Ladies, and I mean this with all respect and affection -Reading some of the posts around here, especially the hustle forums, and you would think that Dancers hate us customers. We either want to treat you like meat and get too much contact, or we want to talk too much instead of buy a grind, treat you like girlfriends and put you on a pedestal, or they are too business like in getting what they want or turning down what they don't want, meanwhile you all are ALL business -hustling, acting, closing the sale etc.
Its easy to see why its disapointing to not 'close the sale' when its your living, and its easy understand why customers who try to get personal are off putting, for a whole host of reasons esp. safety, and those who want real sex should see a hooker.
But come on. This isn't selling cars, its a very particular, intimate sort of personal service isn't it? A guy who wants just the facts mam, wham bam, should really just see a hooker or rent a porno, so is it really so bad that men look for some form of human connection? I'm not saying give us your real names or date us, just don't hate us for the natural consequence of being in a job that is about simulating intimacy.
And easy on the hustle automoton attitude huh? Ideally a sale is mutual benefit, not an act of predation on a victim. Would you like it if the masseuse shiatsuing away your pole work knots kept hustling you for another massage, and was angry if you didn't accept, went online to learn good put downs to throw at you?
I see posts ridiculing the idea that stripping is exploitive, but if the only way to prevent feeling exploited is to treat your customers like enemies, what's up there? I don't view the people I provide professional services to as prey or enemies.
Of course you want men to treat you like human beings, decently politely and rewardingly, so why not view us the same? Don't mean to judge, and I know this doesn't apply to everyone, and everybody has a bad day sometimes.



~ my very own pole dancer!




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