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    I was so happy when I stopped dancing a month or two ago. Really. I felt like all the psyche-damaging stuff was really getting to me, and I was happy to say all's well that ends well. Especially because I have a degree and want to be doing something beneficial in the world. But somehow, I keep thinking about dancing. It's not the money. When I left, I was lucky to make $200 a night because our club was doing really badly and had for a long time. But I miss DANCING. I never learned to pole dance as well as I wanted, and I liked being active and onstage. I miss buying pretty costumes. I miss the girls. I know I don't want to dance in SF again (and you girls in SF know why!!) but I'm thinking about moving to Portland next year and I just found myself checking out the Portland clubs in the clubs reviews, and wondering what the hell is with me. Are there any other girls out there, retired or once-retired, that have some insight?


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    I took almost a year off from dancing because I had my son. When I was gone I enjoyed it b/c I could sit at home and be lazy, didn't have to worry about the money b/c of my fiance' at the time. But I still missed it. I missed the companionship of my friends(dancers), and the excitement of the club. Mostly, I missed the confidence I had. I missed feeling so good about myself b/c I knew there were at least a hand full of men(and sometimes women) in that club that think I'm the most beautiful thing that walked the earth. When I was on stage I could see myself in the mirror behind the bar, and I actually believed I was that beautiful and graceful, which was something I had issues with when I was younger. I've been dancing for two years and still can't climb the pole but that doesn't matter. I make just as much money as dancers that do pole work only because I have so much self confidence on the stage that I can look any man in the eye and turn them on. That's what I missed so much.

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    I am completely with you, Autumn! Since I stopped, I have noticed a drop in my self confidence, partly due to the fact that I don't do the whole hair/makeup thing. I don't have the attention and adoration of coworkers and strangers alike appealing to my leo ego. The biz is calling me back!! Arrgh! Oh, and yeah, the only reason I think I'll step inside an SF club is to empty my locker (okay, maybe one stage set)! (Except the Hungry I, drinking there is FUN!)

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    i know what u mean about missing it. i haven't danced for about 5 months and lately it's really been callin me...i say give it a shot, i mean if you're moving to another location try it out and see if it's for you. it will be like a new start, and if u don't like it like you thought you would, you can always just quit. i say go for it

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    this job sucks sometimes big time. i love dancing but i think it's getting to me. i wish i could find someone and settle down. I rather shoot myself than being a stripper for years to come. i'll be one miserable lonely stripper. GREAT.

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    hee hee... Glamazon, I cleaned out my locker (at last) about two weeks ago, and it was one of the best nights of my life! If I do go back at some point, it will NOT be in a city where the custys expect so much contact. YUCK.

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    I just love that you used the word "hankering".
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    I took a break from dancing for about 4 months because I started working in an office. At first, I was so glad I didn't have to deal with horny guys and worry so much about my weight, but then I just started missing it. I couldn't stand the 9 to 5 BS, and people barking orders at me. I ended up quitting my regular job, and going back to dancing . In the end, it's fun.

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    alicia0033,
    I totally know what you mean. It gets to me too, but its the big money that keeps me doing it.
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    What makes it worse is that my best friend is working in Vegas again. (She hasn't worked much since I quit.) Out of 3 shifts she has worked in 7 weeks, her last 2 were fantastic. She did really well. Although I am not hurting for cash or wanting for anything, the thought being there at work and then leaving with my best friend, us both having had a good night is something I long for...it's weird, I guess, transitioning into my new life...

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    I have taken more than a year off at a time more than once . I have only started again to earn more income as my primary goal a few times in my early 20's.

    I am a happy housewife, so these days the money is a just bonus and a way to gauge how well I am doing in the endeavor. The main reason I go work clubs here and there is for a challenging hobby ~

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    I stopped dancing about a month ago in order to focus on school. I dunno, I have a very hard time doing two things at once, so dancing had to take a back seat. Now I cannot wait for this semester to be over so that I can get back to earing some cash for grad school. I wish I could be like some of the other people in my classes that know how to multi-task. I hate taking breaks but I know that it's the only way that I will remain sane. I just hope that I won't be too rusty. Or is it like riding a bike?
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    I did quit dancing for a couple years and bartended, and I missed it...

    I mean, as much as this job can suck ass, you can also get treated like a little pretty princess, and that's pretty fun.

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    I've been dancing for years off and on, never say never when it comes to dancing. I retired for 4 years and am back because everything else I tried was too much work for not enough money, plus my skills are limited. I love dancing [dreamed of being a rockette as a little girl and have been a club girl for years], dressing up [wish I could wear stilettos everywhere], being social [flirting my ass off], sitting while I work, drinking and doing it all in good lighting. If you still have the looks and find a fun and enjoyable club you should do it at least one night a week.

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    So nice to hear I'm not alone! Seriously, I wasn't even going to bother cleaning out my locker because I just kept thinking, "why bother? I'll never wear those shoes for anything again."

    Now that I'm back in SF again (instead of being in Portland), I'm thinking about dancing less, although the fact that my roomie and her friend are dancers and that we have a stripper pole in the kitchen brings it up quite frequently. Maybe Reno? Vegas is too damn far for me (but Glamazon, you should totally go for it). It's definitely a thought....

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    My situation right now is that I really can't work...my boyfriend is essentially taking care of me and we know how that goes. It's a trade-off...BUT, since he has never seen me dance, he has entertained the idea of me doing an amateur contest, just so I can get up on stage again and so he can see me on stage. Right now, I'm back in SF (just got back last night!) and I'm finally going to Showgirls to clean out my locker this week. It seems so final....

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    So, as luck would have it, my $$$ ran out and I found myself suddenly HAVING to dance again instead of wanting to. Of course, I felt depressed and couldn't remember a single reason I would want to dance again and wondered what I'd done to deserve such a thing (other than spending money like water and supporting my brother). But, taking Glamazon's advice, I decided to go audition at the Hungry I. It's been going great! The money isn't fabulous, but everyone who works there is really nice, and the guys are WAAAAY classier than at my last club... we're not talking about rich guys in Armani or anything, but really, the guys at Garden were just getting worse and worse and worse.

    Just thought I'd let y'all know.

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    Same here. Doing graduate program in Paris and had saved up enough from dancing not to need to work, or so I thought! Life is as expensive here as ever and cannot wait for my xmas vacation to make some more money. This program is the most difficult thing I will ever have accomplished academically yet; it is its own full time job and makes a normal life nearly impossible. Cramming two years into one for a Masters is serious business....I'm definitely missing the more comfortable and rewarding(well, at least financially and self-esteem wise) lifestyle as an entertainer but there's no way I can work out here because of how demanding my schedule is ....*sigh*..I like being in business for myself and having to only answer to me, for the most part. Now I am so "hankered" down by so many rules, schedules and different ways of doing papers, writing in an entirely different language, preparing a thesis.. and ...feeling like my heart is elsewhere....Rough, rough, rough....
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    I struggled with stopping dancing at clubs because I did love it, but I was doing enough private parties that it financially made up for it. I haven't danced at a club for awhile but am really wanting to go back to it. It sucks that I decided to do it in the winter again because I travel to clubs that are 2 hours away. But come February I am going to start again. I am excited but scared because I don't have a traveling partner this time and I am not going to rent an apartment there like I did before. I am still going to have about an hour drive to stay at a friends house, but I know it will be worth it. It's hard to stop completely, so maybe you can just do a day or two a month.
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