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    Help! I cannot dance! I have never been able to dance my whole life. It doesnt come naturally to me. I may be able to dance a little but the fear of looking retarded keeps me from advancing any moves. Any advice for me? Any videos I should buy? I tryed dancing a few times at dances but I always felt really akward or I felt like someone was laughing at me so I almost stopped as soon as I started. I am just unsure completely!

    I am thinking about buying

    these 3 videos to show me some beginer moves

    The Art of Exotic Dancing - Develop Your Routine Video
    The Art of Exotic Dancing Core Moves Video
    Wimps Series: Bellydance for Wimps Video



    to start of with because I am thinking of becoming a dancer in a year so I have time to prepare. I have always wanted to learn how to dance really well. It has been a life time secret dream of myn. Any suggestions or help is appreciated! If I ever learn how to dance It will be one of the most happiest moments in my life for me!

    I have always felt like being able to dance would be one of the most sexiest things ever. I always felt like the moment I could dance that I would let myself go and just be more intuned with my body.

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    Default Re: Really sad but I admit it

    I, personally, thought that the Art of Exotic Dancing sucked monkey balls. I prefer the S-factor by Sheila Kelley. More information...better prepared. Buy the book...she's got some videos, as well. Haven't seen the videos, except for the pole work one...but, here's the website: http://www.sfactor.com

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    My friends used to laugh at my dancing- I was never much good. Somehow, somewhere along the line, I developed some skill, and am now considered a pretty good dancer.

    The most important thing is: do you have rhythm? Mine developed as a result of my training to teach aerobics...counting bpms all the time'll do that, lol.

    Try picking a popular song and counting the beats per minute (set up a stopwatch). Cross reference with an online database (http://blackbadtz.lm.com/bpm-by-artist.txt is an example), and if you've about got it, you'll be fine.

    Your movements should correspond to the beats, more or less...you can move on every beat, every 2 beats, every 3 beats, every 1/2 beat...that's pretty much all dancing is, is the stringing together of movements according to the beat. Practice walking on the beat at first (struttin'!).

    If you find that you just don't have rhythm...get a pole, and get good on it!

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    I took ballet for most of my life, and my friend and I both go to country clubs and do line dances (ha!), so I thought any kind of dancing would come naturally to me. Pfft. When I first decided to look into stripping, I planted myself in front of a mirror and nearly died when I saw myself moving. I knew I was moving like I'd seen other girls do it, but with me it looked like I was trying too hard. The harder I tried, the worse I looked. Then one day I was cleaning house, and I always put on my headphone and jam out while I'm doing it. I started dancing around, just being silly, and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I was amazed. I was dancing and looked HOT. I was moving parts of my body I didn't even think moved! My point is, try to have fun with it. Rather than telling yourself to dance, just get some music you love and go at it without thinking. You'd be surprised at what you can do. Also, I loved the S-Factor. That combined with moves I taught myself with goofing off have really given me the confidence to finally audition.

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    yo ive sucked at dancing my entire life. That is why no one knows what I do. Even when they suspect it, they're like nahhhh she can't be, she can't dance. Yeah right. I'm not a good dancer by any means, but I strut my shit on the stage like its a runway. I also dance very slow and move my hips around a lot and it must work because it gets me paid.

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    If you have a local dance studio that offers a hip hop class you could take that too. It's a fun way of getting started learning. I really didn't like the Art of Exotic dancing videos either, so maybe save your money. I think Fawnia has some videos so search the site for hers maybe.

    Good luck, the best way to learn is to just practice by yourself in front of a mirror or your SO. If you like Bellydancing, it does teach you some core moves so that you don't really have to "dance" but it gives you some poses that work the same muscles as you do on stage.
    Phedre
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    I was made fun of for my dancing too- but a girl I knew who ended up becoming a stripper before I did complimented my dance skills as an individual dancer...(we were trying to choregraph a talent show group routine....I was dancing like Kyle Broflosky in "South Park's Getting Gay With Kids" episode.....LOL)
    Fast forward many years, my love of music helped me understand I needed to move with the music. My choppy moves worked OK with rock beats (to this day, I look awful trying to move to R&B. I have no flava.)
    If I could give any advice, learn to pace yourself with the beat, like Scarlett said, and also take your time. Hyperactivity never helped any stripper unless she was grinding out $20 lap dances...LOL

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    Confidence is also a major factor. When you're dancing and you're not sure of what you're doing, always remember to commit to whatever movement you're making and follow it through with no doubts. The customers will have NO idea that you don't know what you're doing. It will make you unique.

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    I remember when I first turned 18 and I did not go out. I wasn't sure what to do on a dance floor at a normal night club. One of the girls from my restaurant took me out and I met her friend who was a dancer at a SC. She took me and had me move with her. All the guys were watching and enjoyed it, I had no clue that I was learning how to dance and to be sexy. Love her to death, you should see us now when we get together

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    Oh but feel confident! Feel sexy! Feel though you are enjoying it so much....in a kinda sexual way.

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    HAHA! You don't need rythm! I wish you could see me and what I do on stage. I was REALLY nervous when I auditioned becaue I never took my clothes off in public and I can't dance. Now i just get on stage and pretty much do streches and look at the custies and smile. If you plugged your ears you would see that most girls don't dance to the beat of the song anyway and the custies don't care.

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    Just remember, there are always worse. To wit:

    http://www.sonypictures.com/tv/shows...oosenTitle=199

    -Ev

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    I'm was also awful when I started. Then I learned not to "dance" on stage. Now I more or less move from sexy pose to sexy pose, in time with the music. Look at pictures of girls posing sexily (they're literally everywhere -- skin magazines, obviously, but also billboards, advertising spreads, etc.) Find those you think look best, and practice them in front of a mirror. Be a living breathing Playboy spread. Who cares about "dancing" anyway?

    Incidentally, the Art of Exotic Dancing is completely worthless but S-Factor is pretty helpful when you're new.

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    Default Re: Really sad but I admit it

    Read the S-Factor book. It has the best advice on how to perform exotic dance for beginners. *And* it's full of pictures.

    As for the DVDs/videos, forget them. I've seen them and they did not help me at all.

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