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    I have a friend who wants to enter an amateur competition with myself and another friend but...well...this is the touchy part. Me and my friend Jen look the part, have a dance background, etc... and the other friend definitely doesn't...to the point she'd likely be turned away immediately. We're not quite sure how to discourage her to save her the embarassment since she's so gung ho about doing the amateur night. Oh, and to save myself from just looking like a bitch and not a caring friend (which I'm trying to be), this girl is probably 5'3 and a good 170 pounds. I'm no lightweight either (5'7 and 145) but Im just trying to stress that this isn't a sour grapes sort of issue.
    I don't know if this has happened to anyone else, I'm just worried that it'll destroy her self esteem if I can't gently discourage her from doing this.

    Please help, any input or suggestions are very welcome!

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    Default Re: touchy situation

    Let her go through it. Help her if she asks. See what happens. If it's a negative experience, be there for her.

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    Unfortunately, this sounds like a no win situtation. If she does it, she'll likely be tunred down and hurt. If you discourage her, she'll feel hurt cause she'll think her friend doesnt support her. Sucks.

    My advice is to let her do it. Help her out with stuff. It's better to do that and be a friend, and be there for her afterwards, than it is to be the one saying she shouldnt do it. Besides, she might not even see it as such a big deal if the experience is negative, she might be able to just shrug it off, you never know.

    Good luck with whichever you choose though

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    Besides if it turns out good it can make her feel really good...and if not so good then it happened for a reason.

    Just be a good friend to celebrate her or help her if things go sour. Thats all you can really do. If you say she might get turned away then shell think you dont believe in her as a friend.
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    I agree with the others let her do it and support her no matter what occurs.

    You could maybe try to lessen a potential negative result by helping her pick out something to wear that helps hide some things and shows off her better assets.

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    Thanks girls, this helps me out a lot...wish me luck though. I've got the feeling it's not going to turn out good either way.

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    I agree with the other ladies. Let her do it and support her as a friend. It could turn out ok. Try to think positive.
    I comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.

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    im 5'5 and did an amateur night once when i was 170 lbs

    I came in seccond... lost to the damn waitress.. lol

    so you never know.. could go well.

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