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    Uhm, say objectively you're a dancer and you get propositioned so much it sounds as interesting as the weather (fairly common, surely), but then when the DJ starts really hitting on you, there's just something about him...

    It's too embarrassing to say this is what's happening to me, but ...! To fall for vaguely authoritative older male figures (in the past, two high school teachers, a couple friends of my dad's, a university prof...) is in my history, and it's messed up, I'm aware, but it's just there. So now this Dj...it's pretty obvious he's trying to sleep with me, and I should see through it and god knows why I'd want to sleep with him so much allofasudden...dammit! the way he looks at me on stage...ok ok. You get the picture. He treats me different and seems all hitting on me now, but honestly, how many times has he pulled this? and why the hell is it working? do djs have special stripper seducing powers? haha, because it's all too effective, but so wrong, I know!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon
    do djs have special stripper seducing powers?
    The answer to that question is actually rather complicated...Mr Christopher, Phillydj and I all have mystical dancer seduction powers, some mere mortal djs have them also but they lay dormant...
    I think what you are actually experiencing is the reverse osmosis powered stripper power of dj seduction...

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    Although it usually is a bad idea to have a relationship with co-wokers, I married my dj. If you like him and want to start dating him or just sleep with him, do it. The important thing is that you do what you want to do. Maybe he really does like you. I think if you want to, go out with him. Who knows, you could turn out like me and fall in love. I am going to have little babys with my dj. lol. I love him very much and he is good to me.
    and for the record, i dont think djs havespecial stripper seducing powers. just certain djs for certain strippers. lol

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    My last DJ had stripper suducing powers - and now our daughter is asleep on my lap!
    I actually think dating him made me more money becouse when we fought I`d delibratly start being "overly affectionate" (I`m not talking about extras - don`t worry) to customers sitting right outside the booth to get him worked up, lol.
    We aren`t togather anymore, had a pretty shitty relationship - I got pregnant shortly after meeting him and got jelouse that I was at home, "fat", while he was at work with a ton of hot chicks.
    We`re trying to work on our friendship for our daughter`s sake, tho.

    Good luck to you and your Dj

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    The best way to deflect sinister DJ game is to immediately tell everyone else who works with you about how bad he wants to fuck you. Lay it on super thick, and make sure you say it loudly in the presence of at least two of the girls who have worked at the club forever and probably know him. Don't be snotty about it, just very sincere and for extra impact, detailed. Pump everyone, including the bartenders, bouncers, and bathroom host, for information and tell them that you're thinking about "really going for it, like for real."

    Then go make your rounds. By the time you get back... it'll be a year before he makes eye contact with you again, yet somehow you will always get your songs played.
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    Lord. I have dated a dj...all I can say is it's tons of fun while it's good, but when it goes bad, as I promise you it will, you are going to have to switch clubs. If you like the club you work at, don't play this game. Take it from one who knows. My favorite club....yah, I can't work there anymore. Hmmm... It's been six months though so I'm thinking about going back, but....hmmm....bad move on my part, really. Oh well, it was EXTRA HOT while it lasted....

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    I'm on the "go for it, but cautiously" side. I am marrying one of my DJ's also. But when we first started dating, we actually dated. Dinner, movies, long talks....we didn't sleep together right away.

    You'll do fine if you treat this lilke any other guy you meet OTC. Don't let your hormones get the best of you right away and you'll know if he's for real. I must add though, that we don't work together anymore. That would screw with my money too much. First things first, LOL!

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    I agree with vegasbebe...I would say don't do it! I'm glad it works out for some people, but they are in the very small minority.

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    wow....it works sometimes??i have never dated a d.j before...but i have worked in SEVERAL clubs and i SWEAR every dj has been overly friendly....some just absolutely disgusting and very disrespectful. but you know what....after they realized i wasnt having it...they Quickly moved on to the next gurl.they date.....there is a bunch of drama...accusations....my current club...pregnancy...then they split up.....then next thing you know they are withsome one else from the club. THEY WORK SOMETIMES??? ALL I CAN SAY IS.........WOW

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    Yeah, Flutterby has it right. Thats about the way it always happens. The ones that it work out for are a rarity.

    I like the idea redredred had.... if he really does like you and isn't just using his stripper seducing powers (and god knows he's learned how to use them) then he will talk to you about it (*use more stripper seducing power) instead of avoiding you.
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    Just remember that your DJ probably has banged a few dancers who work in your very club. Think about it. Ew.

    I tried to get with my DJ once. He stood me up twice, and I felt like a tool. Also, his ex worked with us. She is by far the sweetest person in the world. But, when she found out that I was calling her ex, she avoided me for a long while, until one day, she exploded and told me that he used to beat her and if I wanted to see pictures and police reports, she would show them to me.

    No more finding dates at work. Nope, never again.

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    Haing been in this business for twelve years I can say yes we seasoned DJ's have seductive powers otherwise none of us would get laid! I say this after two LONG term relationships with dancers one ending in marriage. Gotta have 'em cause I always shoot way out of my league! That is also what gives a DJ staying power in this business is to make it through a night and make a couple ladies smile in the process.
    I say dig up some dirt and decide for yourself.
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    Well...girl...I can RELATE...I'm in love with my DJ, who is married!! No worries, I have not slept with him...he makes it very clear he will never cheat on his wife! I feel like a tramp chasing him, but there is (like you said) SOMETHING about him that drives me wild...sigh.... Let me know how your situation winds up...I think Im gonna walk away from my situation...no happy ending for anyone there...

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    Default Re: getting seduced by the dj

    What's the difference between being seduced by someone and simply falling for them?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica
    What's the difference between being seduced by someone and simply falling for them?
    The fact that there's a power imbalance tilted decidedly in one person's favor at the expense of the other.
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    I also was seduced by the dj.........and to copycat someone upthread, now our son is asleep in the other room!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by red red red
    The fact that there's a power imbalance tilted decidedly in one person's favor at the expense of the other.

    I don't exactly know what you mean by power imbalance. Is there supposed to be a power imbalance between a DJ and a stripper?
    Whatever your definition of power imbalance is, isn't there always or is mutual attraction only something that can be possessed by equals?

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    This is a definite no no. Dont date people fromthe club you dance at.
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    "Dont fish off the pier at work applies to many"

    *Looks at Blade* The seduction is strong with this one.

    Either way, you just need to go with whats feels right. And be protected. But of course, understand the rammifications of something like that afterwards, if him losing interest in you and going after someone else doesn't bother you, fug the shiz outta him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica
    I don't exactly know what you mean by power imbalance. Is there supposed to be a power imbalance between a DJ and a stripper?
    Whatever your definition of power imbalance is, isn't there always or is mutual attraction only something that can be possessed by equals?
    The power imbalance lies in the fact that the DJ can control the environment they both work in, and she can't. She relies on his service to perform her job, on top of being brand new in an environment he is already comfortable in. Because of this, she's risking a lot more than he is if the two of them become involved and keep working together. That's not fundamentally wrong, but it is sort of ethically unfair, and if she's going to mess around with this guy she needs to understand that the cards are stacked against her.

    From reading the first post, I got the impression that this dynamic is something the poster is familiar with and enjoys. In fact, it didn't seem like she liked the guy for any reasons beyond his flirting with her from a position of power, making the whole thing "forbidden." This makes it sound less like mutual attraction to me and more like big drama that could just as easily be avoided.
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    ^^^It's true, hence the profs and teachers thing. I don't *usually* let things go anywhere beyond serious flirtation and maybe innocuous 'dates' (if that's vague, I mean I usually don't sleep with them)- because I know it's f-ed up. Because deep down I know there is no real reason to like these guys, and that it is some stupid authority fetish. Dammit. But I think I'm already starting to get over him...unless I leave this club soon for the better one in town, which I am considering...in that case, it might not be so bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon
    ^^^It's true, hence the profs and teachers thing. I don't *usually* let things go anywhere beyond serious flirtation and maybe innocuous 'dates' (if that's vague, I mean I usually don't sleep with them)- because I know it's f-ed up. Because deep down I know there is no real reason to like these guys, and that it is some stupid authority fetish. Dammit. But I think I'm already starting to get over him...unless I leave this club soon for the better one in town, which I am considering...in that case, it might not be so bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by red red red
    The power imbalance lies in the fact that the DJ can control the environment they both work in, and she can't. She relies on his service to perform her job, on top of being brand new in an environment he is already comfortable in. Because of this, she's risking a lot more than he is if the two of them become involved and keep working together. That's not fundamentally wrong, but it is sort of ethically unfair, and if she's going to mess around with this guy she needs to understand that the cards are stacked against her.
    Well if controlling the environment determines power imbalance then I'd think the plumber, the roofer, the electrician even the building inspector has a lot more power than them. She isn't falling for one of them is she?
    If seniority counts, what if she has more senority than the doorman? Is that a power imbalance? I don't think many people walk into situations where the cards aren't stacked in one or the others favor. That doesn't stop them from becoming involved. I still don't see how this counts as a seduction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica
    Well if controlling the environment determines power imbalance then I'd think the plumber, the roofer, the electrician even the building inspector has a lot more power than them. She isn't falling for one of them is she?
    If seniority counts, what if she has more senority than the doorman? Is that a power imbalance? I don't think many people walk into situations where the cards aren't stacked in one or the others favor. That doesn't stop them from becoming involved. I still don't see how this counts as a seduction.
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    Default Re: getting seduced by the dj

    DJs and Strippers, what a plot for a drama series.

    DJs are there all the time, some trying to find some pretty dancer who's buttons they can find a way to push. Some practice this all the time. And you know why. What's the chances, if you have sex with him, that he will find he is "not into you after all" and keep on looking to "conquer" the new gals who haven't learned yet? Honestly, this is one of the most common JOB HAZARDS. So it is pretty common. Is it not?

    Of course it could end up as a fairy tale story. But not very likely.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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