Results 1 to 19 of 19

Thread: Not letting it get to you

  1. #1
    Veteran Member rain's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Location
    portland, oregon
    Posts
    206
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Not letting it get to you

    It amazes me the stupid things men say.

    i.e. these abridged conversations from tonight:

    custie - People must tell you you're sexy all the time.
    me - Sometimes, yeah.
    custie - But do they say it outside of here? I mean, anyone will say anything in here.

    WTF?

    also:
    custie - Let me take you out to [dinner, movie, lunch, etc.]
    me - No thanks.
    custie - Why not?
    me - I don't date outside the club.
    custie - Couldn't you make an exception?
    me - No.
    custie - You're not attracted to me?
    me - (repressing the urge to laugh) It's not that, it's just a rule I keep for myself, it helps me stay out of trouble!
    custie - Trouble with the law?


    I'm starting to think that the moment some guy asks me to meet him outside the club I should just walk away. I'm wasting energy on these people trying not to offend them. Do any of you just walk away from a customer when he won't take no for an answer?

    I find it really funny when I say no, no, no and then I see the customer trying the same thing with three other girls that night! THAT makes me feel special!

    [some] men are retarded.

  2. #2
    God/dess kitana's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2004
    Location
    kentucky
    Posts
    3,582
    Thanks
    49
    Thanked 60 Times in 43 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    No it's not you, guys (most) are idiots, lol.

    Tell them you just don't date men, and no they can't watch you with your girlfriend either.

    That usually shuts them up.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    Feel like a damn salt lick at the goats petting zoo!
    <08SM>

  3. #3
    God/dess colleen's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2004
    Location
    South Chicago Suburbs
    Posts
    2,059
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 139 Times in 62 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    It's not a TOTAL waste of time; there's always the entertainment value to consider.


    My MySpace Page:


    When you perform... you are out of yourself--larger and more potent, more beautiful. You are for minutes heroic. This is power. This is glory on earth. And it is yours, nightly.

    --Agnes De Mille

  4. #4
    Veteran Member vegasbebe's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    349
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    My favorite ever.
    This didn't happen to me, but it happened to my best friend, who is completely hot. Like, earth shatteringly hot.

    Gentlemen takes her to VIP and she starts dancing. He begins to ramble on non-stop

    "You're not as hot as my girlfriend. You're like, okay, but the girls I go out with are way hotter than you. You're just.... I don't know, you're okay, but my girlfriend's like really hot, so I'm not impressed."

    Right. I'm sure that's why you just payed 400 dollars to stare at her naked (this was in no contact Chicago) because she's so below the level of the girls you usually sleep with.

    Dick!

  5. #5
    Cally
    Guest

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Quote Originally Posted by vegasbebe
    My favorite ever.
    This didn't happen to me, but it happened to my best friend, who is completely hot. Like, earth shatteringly hot.

    Gentlemen takes her to VIP and she starts dancing. He begins to ramble on non-stop

    "You're not as hot as my girlfriend. You're like, okay, but the girls I go out with are way hotter than you. You're just.... I don't know, you're okay, but my girlfriend's like really hot, so I'm not impressed."

    Right. I'm sure that's why you just payed 400 dollars to stare at her naked (this was in no contact Chicago) because she's so below the level of the girls you usually sleep with.

    Dick!

    Maybe it was his way of trying to stop himself from reaching out and grabbing her LoL like a 'maybe if i convince myself she isnt as damn hot as she is I wont want to grab her and get kicked out'
    Men are morons...

  6. #6
    Featured Member thechaosfairy's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Dear Gods plz send money to Oregon K luv you bye
    Posts
    1,780
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 13 Times in 12 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    I think that sounds like he's trying to convince HIMSELF so he can tell his girlfriend he thought so later . . . *snicker*

  7. #7
    Veteran Member logan820's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2005
    Location
    Canyon, Texas
    Posts
    573
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    A similar thing happened to me. A guy I was giving a dance to said, You have huge breasts, I;m not really into breasts,I don't really go to clubs, but I am paying just to look at your breasts
    me: I am selling a fantasy
    custie: Well you are not a fantasy, my ex girlfriend was hotter than you, I just want to look at your breasts
    me: laugh,
    ?????? I don't know? He was just some drunk idiot, I would never, ever give him the time of day outside the club!

  8. #8
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Hazleton, PA
    Posts
    229
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    ive already passed that point.. i just walk away... you know what, it makes me more in the end because i dont get stressed and limit my money making power, and on top of that... all men who want you outside the club never spend enough inside anyhoo... they are a waste of time.
    "I have never seen an ugly thing, be it's form as it may, light and shadow will make it beautiful" (yea rough... i know)
    Armand Campi

    "The aim of every artist is to arrest motion, which is life, by artificial means and hold it fixed so that a hundred years later, when a stranger looks at it, it moves again since it is life. "
    William Faulkner

    "The artist belongs to his work, not the work to the artist. "
    Novalis

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  9. #9
    God/dess
    Joined
    Jun 2005
    Location
    Colorado
    Posts
    2,265
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    I told one guy that I grew up in Hawaii and in the 9 years I've been in Colorado I've never been skiing... BIG mistake!

    custie: you should let me take you skiing some time
    me: no thanks, I'm really more of a city girl
    custie: that's because you've never been skiing with me
    me: I really prefer warm sandy beaches over cold wet snow
    custie: you just need the right person to show you how fun it is, let me take you
    me: wannadance?
    custie: sound of feet pitter patting as far away form me as they can get

    It's alway the broke jackasses that think they have a chance with you and are the most persistant.

  10. #10
    Featured Member Crow's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Down South
    Posts
    1,145
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 10 Times in 8 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Gawd - what about the guys that spend money and you think.. "WOW, this guy is so cool" and then he just ruins it by asking you to go back to his motel room. Gah. That just ruins a good time. Some other stupid commentary by the male gender..

    Custie:
    "Are thoes real?" ( Talking about my boobs.)

    Me:
    Real expensive, real flesh and blood, really mine, really paid for.

    Custie: Gosh, your really tall.
    Me: Well sorry honey, it's not my fault your so short.

    It gets to be amusing after a while. Most times it's just dumb.

    R

  11. #11
    Glamazon
    Guest

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Just look at them and say, "You know what, my car payment (or whatever) is due and I really need to get back to work. Do you want to talk about this in VIP?" They will usually say, "No." You reply with, "Okay, then, I need to excuse myself."

    Remember: You are not being rude. These guys are coming into YOUR office and expecting you to ignore your responsibilites to spend time with them for free. They are being rude to you.

  12. #12
    Featured Member red red red's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2005
    Location
    Philadelphia
    Posts
    923
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    I actually sell dances when I get that "my wife/girlfriend/whatever will fuck me for free and she's ten times hotter than you."

    I smile, look right at them, say, "I doubt it," and then start walking away. Two times out of three, they grab me and say, "hey, how much for one of those lapdance things again?"

    It gives them the "illusion" that they're dealing with a "bitch" that can magically, temporarily be bought. I think it reminds them of all the real-life bitches that couldn't be, no matter what they did or said.

    Sometimes being yourself does pay off, hahaha.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  13. #13
    Veteran Member calliope7's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    290
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Quote Originally Posted by red red red

    It gives them the "illusion" that they're dealing with a "bitch" that can magically, temporarily be bought. I think it reminds them of all the real-life bitches that couldn't be, no matter what they did or said.
    I think thats pretty insightful. Guys who say stuff like that are really just angry at women and they don't want to show their weaknesses.

  14. #14
    Member sorrow's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    37
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Honestly, all men are retarded. It's that dick thing that gets in the way of their brain...too much hormone.

    Just think of us..on PMS..but horny instead of bitchy....


    The dumber people think you are, the more surprised they're going to be when you kill them
    -------------------------------------------------------
    ----------------------------------------------------

  15. #15
    Member sorrow's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    37
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    Gawd - what about the guys that spend money and you think.. "WOW, this guy is so cool" and then he just ruins it by asking you to go back to his motel room. Gah. That just ruins a good time. Some other stupid commentary by the male gender..

    Custie:
    "Are thoes real?" ( Talking about my boobs.)

    Me:
    Real expensive, real flesh and blood, really mine, really paid for.

    Custie: Gosh, your really tall.
    Me: Well sorry honey, it's not my fault your so short.

    It gets to be amusing after a while. Most times it's just dumb.

    R
    Geez...I love your wit.


    The dumber people think you are, the more surprised they're going to be when you kill them
    -------------------------------------------------------
    ----------------------------------------------------

  16. #16
    God/dess
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Temporary Lurkmode...
    Posts
    12,609
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 79 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Rain yes I have walked away from guys who I know just didnt get it. "No" I dont wanna go out with you ..just no...thats it ..stop asking. In the cases I cant walk away .. I just keep shutting them down till either they try their fancy work on someonelse or get a show.

    F-that..I just dont have time to mess around. I will giggle and laugh until their money is gone though.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
    -Kenpachi



  17. #17
    Featured Member Crow's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Down South
    Posts
    1,145
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 10 Times in 8 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Thanks Sorrow

    Miss R

  18. #18
    buffie06
    Guest

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    Say YES just one time, it is so funny. They will shut up real quick. They expect you to say no. My friend always says "oh yes, and can you meet me at my car after work? I want you to be my new boyfriend, oh this is sooo great!" She doesn't even sound sarcastic, but they get scared and think something is wrong with her. it is too funny, i am to chicken shit to try it.

  19. #19
    Member k8t's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Not letting it get to you

    My way of dealing with the day to day bullshit things that dumbass men and other dancers say is to know that when they open their mouths and say something offensive, I automatically know that it is representative of "their OWN issues". That person is insecure or jealous or hurting on the inside, or hell, maybe their mother didn't breast feed them or something and they have childhood trauma that causes them to act like mean spirited people. I brush it off, and hope they find a good therapist to help them through their issues. I also find that having a good release like yoga or meditation goes a really long way...it changed my life! Good luck!
    K8T

Similar Threads

  1. letting them hurt you
    By Jinx_Removing in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 38
    Last Post: 08-13-2008, 10:01 PM
  2. Thanks for letting me in
    By HiTemp in forum Coming Out
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 10-27-2005, 05:34 AM
  3. Not letting it get to you
    By rain in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 10-22-2005, 04:41 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •