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    I got my signed employee referral, I guess it's true what they say: any girl who is remotely decent can get this job. I was wearing my street clothes with a hooded sweatshirt over it at night and casually asked if I could get a signed referral to work. I asked if I needed an audition but the manager simply told me that I can come in the next day at a certain time and start my first shift as long as I had my work card and business liscence by then. This was at a pretty high contact club and as I walked past some chairs along the wall I saw lapdancing in real life for the first time in my life! I know it's wierd but that was my first time ever in a strip club. It looks do-able but I was just wondering since it's so intimate and sexual, what was it like the very first time you gave a lapdance? Also, how did it occur, did the customer ask you for one or did you approach him and ask him for one or did you "hustle" him for one? It's going to be a bizarre experience. Now I'm not so scared about the stage but freaked out about my first lap dance. Also, do you get paid first then do it? Or you do it then get paid? What if they buy like four or more? How do you stop and ask for the money before you do more without seeming stingy or wierd? So many questions!!

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    Haha, I remember my first lap dance.. I had just changed into my stripper clothes, and was coming out of the changeroom with a girl I knew and I was soooo nervous.. This *old* man (had to be about 70-80) came hobbling towards us and the next thing I knew he was like grabbing my arm, not saying anything, and trying to take me into a VIP room with him. I didn't have to hustle at all with him, and it definitely helped me get over my jitters to have him as my first lap dance. I'm sure I wasn't that great, I just took off my clothes, tried to dance a bit...
    Ya the part about asking if they wanna go for more dances is still a bit awkward for me.. Usually guys will just know that they have to pay when they want to stop, so I hardly ever have to ask for the money. I wait till we are finished all our dancing before asking for money, though, if that's what you mean. It will make things flow better than if you have to stop and ask for money after every song!
    I bet if you tell the customer you're new they'll be a lot more understanding if you are nervous about your lapdancing skills. Just try your hardest to relax and feel the music and just feel sexy! Anways, good luck!

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    I felt weird. I followed what the other dancers were doing, which I've learned is a bad thing to do. He refused to pay me because he thought he should have gotten a newbie discount. I used to grind. I discovered that it really f*cked with my head and figured out how not to do it and give a good dance.

    I've been stiffed twice in the past year, no more than $40. Most customers are good for it, so I don't ask up front. I let them know when another song is starting as well as when they've reached 5. That's about it.

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    My first LD was in my opinion now, pretty poor. I mean I didn't want to straight grind in his lap but at the same time I was at a loss for what else I could do. So I turned around and rubbed my boobs all over him, smacked his head between them a few times, breathed in his ear. I had barely gotten my thong off and sat straddling him and all the sudden the song was over. I stood up grabbed my thong and said thanks and Bye, I totally forgot to get my money and he just sat there for a few minutes. When I saw him later that night I was like, uhm, that was my first LD and I think I really sucked, he said it was the best dance he'd ever had [liar] and gave me a $100 bill. I told him I would have to get some change [dumbass] and he said no change needed and then he asked when I worked again.

    So it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought, but that first time you really don't know what you are doing so just act like you are teasing your brand new boyfriend and it should start to feel kind of natural after that.
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    My first LD was last friday night. I just sort of walked over to a guy asked him his name and talked to him through about 2 songs then asked if I could dance for him. He said yes and since I had already watched a lot of the other girls, I felt very natural doing it. I actually like doing LDs more than being on stage, I was never nervous about LDing, but being on stage made my legs shake and go to jello. I only do one song at a time (since my legs get tired) and collect my money at the end of the song, except for private vip dances then I collect at the beginning, since a lot more money is at stake and I have to pay the bar asap. Just relax, smile and make lots of eye contact and you should be fine. Now if anyof you have any stage advice Im all ears

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    My first LD was comical! I used the newbie thing to my advantage. Let's say he wasn't really impressed. He was a regular at the club. I moved way too fast, and he only wanted 1 song! Luckily this dancer at my club helped me alot she said I reminded her of herself when she first started. It definately takes some time to get used to. I usually ask 4 the $$ up front, unless I know the custie, I have been screwed a few times!

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    Heh my first lap dance I spiked the guy in the nuts with my shoes(oops) I didnt know what I was supposed to do so I just kind of half grinded on the guy(without getting close to his you know). I dont really remember the rest... I had to ask him to go for a dance... he paid me and tipped me nicely and yea.... im still scared of giving LD's... I just kinda eye the other girls and see what they do. My club is kind of low contact, no grinding no grabing, only allowed to touch the girls back...

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    Are you by chance in Vegas? It just sounds like Vegas with the whole refferal sherrif's card business liscence thing. What club are you working at?

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    Quote Originally Posted by vegasbebe
    Are you by chance in Vegas? It just sounds like Vegas with the whole refferal sherrif's card business liscence thing. What club are you working at?
    Yeah, I'm in Vegas. I'm going to get my sheriff's card tomorrow. I'm still trying to figure out this business licence thing. I went to Cheetah's to get the referral since I learned they pass them out like candy and they have stacks of them already signed, which are all very true! I'm hoping to work at Spearmint Rhino, Scores or Club Paradise. But I'm also open to a place like Cheetah's or CH2. I asked the waitress about it and she directed me to the manager, she was really nice. I have to figure out which club to work at and audition next week after I buy an outfit or two and a pair of black heels and maybe one pair of boots. If I don't get hired at say Club Paradise, then I won't need to buy gown(s) and if I work at SR or something I can buy booty shorts and boots teehee.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phedre
    My first LD was in my opinion now, pretty poor. I mean I didn't want to straight grind in his lap but at the same time I was at a loss for what else I could do. So I turned around and rubbed my boobs all over him, smacked his head between them a few times, breathed in his ear. I had barely gotten my thong off and sat straddling him and all the sudden the song was over. I stood up grabbed my thong and said thanks and Bye, I totally forgot to get my money and he just sat there for a few minutes. When I saw him later that night I was like, uhm, that was my first LD and I think I really sucked, he said it was the best dance he'd ever had [liar] and gave me a $100 bill. I told him I would have to get some change [dumbass] and he said no change needed and then he asked when I worked again.

    So it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought, but that first time you really don't know what you are doing so just act like you are teasing your brand new boyfriend and it should start to feel kind of natural after that.
    Nice!! $100 for your very first lap dance! You must have made quite an impression on him .

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    my first dance i gave to a guy who comes in every now and then and was very friendly. He sorta did me a favor by letting me give him a dance so i knew how i did. We had a great time, i had the basics down, and afterwards he explained to me some things i could learn and do! It was really nice. (He's more of a friend than a customer type of guy)
    I didn't feel akward at all and I really enjoyed myself. I love to use the booths with the bars in them that we have!
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    My first LD was hilarious! My roomie came into the club that night, as a sort of mental support. About 10 minutes after I came out of the dressing room, he looked at me and asked, "can I buy your first official lap dance?" I thought he was just trying to be funny, but later realized that he really wanted to help me relax a bit. Being so nervous my first night working I was glad he was the first, I don't know what I would have done otherwise.

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    For my first I was to nervous to go up to guys and start talking to them. Some guy just turns to me and asks if he can have a dance. So I follow him back to vip. I work at a hard contact club but he sat on his hands and I asked him how often he goes to strip clubs. He says almost never (it might have been his first lap dance too!) After the song was over I completely forgot to ask him for another dance, but I did ask him to rate it and he said it was an 8 ( but he probably didn't known any better). My next dance that night was a guy who had fun playing teach the stripper. He bought several dances off of me and kept giving me polite suggestions like"blow in my ear" and "lean this way."

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    I actually got to do my first lapdance with someone I knew from my home club which didn't have them yet. So I was very comfortable. I kept it slow and sexy, light grinding, more brushing it than grinding. Not so bad.

    My second one I'll never forget. The guy bought one and I did what I had to do and then he asked for another so I kept going. Halfway through the song he says "I'm done". I told him the song wasn't over and that he had more time. He said "No you don't understand...I'm DONE...with a big smile on his face. I looked down and saw the stain on his pants, collected my money along with a very nice tip and went straight to wash up...eeeewwww! That's one reason I'm glad we do bikini here in NJ.

    Has this happened to anyone else?

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    I had bought lapdances as a customer before and loved them, but my first one as a dancer was quite different! It was nice though; it happened to be his first lap dance too so we had a great time. He was very enthusiastic and kept stuffing ones in my panties the whole time. By the time it was over I had made the $20 for the dance, plus a $10 tip, plus $15 in singles stuffed in my knickers. I wish they were all like that!

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    My first LD was seriously awful. I was sitting at the bar having a quick drink to relax me. This guy came over and asked for a table dance. I hadn't even seen anyone dance in the club yet.

    I didn't know what to do. I just kind of did something, put my clothes back on, and asked if he wanted another dance.

    He became a regular, but that first dance was awful. I quickly learned NOT to put my clothes back on. Ask to dance another song while you're still grinding on the customer! It ups your sales so much.

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    Hehe... this is easy, as it was only last Wed.

    I had been told to go to the bar, to scope out the girls. Well, the guy I sat next to immediately put his mack on me, telling me how beautiful I was, how he would never spend any money on me but would pay the rent to my apartment, etc. He was a car salesman, if that paints a better picture.

    Anyway. I finally said, Oh I guess I better walk around, to get away from his ass. Went to the other side of the room, where he followed me to 5 min. later and said, Oh I'm not THAT cheap, let me get some money from the ATM and I'll buy a dance.

    So then we went to the back, where I stood in front of him, kinda danced, and asked what happened in a lap dance. He said, Well, eventually your top comes off. I laughed, took the rest of my clothes off and just kinda danced and brushed my body on him, etc. I barely touched him at all, but he seemed happy enough.
    As much of an ass as he was, he didn't deserve any better.

    And the next guy taught me SO much- asking if they wanted to continue before I was done, making eye contact, etc.

    All in all, not too bad.

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    My first was with a newbie customer, thanks God! The barely legal seemed as scared as I was, but since I was to given part, I took the initiative... and everything went... well or so, hehehe.

    From that point to the present I do like working with newbies... because I can teach them how to feel the girl, how to let her do her work and enjoy it, starting soft to build up to very hard... and teaching "never finger a girl: do you kno how many STI could you, your girlfriend as well as us get in this way?" "if you are kind, the girl will appreciate and compesate you for that".

    Of course I also like to work with regular customers who dont want to take advantage of you, so I can expand my own erotic self... making them crazy!

    But, overall, I had no idea about how good could be the lap choreography until... the 6000 or so I performed, hehhee!

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    I was lucky enough to have a couple really nice dancers to show me the ropes. My first lapdance was actually paid for by the dancer who was helping me. It was really a new experience, my knees got tired right away but the guy was a real gentleman, so it wasn't bad.

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    I remember I couldn't believe it when the first guy I hustled said yes. haha! I've gotten so much better at doing dances since that one. Dont remember anything about him, but i remember right where he was sitting. I actually prefer lap dances to stage dancing. I'm not the "best" in the club at it, but it doesnt bother me. I carry myself and sell myself AS IF I give the best damn dance there. I feel like I have the upper hand when I'm giving a dance, as in--they already know they're spending $20 so they are in the mindset to sit back and enjoy, and i'm the one that is the frikkin gorgeous one right there closer than they could ever EVER get to me in real life, and aren't they lucky to have me right there at their seat?!?!?! With that mindset, that "power trip", the mechanics of the dance seem to come naturally, and eventually i swear you wont even think about what to do next etc etc.
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    I used to do lingerie shows in bars a few years before I started dancing so I just kinda wiggled my butt, and asked if I was doing it right. I was so nervous that I could feel my lip trembling. The guy was really sweet and seemed to appreciate my innocence. He tipped me 20 and made me feel better about not being as polished as all the other girls at that club.


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    "No you don't understand...I'm DONE...with a big smile on his face. I looked down and saw the stain on his pants, collected my money along with a very nice tip and went straight to wash up...eeeewwww! That's one reason I'm glad we do bikini here in NJ.

    Has this happened to anyone else?
    Unfortunately, it has and the sad part is I only danced for 3 SECONDS when he let himself do that. When I said something he tried to blame it on his beer. I made him tip me 50 and I gave him an air dance for the rest of the song.
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    Ok I'm very NEW. So this is going to be a dumb question. The club that hired me has VIP rooms where a curtain is closed when you in. I asked a few people what exactly goes on in there, and the reponse was pretty vague. I guess it varies from girl to girl. But, what is supposed to happen in a VIP room?
    Is it an understood thing that I'm supposed to grind on him until he "is done"?
    Or is it really up to me? Is the customer going to feel like he got jipped if I don't ?
    My plan was to start out with a couple of layers on so that I could stay busy taking things off and not have to grind too much. I'm not a prude, I just have a very sweet boyfriend who I love deeply. And I wouldn't be able to help someone "get done" without feeling like I'm cheating!

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    ^^ From what I've read on the site, grinding to "completion" is an extra. So you don't have to do it. But then, you shouldn't feel like you have to do anything you're really not comfortable with.
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    Speaking as a customer, if a customer "gets done" the dance is over. And there are several other issues to consider too, like cleanup, exposure, risk etc.

    (That completion thing should really be done in private, not at the club, and likely by the guy alone in his room.)
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    There are club rules, what is normal behavior in the club for dancers (most rules seem to be bent and/or broken), and then there are your personal limits. As you become accustomed to your environment you'll pick up on the first two.... as for your personal limits (what you will and won't PERSONALLY do regardless of what you see or hear others do)... establish them early on. Less compromise. Less regrets that way.

    I wish you the best.
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