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    How would you guys have handled this? A guy came into the club last night that had spent some $ on me 2 weeks ago. I went over and said hi, while talking to him another dancer yells to him--I'm on stage, come over here. He excuses himself, says he wants a dance from me later.

    He spends alot of time with this girl who called him over. 2-3 hours later I see him by his self, I go over and talk to him. He asks for a dance, and as we are walkinig back into the PD area, he sees the other dancer, who has brought another guy in for a dance. She scowls at him and he looks at me terrified. We wait until she goes in and then go get some dances.

    Later the dancer walks by me and says "he is my regular" in a nasty tone, I say "he is my regular too." I told my manger what happened. I end up sitting w/ the guy again, the other dancer sits down very near to us and stares at us the whole time. He tells me that he would really like dances from me, she is scaring him, is rude and forceful, and that she is being way too clingy. He says that he would really like some time to stage tip and just hang out but he can't because she is always on top of him. But he is clearly too much of a pussy to stand up to her!? Because he got alot of dances from her.

    Anyway she goes on to talk to him at my stage (a BIG no no in my club) to get him to leave w/ her and glares at us whenever we talk. Most of the time we interacted it was initiated by him, not me, so its not like I was trying to take him away. He clearly wanted to spend time with me. At one point she walked over to our table and asked him for $ that he owed her. (Also a BIG nono--always get your $ right away and 1 dancer per guy at a table).

    All I did was tell the manager and nothing came of that what would you guys have done? Also, why did this guy spend so much time with her? Do you think he was feeding this when he said things like he didn't really like her to get us to fight over him? Why can't dancers share customers, he had lots of $ to go around and its not like I expected him all to myself. Also, guys if a dancer treated you like this would you continue to be her regular? Why would he? Thanks, Jenna

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    Both of them sound nuts, imho. She sounds like a psycho controlling bitch and he sounds like a submissive who is into being controlled, but is also into some weird head trip about it, and yes, I think he was feeding it, consciously or unconsciously. But maybe you can bank off him if you want to take the chance of dealing with some bs drama... maybe you can tell him to come in one night when you are working and she is not...

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    Obviously the guy needs some lessons in self confidence. Your rival has obviously picked up on in and is using it to her advantage. I really don't think there is a whole lot you or the management can do about this. There's usually not much you can do for a victim until he/she asks for help. If someone treated me like that I'd let them know immediately that I , as a customer have no binding obligation to any merchant, they do not call the shots, I do. I'd report it to the management and tell her to shut up.
    In the meanwhile don't make an issue about competing over a guy. Just keep yourself available in case he changes over. Keep reporting any infraction you observer her committing. Eventually she will put herself over the top and get ejected.

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    dont mind her, work your custy and forget about her. Just blow her off.
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    Yeah, totally blow her off. Keep in mind that girls can get very posesive of big spenders. It happens a lot at my club and we all get along great compared to most. You could try talking to her in the dressing room. Just tell her that he has been in several times to see you also so if you are both there one night when he comes in, you can both ask him which he would rather sit with or whatever. If you are nice to her about it maybe she will see how big of a bitch she is being and back off. Just make sure not to be rude as that may lead to a nasty fight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna78
    He tells me that he would really like dances from me, she is scaring him, is rude and forceful, and that she is being way too clingy. He says that he would really like some time to stage tip and just hang out but he can't because she is always on top of him. But he is clearly too much of a pussy to stand up to her!? Because he got alot of dances from her.
    Sounds like he's trying to use you as a shield to get away from her. I'd tell him politely that he's the customer, it's his money and his choice to either spend it how she wants or how he wants, and if he wants to spend time with me, then he's going to have to take control of the situation by not allowing her to dictate terms nor psych him out. Then I'd disengage until and unless he toughened up. I wouldn't make it my problem, but that's just me. If it continues the way it's going, I figure it'll only lead to ongoing stress and diminishing returns.

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    Hmm. They are both mental... he obviously likes her drama, or he wouldn't have still been spending money on her and following her every whim. I wouldn't even bother with this cusomter anymore, you can always make your money off another dude....and it sounds like she's his favorite, anyhow, or he wouldn't be ditching you to run up to her stage. So just ignore both of them, IMHO. There's always another customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej
    dont mind her, work your custy and forget about her. Just blow her off.
    YAAAAAYYYYY AMY can post!

    Honestly, take him for what money you can get, move on. You don't need the headaches unless he's handing over $$ thats worth it!
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