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    I turned eighteen this month and I need to save up money for school. I have about a million questions that need answers before I get up the nerve to call up Deja Vu and ask how I audition to become a dancer.

    First of all, I'm terrified of going in there and being expected to go up on stage and dance without knowing what to do. I don't know the first thing about costumes, shoes, songs, underwear... Do I need to pick out songs to dance to? What kind of costumes do I need?

    I'm not sure I'm ready for this. I've never even had a job before.

    As for lapdances, table dances, etc... again, I have no clue. Do you touch him or just tease him? When you're on the floor, what are you wearing? (Costume, lingerie, nothing???)

    Thank you
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    First of all,DO NOT go to Deja Vu.They are the worst strip club franchise.My second piece of advice,go to some strip clubs one night as a customer and take notes.Observation is one of the best learning tools.
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    Default Re: scared out of my mind

    Uh oh, what's wrong with Deja Vu? There are other strip clubs in Seattle, but I really don't want to work there because they don't allow lapdances anymore. Outside of Seattle, my options are pretty limited.

    Great idea to check out the clubs first. I just need to wait for some of my friends to turn eighteen! Thank you for the advice

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    Deja Vu basically extorts money from dancers every night.On top of the exhorbant house fees,you have to give them $5 per lapdance.Do the math.That's BS.
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    in philly 5 dollars per dance is standard... with house fee, dj fee, and housemom fee
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    That's ridiculous.
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    I am also eighteen and was scared out of my mind I got asked to work at a club the first time I ever went to one, the best advice I can give you is don't try to be the best the first time there, ease into it feel out the other dancers and see which ones might be nice enough to help you .(some veterans are bitches and won't help you) especially if you've never had a job before, but being a dancer isn't really like any other job, you do not want to touch the cutomers that is going to make them keep coming back and thinking there going to get more, a decent man in a strip club knows there not going to get anything, thing of a strip club as a real live playboy mag you can look but can't touch, have diginity and class about yourself don't come off to slutty and sometimes there is a time the clubs aren't open some owners let girls go in and practice pole tricks, but my best adivce is to go to the club as a customer and try and find a nice girl and talk to her about dancing maybe you can ask when she is working next and would she be willing to help you out

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    I agree go check out clubs take notes.. even if its by yourself. Just tell them you want to get into dancing and want to see what the clubs are all about. Also another thing that has worked wonders for me... waitress or bartend in a SC. Thats what I did to get an idea for what goes on on the 'inside'. I've learned a lot from waitressing in a SC and now im starting to dance next week. So just read this forum from page to page the girls here are amazing and have posted many tips and advice... check out SC's and if you want try working in one as something other then a dancer first. Good luck with everything and welcome

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    the best way to be at ease is to just go to the clubs! some don't even ask for auditions. at mine, i was hired based on looks (many do that) because as the owner put it "none of the customers care if you can dance all fancy. everyone cares about your face & body." the best thing to do is get hired somewhere...and then go hang out there a few times a week before you start working. introduce yourself to the girls, boucners, etc. have a soda with management. feel out your surroundings. watch the girls...see how they dance...how they dress.
    as for clothing, have fun! dress like a sexy nurse if you want! or just stick to your basic micro mini skirt, bikini top and gstring. shoes neeed to usually be 4in or taller...at my club...as for rules on what to wear when u are walking around, you must be wearing a top and something over your gstring. and shoes of course.

    here is a website with some cute and pretty inexpensive outfits!


    best of luck and don't stress!

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    Ivy18, go do a search on the forum and read all you can about Seattle. I think you will find that the Seattle strip club scene is NOT good. The house fees are outrageous, you have to get an exotic performer license (read: on your permanent record), there is full service going on at Rick's for sure, and lots of extras going on at other clubs in the area. Unless you want to be stroking off some 50 year old guy's cock for $20 a song to cover your $150 house fee, look elsewhere for your first dancing job.

    Obviously, not every dancer in the area is doing extreme extras, and not every club is allowing extreme extras, but you could probably do better in Houston, money wise, and less extras.

    Oh, and the lap dances might be illegal, but I'm pretty sure that they are still going on. The clubs have another 9 months to comply with the new laws, in the mean time their lawyers are fighting this new law with everything they got.

    I would recommend trying Portland as your first dancing expierence. Do still visit the clubs in your area, because most of the clubs in Oregon serve alcohol, so you won't have the advantage of being able to just hang around and observe. So check out the clubs in your area for stage dancing ideas.

    Here is your stripper training to do list:
    1. Visit all the clubs you can stand in your area, and watch what the other dancers do on stage, what they wear, and how they hustle.
    2. Read all you can here in Stripperweb. Especially "Hustle Hut" and costumer conversation. Also check out www.stripclubjunkie.com and get and idea about the kind of guys you'll be meeting on a daily basis.
    3. Try to find an ametuer contest to participate in. If it isn't available, try just going for an audition, w/o expecting to work at the club you auditioned at.

    The reason why the dancers hate Deja Vu is because they take over large markets, then muscle out the little clubs (kinda like wal mart). Then they charge both their dancers and their customers gobs of money to be there, and they have a cut throat corporate attitude. They don't care about you as an individule, all you are to them is a paycheck. And if you stop pumping out the cash on a regular basis, you're not just out of a job at the one club, but out of a job in the whole city because they now own everything! That is why so many dancers resort to doing extras at this kind of club. Just to keep working for a little while longer.

    Just from your post, I gather that you aren't ready to dance yet. You need to explore this work option before you just jump in with both feet. OTOH, I wish I had started dancing when I was just 18.

    I have been dancing over 7 years, and have worked in Alaska, Montana, Idaho, Oregon, North Dakota, South Dakota, and Nevada (Reno and Las Vegas). I danced in Washington one day. ONE. That was enough. I'm no shrinking violet, and the scene there was baaaaaadd. I am happy to do private parties in Washington, and I know tons of girls too timid to do private parties, but I will never again dance for a Washington club.


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    I just realized that you just turned 18 a month ago. Are you still in high school? I graduated high school when I was just 17, so maybe you did too?

    The reason why I ask is the answer will change my opinion from my previous post. If you are still in high school I want to encourage you to concentrate on your schooling. It is still free for you. Your parents are paying your basic expenses, and school is so important, I'd hate to see you lose sight of the most important thing in your life right now, getting your education.

    College has been around since before the time of Jesus. It will be around when you are 19 and have saved some money to go.

    If you are already out of high school, look into traveling away from Washington to dance. Oregon and Montana are friendlier options where the money is okay (not fabulous, but it won't cost you much to go to work either). And both states allow minors to dance in alcohol serving bars. They are a little more strict in Oregon then in Montana, but still you can work in bars, and not just juice bars like in California.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Hi Ivy18, it sounds like I'm in the same situation as you are. I'm not sure if I'm ready to start dancing, maybe I just overthink it sometimes and scare myself by thinking I can't do it. I didn't know much about it just a few months ago, but now that I looked into it, I really don't think it's that easy. It takes a lot of physical and mental strength, and I admire the girls who do this. I can't really give you any advice on how to get started in your town (I'm from nyc) but emotional support is very important and Im sure you can find that here!!!! Good Luck!!!

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    ivy- i agree with alot of what paris has to say. by the way, in washington, are you allowed to serve alcohal if you arent 18? serving alcohal can be more lucrative than dancing in some cases (particularly in places with high stage fees and lots of dancers...) marcy who is in ny can bank serving martini's at a lounge in manhattan. there are 2 week bartending courses that have job placement once you finish. another alternative to dancing right away is waitressing- i have friends who walk out with $200-$400 on a really good night, and they dont take their clothes off to grind on men's penises. if you decide to dance, check out 2 or 3 clubs in one night to compare their atmosphere. where will you feel best? i dont know the laws about alcohal in washington clubs, but if you have the option of dancing at a place with alcohal, i would suggest it. i know you are underage and cannot technically drink, but i like the clientele i meet at alcohal clubs much better than ones without. and i started when i was 19 at a full-nude, no alcohal, no money place that was really skeevy. good luck to you

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    wait- when i asked about serving alcohal i meant can you serve alcohal in washington when you are not 21?

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    ivy- i agree with alot of what paris has to say. by the way, in washington, are you allowed to serve alcohal if you arent 18? serving alcohal can be more lucrative than dancing in some cases (particularly in places with high stage fees and lots of dancers...) marcy who is in ny can bank serving martini's at a lounge in manhattan. there are 2 week bartending courses that have job placement once you finish. another alternative to dancing right away is waitressing- i have friends who walk out with $200-$400 on a really good night, and they dont take their clothes off to grind on men's penises. if you decide to dance, check out 2 or 3 clubs in one night to compare their atmosphere. where will you feel best? i dont know the laws about alcohal in washington clubs, but if you have the option of dancing at a place with alcohal, i would suggest it. i know you are underage and cannot technically drink, but i like the clientele i meet at alcohal clubs much better than ones without. and i started when i was 19 at a full-nude, no alcohal, no money place that was really skeevy. good luck to you

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    First thing: relax

    If you're new, they'll expect you to look new, even nervous. Check out the girls for simple moves that you know you can do without falling. If you do fall, it's okay to laugh at yourself, too. If anything, at first, you're not expected to do any heavy dancing. The guys just want you to move around a little. I've heard that vacuuming in heels will help you get used to them, although I found it took just a few days of being on the floor.

    Cally's idea to waitress first might help you to become more relaxed in the SC setting. The tips are can be higher than just normal waitressing, too. Most states allow you to serve and sell alcohol when you're over 18, you just can't drink until 21.

    If anything, you need to at least patron the clubs you're considering. If you bring a guy friend it may allow you to know what extras are going on - have him buy some dances. Some clubs allow touching, some don't, and some allow hella lot more. Bringing a girl friend, too, may make you feel a little "safer" 'cause you can loosen up with some conversation. The girls may even like you and talk to you, but be careful not to waste their time w/ a ton of unwanted questions.

    If you can relocate, find the best clubs in the country to work in. It really doesn't hurt to start at the top.

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    Oh, and the audition really won't be so bad, but it's normal to be scared sh**less. When you call about the audition ask the time you'll be on, when you need to be there, and what their costume requirements are. It varies by club, some you need a special thong or to wear a gown. Also ask if you need to bring your own music, and bring your favorite song anyway, just in case. You might even check out auditions the week before, but don't be intimidated. Some of the girls are not ametaurs and have danced at other clubs for years. Show up in makeup and ready to change into costume, regardless if they'll give you time to get ready or not. It'll make you more confident.

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    dont listen to everybody who says dejavu is bad...different girls have different experiences

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