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    Does it get easier to ask guys for dances? I usually wait until they ask me. I know I'm not going to make any money this way, but it's hard for me to ask. Is it one of those things that gets easier the more you do it?

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    Default Re: Does it get easier?

    Yes. It does. I remember when I first started dancing, I was 18, and scared. I would just sit there and hope that the customer asked for a dance. It gets better.

    Honestly, I know you're scared to ask right now, but the best way for you to get over your fear is just to suck it up and ask them for dances. You know how you are uncomfortable asking for a dance? So are a lot of men, so they will never ask you.

    I have a rule, in life. Whenever I have something that I'm scared to tell someone, I just say it really fast. It works!! Can't take it back once you said it right? LOL

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    Use your newness in your favor. Tell guys that you are new and nervous and that you're not sure how to ask them if they want a dance. It makes it easier for you since you're admitting you are nervous, and they'll tend to appreciate your honesty.

    It's an old sales strategy. I've been in sales for 15 years and I still use the "I'm new" thing.

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    Default Re: Does it get easier?

    ^ I used that for a while. Besides, it's not a total lie...espeically if you are "new" to asking THAT person for a dance.

    Anyways...it does get easier. The hardest part is realizing that the "No's" aren't personal. If you look at it all in a business perspective, it'll be a little easier than looking at it as a personal rejection.

    However, I must say...you need to start asking for dances. That's one of the only ways to start building up the courage to keep asking for dances.


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    Can i Just say as a semi regular patron of a few clubs here in melbourne. Us guys dont bite. try go for younger guys at first. but not too large of a group. If you club has a pool table start playing pool walk up to guys waiting at the bar and just chatter - chances are it wont be that guy you get a dance out of but one of the other guys near by

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    Quote Originally Posted by Komodo
    Can i Just say as a semi regular patron of a few clubs here in melbourne. Us guys dont bite. try go for younger guys at first. but not too large of a group. If you club has a pool table start playing pool walk up to guys waiting at the bar and just chatter - chances are it wont be that guy you get a dance out of but one of the other guys near by
    Not sure of what you mean by "don't bite". What are you there for, then?

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    A great many guys in clubs do not know how to talk to women...remember that. Next time you work look for the youngish guy sitting by himself looking around like he is waiting for something to happen...YOU are what he is waiting for...and if not, maybe the next one. Guys want to be approached by attractive women who ACT interested in them...especially if their shy and lack the confidence to talk to women...thats where you come in. Think about, you sitting by yourself or with your girlfriends not talking to the guys you are there for...this is not a junior high dance...entertain and make money.

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    OMG i remember when i first started dancing i was papping my self i, but after a while it got esier and i used to use the 'i'm new to this' line and it worked a treat! Then i had the curage to ask people etc then i started moving aorund to different clubs and stuff!

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    Default Re: Does it get easier?

    Yea it was pretty scary asking the first 100 times or so lol. I was just afraid of a "no" but this is sales and hearing no is part of the sales anyways. Although it would be spiffy if everyone starting saying yes everytime hehe.

    I would suggest to just start asking anyways..just to see what they say. Ask in a way that makes you feel comfortable. It can prepare you to hear no....besides the more people you asks the higher your odds are of making more money.
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    I've never had a problem approaching guys - and asking them if they'd like a dance. But I worked in retail before and just thought of it as the same thing - they come into your work and it's just your job to see if they would like to make a purchase seriously it's like the whole "can I help you" line, or "we're having a sale on sweaters" etc. At my club I've noticed some guys just aren't even aware of what is available, so I let them know as a sales girl type thing - "we have table dances for $10 and private one on one dances for $20 - we get to go in the back... have you ever had a private dance before?" I think someone on this board used a waitress analogy - how it's sort of the same as a waitress asking a guy if he'd like a drink. It's a little different than that, after all a drink isn't as personal as our bodies and our personalities - but that's what makes this business what it is, you have to be okay with selling yourself actually you should be a lot more than just okay with selling yourself - you should enjoy selling yourself.
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    Default Re: Does it get easier?

    I totally wait til guys ask me, but after posting a lot, and being more comfortable, I ask them, b/c I want to make $$ if they say no, then I move on, another bus is coming......It does help to have a few cocktails sometimes....

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