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    I made a horrible mistake by quitting my job about two weeks ago and now I want to go back but I don't know what to tell them. I didn't go back for a few reasons. The money wasn't bad but I thought I could do better somewhere else. I live in Maryland and I was going to go up to Northern NJ (I have family up there.) and try out some of their clubs. When I was visiting my parents I told them about this and they told me that this was not a good idea..that I could get myself killed..etc. My father said the roads were a nightmare to take up there and that I'd be spending about $130 on the hotels after I paid the NJ tax. They really put alot of fear in me and I would also be going up there by myself so I decided that I'd stick around in MD for a little longer and try out another one of the clubs around here. So yesterday I went to this club by Baltimore and I got there a few minutes before the auditioning times were over and the manager told me that I was cutting it to close and to come back here tomorrow. I came back today and another manager told me I could audition but I'd have to come back again tomorrow and audition because she's not one of the hiring managers. I mean that was stupid and I was mad because it took me about 45 minutes to get there with all of that traffic and that wasn't fair. So now I really want to go to the club I was previously at. I was only there for about two weeks and I should have just given it a chance. It was stupid that I quit but what do you say to the manager when they'll ask me..why didn't you call and say you weren't going to come back in? I was thinking of saying I made a mistake and I am sorry for not coming in but I think this is the best club for me and I would like to know if I could have a second chance? How does that sound? I'm sorry for making this thread so long. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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    Default Re: I should have stayed

    I don't know about how other clubs are, but my club would hire back a dancer that quit. As long as you didn't cuss anyone out or leave on bad terms I don't think they will care. Dancers come and go at my club and it doesn't seem to be a big deal. Good Luck! Jenna

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    Default Re: I should have stayed

    Are you sure it's a problem? Just call them and see if you can't come back.

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    Okay, first of all, how did you quit?

    If you simply told them you couldn't come in any more....then just go in and ask if you can work there again, because you decided that you don't want a day job. Apologize for quitting. don't say, "oh, my day job fell through" or whatever excuse you made fell through...make it sound like you tried another option, and you liked dancing much better, and you won't quit again.

    Okay, if you made a big horrible scene and quit, umm...different approach. Go back into the club...ask to speak to the manager. Smile sheepishly, and sincerely apologize. Tell him you wanted to come back before but were to embarassed. Say you know you misbehaved, and you're sorry, but someone you know just died that week and you were really upset.

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    It sounds like she just didn't show up for her last shift and didn't call in either.

    If that is the case Sasha then I would just show up, have a drink at the bar , talk to the manager and ask if you can work the next available shift. I would be surprised if you get a no answer.

    You sound young and sweet so if you are a cutie too then most managers would be happy to have you back.

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    Thanks for the feedback guys! Yea, I didn't show up and didn't call or anything so I'm afraid they won't let me come back because of that. The club charges a $100 fine if you call out so I'm afraid they won't let me work there again with my situation. I'll give them a call tomorrow.

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    I once disappeared form my first club for two months. When I came back in with my tail between my legs, the manager didn't even notice that I had been gone.
    "This above all: to thine own self be true."

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    Sasha, good luck in getting back into your old club...I don't think you'll have a problem.

    But, your parents were wrong with what they told you about Northern NJ. If you have any questions and decide you want to try it out up here, please PM me and I'll give you the rundown.

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    Oh my gosh, I just called now and I ended up sounding so stupid! Everything was going fine in the beginning but when he asked why I quit I said Oh, I felt like I wasn't doing that well up on stage but I'd still like to have a second chance and he said What? You weren't making any money? I said no I was making money but I felt like I was not as good at the dancing as the other girls and I lost a little bit of coinfidence in myself but I'd like to come back to work here. He said Well let me get your number and I'll have to talk with the other two managers about this. They'll never let me work there again after saying that so I'm going to start packing and I'm going to head up to NJ. You don't audition to work here..you have an interview and I basically told them that my dancing sucks over the phone and I also sounded like a complete loser.

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    Default Re: I should have stayed

    Sasha04, and all newbies for that matter listen very carefully:

    The clubs need you more then you need the clubs.

    Now obviously you have to pour on the charm, and don't be an ass about it, but just remeber they need you more then you need them. There are always plenty of clubs, and new places to work.

    When calling to get your name back on the schedule, behave like you are doing THEM a favor, not the other way around.

    "Hi, Mr. Club Manager, this is Paris. I just wanted to let you know that I'm available to work next week, and wanted to put my name on the schedule. Thanks".

    If they ask you why you haven't scheduled take it to mean that they really love you and want you to work at their club as much as they can possibly get you. A good answer would to the question of not coming in for a while is:

    "Wow, has it been that long? I guess all the traveling up north to check out the scene there took a lot more time then I thought. You guys are great, and I'm glad to be back home."

    The implication is that you do like their club, and do want to work there, but that you really don't need to. Throwing in the compliment at the end of the statement is such an ass kisser move, but it totally works. You get what you want, they know that you are in control of your schedule, yet you threw in a little ass kissing just to let them know that you know how the game works. Male egos need a lot of attention, and you have acknowledged that.

    Girls who get this principal are the ones that you see getting away with doing whatever they want (seemingly), yet are still allowed to keep working at the club. If you show that you "need" your job management will smell that like dogs smell fear, and you will become their doormat.

    I know that this sounds really bad, but I have been "fired" many times, and usually within two weeks the clubs are calling me to come back to work for them . You can be the player or you can get played, that is just how the strip club game works.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    This is the same thing with me. When I first started dancing I treated it just like a regular job. I always arrived early, sucked up to the managment, and did everything they asked. Where did it get me? No where. At my new club I never work more then five hours, come in when I want, leave when I want, etc. I have been doing this for the entire year plus that I have worked there. I think everyone wonders how I get away with it but I do exactly what Paris said, I act like I don't need them.

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