And never make the mistake of sticking around talking to one customer all night no matter how nice they are unless they're gonna pay you $20 a song because thats what your missing. Your there to make money simple fact. If you really want to do it you have to learn how to ignore him and grow balls your going to hear it all the time from all kinds of customers. Good luck with everything I hope you do whats best for you.

    I hope this doesnt sound like a ramble its 5am and I just got home from work heh..

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    What does this guy do just hang out in 'dirty' SC's to lure girls away with his smooth talk?? PFFSSTttt.

    That was your 1st night and you will have many more guys trying to take up all your time (paying you or not..most often not paying you) and trying to lure you away from the club with their dinner, big talk, big dong (lol), sexy trips blah blah blah you get it.

    Besides, any REAL man wouldnt hang out in SC's trying to tell girls this isnt the job for them. If he really wanted you to stop dancing he would pay for your bills and then some. Guys like these wanna make me puke...puhleez dont waste my time little man.

    Funny how its so easy for anyone to say "just go ahead and quit dancing"...eh ..bills? Hello?
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