'Opposites attract', or 'we have so much in common' ?
Which is more important for a relationship?
Opposites attract
we have so much in common





'Opposites attract', or 'we have so much in common' ?
Which is more important for a relationship?
Having a ton in common is a nice thought and all, but I've found that situation seldom works out. My Husband now and I are total opposites, and it's worked great so far. Never run out of things to talk about, and it's never boring.
So.. Opposites attract, all the way.
My 2 major relationships, we were: the same person inside, dealing with others differently AND different people inside, dealing with others the same way......
Sadly, neither worked out. There's no magic bullet.
But I was happier with my opposite....it's true, you can learn from eachother....
Originally Posted by Rhiannon
I agree,
I am more interested in what I don't know already.
See when you date someone who has a ton of similarities, undoubtily you'll find something you're passionate about that she is too. But the subtle differences between the two of you in something your are so unbelievably into can cause some of the worst arguements.
I just know, that someone I can be interested in as a whole because of the things that make that person interesting <music, dress, style, attitude, looks> to me makes her that much more attractive, because I always feel like I am learning something from her.
Dead Weight need not apply.
People are not ruled by their memories.
I would rather be with someone opposite..imagine me dating myself...scary thought!
I've been humpin with DA MAHN IN DA MIRRAH!
People are not ruled by their memories.
My first husband was my complete opposite on all the subjects that counted. We had different political views, different life views. Although we enjoyed the same music and had a similar dressing style, that is pretty much where our similarities ended.
He was a homebody who loved his lazy boy and his remote. I need to be around people and need the stimulation of conversation. He was an introvert, I am an extrovert. He was very conservative and relgious, I'm anything but. He was very bad with money, driving us deep into debt, and eventually bankruptcy, I am very hard working and save my money for a rainy day.
So basically on the surface, we seemed to be very similar, but we were not.
My (current) husband and I seem to be opposite, but in reality we connect on all the levels that count. The things that you just don't see on the outside. So we have plenty to talk about, and we really enjoy each other's company, but when it comes to the important aspects of our relationship we are in total agreement.
I think a successful couple needs to have similar views on a few subjects to keep it together:
1. Sex- they need to be of the same mind set as to what is okay and what is not, and what is comfortable level of sexual activity (not one person wanting it all the time and the other only wanting it occasionally).
2. Money and finances- More couples break up because of this one issue then any other.
3. Morals and spirituality- People can be different religons, but still have the same moral standards.
4. Parenting- If you can't agree on this subject, your life will be hell.
So who cares if he loves country music and she loves heavy metal. It is those kind of differences that make the relationship interesting and fun.
So opposites and similarities are what make a realtionship work!
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Hmm...my long time on-again, off again boyfriend and I are total opposites. He gets up at 4:30 to go to work, I go to bed at 6 in the morning after working all night....(this kind of works out though bc we see each other before he goes to work, and when he comes home from work at 5 I'm awake, and when I go to work, he's either winding down or going out with his friends).
he's totally a neat freak, I'm super messy.
He hates when people raise their voice, I'm totally loud.
But, we have things in common too....moral views, we are both totally outgoing, have similar sexual needs and wants, etc.
So the differences end up being good...it makes us each more balanced, I think.





Wait...wasn't there a post exactly like this...like...a whole week or two ago??
Yeah.. But I guess that didn't take too well. Fizzled out after 8 posts. It was kinda sorta like this one, but not really.





Ok...I was just like..."Wait...didn't I see this before?" Bah...oh well...I'm too lazy to answer this BS again.
You need an equal combination of both.





I think you need to have a happy medium of both.You need to have some things in common to have some common ground but yet have some things different to keep things fresh.
One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.
一个女人的枢机规则:肢体可以伪造,一切必须真实.
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Me + Sandy
Opposites attract. lol.




Originally Posted by Tiff_7_17
so you're a hairy, mannish chick? is this what you're telling me?
I don't know what would be worse...
Me actually being a hairy mannish chick, or you flying from Boston to see it.![]()
It is sort of hard to have a relationship with someone if you have really opposite views on the way you want to live your life, i.e., family, money, religion, etc. Also if you interests are really different it can get really difficult. My boyfriend is obsessed with comic books, action figures, bizarre movies and I just get soooo tired of hearing him go on and on about stuff that I have no clue what he's talking about. I think it's good to have some things different about each person or else it would be boring but sometimes I think if you are too opposite it's really a problem.





OTB and Amity have the best answers in my opinion.
You can't be too far away and you can't be too close - for best results. Too far away in temperament and you fight about everything because it just isn't you. Too close and you fight the same world together because both of you have the same weaknesses and important things just don't get done; really you are both fighting and blaming each other without a more complete set of skills. Look up temperament on google and take the test; both of you. It has confirmed my experiences very well.
I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.



I can't stand it when I disagree with my SO on just about everything. I've been there, and it's frustrating to say the least. I don't want a woman who will yes me to death either though. I like a woman who has similar tastes, interests, and beliefs.......but we don't have to agree on everything.
Scorpio and I are very different (he's Scorpio and I'm Taurus...) but we agree on the very basics. Monogamy, raising kids, rules, and honesty.
We have a lot in common, but we have a lot of differences as well. It's nice to have a hobby or like that he doesn't share in. It celebrates my individuality, but I know he supports me in that.
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