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    My friend, Emily wants to come and see me dance tonight. What do you think about friends hanging out at he club?

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    A few friends,I think is OK,but when your whole group of friends come in,it takes away from you and the other dancers making money.Unless they plan on spending money.That's a different story.
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    I love it when my friends come see me. They tip and we have a great time. My boyfriend will hang with me when it's slow and will encourage me to go make money if it's not. Usually he buys a dance from me, but if it's busy he won't buy any or he'll buy one from someone else and then tell me all the cool moves she did.

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    ok just my opinion,and im just saying so because it cost YOU money,and in the end,cost ME money.

    You have no friends when your at work inside those 4 walls,you have clients.

    Period.

    A real friend wont be there to fuck your hustle.(and them being there always always will)
    A real friend wont be spending insane amounts of money on you,like a custie should.

    and Yek,please dont take this wrong,but your boyfriend in the room is fucking OUR money,sure wish you would send him home like a good boy toy,you dont need a babysitter,we pay people to do that.

    Make NOOOOOOOOOOO mistake about it ladies,if you have friends and boyfriends in the room,even during the slow times,its costing YOU money,and thats not fair to me or the rest of your support staff,and its not fair to YOU!
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    I dont see the harm in it,if any thing its cool to have a cheering section from friends. I dont see how her friends or bf would in any way hinder other dancers money making capabilitys. As for having no friends I disagre as well. To each is own.

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    Default Re: ? Friends hanging out at the club ?

    Etiquette for a friend, as far as I understand it, is to stay unobtrusive and out of the way most of the time and to "seed" the stage for you (with their money or your own if they're brokeass.)

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    Many mid-top level clubs have actual rules about boyfriends/hubbies/and friends,they are not allowed in the building while your working.

    Im not making that up,there IS a reason for it and there are many different reasons for it,all end bad.

    It cost YOU money,the club money,and in the end,the DJ money.

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    ^^^ It's true and you are right, for the MOST PART.

    I do occasionally, love it when my hubby comes in to visit.

    I don't spend the whole night with him, (we could do that nakkie at home, lol) but I do stop and chat with him for a few. He usually sits at the bar, buy the bartender, and views the guys who charge money on their cards, who has a tab, etc.... He will then tell me who they are, and how much they have, lol.

    And occasionally he will be a "shill" for me too. If I bring a guy to the bar to get a drink, and I'm trying to talk him into a dance, Luke will say something like; "Man I wish I had more money with me tonight, when I was here last week, you rocked it!" or something along those lines.

    He not the jealous type, and he knows this is my job, and a soure of OUR income in this marriage. He wouldn't go fuck it up and be stupid like that, lol.

    But after dancing for 11yrs, I can see why that rule is in place, but it's not there for couples like us.

    As for friends, it depends. You might need then there for the 1st night, to loosen up a little, and I don't think that's a bad thing, but if they are there every night of the week, then it's a problem.
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    I'm leaning towards BigGreenMnM's point to a point. Problem with friends coming in is that it will cost you money, as well as some of the dancers around you. When you're friends are having a good time, all you'll think about is having a good time with them and you'll tend to overlook the customers around you. You'll find out by the end of the night, outside of doing your stage shows, you'll have spent more time with your friends than actually working.

    I'm not just guessing at this either, I've watched it happen. One time a former dancer of the club came in, and all night I watched almost every dancer in the house hang out at her table more than they did working the floor. That included dancers who were new and didn't even know her. Meanwhile, the house was half full and you could see the customers chomping at the bit wanting some VIP dances. The strangest thing about the whole thing was that this girl wasn't even that well liked by the other dancers when she was there because of her poor attitude.

    So really, no matter how proud you are at being a dancer, do not encourage your friends to come party at your house club. If they really want to see you dance, freelance at a different club one night for them. That way when you end up the night with a bit less money, you also won't have to face an annoyed group when you come back at your regular club.

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    My friends drop in all of the time if they're in town, I dig it. Either that or they just happen to drop in anyway without knowing I work in the club, it's cool. The only thing is that you have to make sure you don't waste too much time socialising, but I don't see any difference in my income otherwise (-:

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    I guess its a little different for everyone. I had my friends visit me one night (I was new) and it was about 8 of em. They all tipped me on stage and had a great time but it messed with my head. I felt like me instead of stripper-me. Switching back and forth was too hard and made it hard to concentrate on making money.
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    This is like any job. If 8 of my friends came to my work and just stood around staring at me, or trying to talk to me, I'm not going to get my job done right.
    So, I think for that reason alone, it's not a good idea to have your friends come to the club.

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    i have come into my club with my friends when i am not working only... out of respect to the club... and we act as typical patrons. I am currently looking into this possiblity at my new club, although I am afeared they will not allow it (it trys to be upscale). I want to attend for the sheer reason of showing my boyfriend what a beautiful club is like... he has only been into a few dingy small clubs with me on occasion... and wants to know what all the commotion i make is about... i think watching the girls dance would be a great evening as well, so i might as well benefit my own business.
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    Where do you work WEEZO? in Philly?

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    I don't see why having my boyfriend or friends there automatically means I'm going to make less money. Usually it's the opposite. They come in on nights when it's slow and I'm not making money anyway, and they buy dances, tip on stage, etc. They're more generous tippers than most of our other customers and they tip everyone, not just me. They buy dances from other girls, too. This club is a tiny little club full of broke illegal aliens most of the time; my friends, who are all gainfully employed film industry people, are the best customers in the place. Don't be so quick to make assumptions.

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    I have had friends come where I was dancing and it wasn't a problem for me as long as they acted like a typical customer by getting dances, drinking, and socializing with the other dancers too. If they started being clingy I just suggested that I was really busy and they would get the hint it was time for them to back off and enjoy the club without my attention to them. I didn't sit around with my friends if they happened to come in, unless they were buying dances from me (2 (3, if it's dead) for 1's for my friends) but I'd make it a point to acknowledge them and try to entertain them a little so they'd start having some fun without me coaxing it.

    I can honestly say that doing a dance for my friends usually illicited custies to ask for a dance because my friends looked like they were having more fun than the avg. custy.

    I have also gone to many clubs when I wasn't dancing and run into girls I know from dancing and they make it more of issue because they choose to sit and BS with me. When that has happened I start pointing out guys they should sell a dance to or try to get them involved in doing a hostage dance or something to boost their money.
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    If a dancer invites her friends to the club she runs the risk of negatively affecting her income. Smirky looks from friends towards the paying customers translate into "Dude, you are a loser. I dont have to pay her to hang out with me". May be the truth but a disincenitive for a guy to continue to spend.

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    A club is no place for your friends to hang unless they are going to act like customers-tip you, buy dances, compensate you for your time. Otherwise they are wasting your time and possibly scaring away potential business. I have Two very good friends who dance at one of my favorite clubs and I won't even go in when they are working-it definitely hurts their money.
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    Hmm. Tricky.

    I live in Vegas, so sometimes I HAVE to work a night when a friend is in from outta town, and I'll have them stop at the club and visist me. I usually chat with them for like a hour, then make them leave so I can go to work. I just consider hanging out with them a "break" from my job. I am not really comfortable dancing for my friends or taking tips from them. I guess if I were on stage or something and a bunch of my friends came in a nd threw me money, that'd be fine, but I'm not trying to hustle my friends outta cash.

    I personally also don't like my friends to see me giving custies lapdances. Call me insecure, but that's how I am.

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    My friend's get ignored when they come to see me in the club. Not on purpose, mind you. But it seems like my ass is always in the air giving dances when buddies come in. So they are more than welcome, but its unlikely we will get to hang and its doesn't mess with my money. Gotta get in that zone baby!

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    In the club I work I receive commissions for the drinks paid from my customers, therefore my friends' visits are usually fun and profitable

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    ~Update~ She did end up coming to work with me. We went and had a drink first. It actually went pretty well at work. I really had to plan and ochestrate it though so I would still make the money I was supposed to make on a Friday night. So it went ok. As for what happened after? Her and I have a bunch of mutual friends from high school and guess what? Yep, she went and told a really close friend of ours that I knew wouldn't be comfortable with it. So there you go. I think she was jealous of my lifestyle after having lived it for a night. I was really upset at first but then realized this is the price I pay for making the big bucks. We certainly do pay the price.

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    That's pretty immature of her to go around talking to your other friends about it when she really doesn't know shit, she just stopped by for awhile so she doesn't really have room to be going blabbing about what you do. If there's one thing this industry does it certainly helps weed out your false friends.
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    i second that you will def. find out who are your true firends alot soon than you think
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    i have a few friends drop in from time too time .. it dont really bother me as long as they understand that im there to work n not socialize with them and that they dont get shitty that i cant sit down with them that much

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