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    Thanks2 All I'm gonna keep Dancin ^_^

    Thanks to all the ladies who responded. I'd take my dumb lil question down but I can't figure out how. '-'
    I believe it was my own insecurities and confusion that led me to even question whether or not I should dance.

    Either way how great of a guy would he even be if he didn't support a decision I made in order to help myself get on my feet financially? (not that great of a guy!)

    I went out with him last night and he's amazing. And he totally supports whatever I want to do. He said that at this point he likes me too much to suddenly not like me just because I want to dance.

    So thanks for all the wonderful advice. And I won't be so naive the next time a "prince charming customer" wants to waste my time(not that he was waste of time.) Anyway, I realize it's a business and my first night was fun but enough fun it's business from here on out! '-'

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    All I am going to say is... YOU DATED A CUSTY YOU'VE ONLY KNOWN ONE DAY?
    Im not trying to attack you but that was a HUGE risk you took. Stand back and think about this.
    A. You met a the guy at your work... your work being a strip club.
    B. A larg majority of men at a strip club are there thinking they can get into a dancers pants.
    C. He was trying to talk you out of dancing...

    One of the biggest mistakes a dancer can make is seeing a customer outside of a SC that they just met... who knows what kind of creep hes going to be.

    Im happy you have decided to keep dancing but I would seriously cut the ties with this customer because he sounds like a major creep... they always seem nice at first... thats how a lot of girls end up being killed... Im not trying to scare you away im just worried about the decision you've made...

    Sorry if this sounds harsh or wrong...

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    Default Re: Thanks2 All I'm gonna keep Dancin ^_^

    I'm with Cally on this one. this is what I tell guys who are overly persisteant in tryig totake me out:

    "I'm sure you are a very nice guy. An'd I'm sure all Ted Bundy's victims thought he was a nice guy, too."

    Honestly, be very very careful dating custies. Some men will take a LOOOOONG time to cultivate you to the point where you will go home with them, only to hurt you physically or emotionaly. This guy in particular sounds like a controlling, manipulative jerk. He was telling you exactlay what you wanted to hear, even so far as changing his opinion on a major issue.

    Honey, PLEASE do not date the custies.

    We are not telling you this because we are jealous, hating bitches. We are teling you this b/c we are concerned for you, becauase we don't want you to get hurt.


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    Default Re: Thanks2 All I'm gonna keep Dancin ^_^

    I don't want to believe that all strip club customers are somehow seriously flawed. This guy might be her sould mate for all we know. Unfortunately for her, she happened to meet him as an inopportune time.

    If it works out great! But you did break one of the cardinal rules of being a dancer, don't date the customers.

    I would say that 99% of my customers are nice and decent guys. But I have seen more then a few weirdos since I've been dancing. Some of weirdos start out as being very nice guys.

    Since I've been dancing for over 7 years, my psycho radar is very sensitive. I can ususally tell within a few minutes if the guy is going to turn out weird later. But when I first started dancing I met a very nice guy who was also handsome and charming. He wouldn't tip very well, but he was nice to talk to and he came in on slow nights.

    After a few weeks of a strip club relationship, he confessed that he has always wanted to drink human blood. He had vampire fantasies, and was getting ready to have his teeth permanently changed to look like fangs. At the time I was exploring wicca, so he thought he had a sympathetic audience.

    Whoa! Drink human blood!! I was not about to be the first to volunteer.

    So my point is most of the guys in the strip club are nice and normal, but not all of them. Be careful!


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    Default Re: Thanks2 All I'm gonna keep Dancin ^_^

    You need to get used to the idea of guys asking you out all the time. As a stripper they're going to ask for your number, try to make dinner plans, act like they feel a special connection to you, BLAH, BLAH, blah. You're beautiful, practically naked girl who acts like they care about what these guys have to say---of course they want you (amongst other things). I've only been dancing for two weeks now and I've definitely learned that this is an unavoidable part of the territory.

    If you've already gone out with a custy you met on your first night, what are you going to do with the 2-5+ guys a night who also try to suggest some OTC contact? You've got to learn to draw your boundaries and find the right amout of personal distance you want to maintain when you're dancing.

    Seriously read some more of the threads in this forum. The women who post here are so freaking awesome!

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