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    Last night a lady came in the club asking me if I remember her husband from several nights ago? She said he bought a dance or two from me.

    He told her I was very pretty and sent her in to try to recruit me for some threesome activity after work. She even offered me money to join them. And the funny thing was every time I went on stage she would follow me, and she stayed in the club for about 4 hours waiting for me to leave at closing. I told her I wasn't into that scene and she just would not go away.

    We deal with this with men all the time but I was blown away with her persistence. Have any of you dealt with this?

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    I had a couple solit me for sleeping with them a few weeks ago. They told me that they had picked me out from all the girls in the club. The woman was actually the most aggressive and kept trying to get me to put the heal of my boot into her crotch. She also kept telling me how much she wanted to see her husband fuck me. Yeah it was pretty weird. I wish I could say I knew what the best way to deal with it was. Or to explain to them that just because we're strippers that that doesn't mean we're also swingers.

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    Maybe she was so persistent because of his encouragement.

    I'm not saying this is the case, but a lot of times a weak woman will do anything to make her guy happy, including finding other women for him to have sex with...like an "offering". She knew he liked you and you know, everyone thinks stripper = prostitute and that we just LOVE having crazy sex with women.

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    I had a guy do this to me last week... he then brought his gf with him a couple nights later tryin to get me to join in. I took their phone number to humor them and havnt seen them since. I told them no im to busy and I have a bf already. The girl was really insistant she kept going on about how she wanted to eat me out for hours... ugh..

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    An incident like this is what caused my most un-favorite stalker incident. A custie came into the club, tried to recruit me for a threesome with his wife. He brought her in later. I could tell she wasn't into the idea & I scolded him for being a turd. He grabbed me in front of her so I shoved him.
    Weeks later he found me on the street in the tourist district and tried to put me in his car. Two male bystanders intervened. Anyway, watch out for custies like that, sometimes the female can be coerced into forcing you to come with her, to him. There are many infamous rape & murder cases (EX:Tammy Holmoka & Paul Bernardo/Scarsborough Rapist) where a female was pivotal in securing victims.

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    We get a lot of that crap in my club, but we get an unusluall amount of women in there also. I have never had a couple get all wierd on me though.I once had a guy walk up to me, as i mind my own business, dosent say anything for a minute then says, "so ... i guess you girls are not aoud to give out your address hu?" WHAT!!!!! no number first .. or even my name!?!?!?!, just my address hu? I dont htink so. lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    There are many infamous rape & murder cases (EX:Tammy Holmoka & Paul Bernardo/Scarsborough Rapist) where a female was pivotal in securing victims.
    Actually Karla Holmoka was the killer; Tammy was her little sister and victim number one for the duo (who later killed two 15 year old girls)... and she's now free as a bird in Montreal, even though she's as much of a psycho as Paul.

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    I've experienced the couple phenomenon. And i agree that as a couple they are much worse than just some drunk guy who thinks you're a prostitute.

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    You can work the angle for a while. I've had pretty good luck in getting swinging customers to spend quite a bit in the club (Vegas is especially good for this kind of business), but if she is just being annoying and not spending, doing or saying something catty should do the trick. She is a non spender anyway, and if you are subtle enough, her guy won't even catch on to how catty your comment was.

    "Wow, sweeetie, you are pretty! If you could just lose that extra 15-20 lbs. you would be unstopable!" Or similar back handed compliment should get your non tipping solicting female customer to leave you alone. Her hubsand/boyfriend would think "Wow, that stripper thinks you're pretty", she will hear "you are fat". Mission accomplished!

    Only do this if you really are having a hard time getting rid of an annoying customer. If she is spending, just coo and oooo and Ahhh in all the right places just like you would do with a male customer. Then, when it is time to move on be very non commital, and accept her # or email or whatever.

    I think women have a harder time understanding stripping as a business. But it is possible to develop gay/bi/bi-curious female regulars, too. It just takes a little more work. it is sort of like getting the 18-21 year old guy to spend in the strip club. Not impossible, but it is tough.


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    Ugh. The only female custies I wanna deal with are dikes. The rest are almost always a pain in the ass - MUCH worse than men. Yes I've dealt with similar instances...not quite as severe as Tina's tho.

    I'm with Paris about women having a harder time understanding stripping as a business. They just can't seem to get it through their heads that we're not doing it because we're desperately horny

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    I know my post might seem too paranoid, but swingers have their own networks...the idea of couples coming into a SC to fish for another woman seems creepy, as if they're counting on the stripper being more flighty/ less threatening than a vanilla kind of woman.
    Ugh. It's bad enough the men are trying to pick you up, now the women too...yikes...

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    Yes Tina, I know exactly what you mean. However, I am not proud of how. Back when I was with "Larry" ughhh, I let him convince me to have a 2nd threesome, and sure enough we tried recruiting in strip clubs. It wasn't because I thought strippers were loose of anything like that (okay, a lil).
    In all truth, it was because when I picked the girl for the first "Larry initiated threesome", me being the female that I am, I focused on getting to know her personality traits, her sexual history etc., ya know trying to make a mental connection. Well, my dumb-ass never asked her if she shaved! I mean what a stupid-head I was! I had never been with a woman, and I figured, its 2002, EVERYONE AT LEAST TRIMS DOWN THERE!!! Long story short, after we're good and drunk, we move to the bedroom and clothes start coming off. So after she takes off her top layer, and then her girdle (yes girdle) I am a little disturbed about the tank of a stomach she was hiding well. I decided, shit we're already here, I don't feel like recruiting anymore, and he's gonna think I'm a flake if I chicken out now. So, I got my composure, and we're geting it on. I get to my feature scene, and its FULL BUSH. What do I do??? Phuck, I gotta do it ...right. So I did, I held my breath, and dug in. It was like the crying game the next morning. I must have washed my upper lip, and gargled a trillion times. Everytime I inhaled I could smell the Ewok chick on me!

    My point is, I didn't want to take anymore chances. Yes, I could have just asked in the future, but chicks lie. If I was faced (literally) with one more hairy situation, it would have become a "ghetto" situation, lol. Therefore, I figured I'd go to a strip club, that way I could see if there was hair on my food ahead of time.

    Like I said, I'm not proud. I'm just thinking that sometimes people wanna see their prey naked first, and a strip-club is a good place to check out the goods.
    I guess a woman in a couple seeking a lady for a threesome may also think its the perfect venue, so she can make sure the "prey" lol, isn't hotter than her naked!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    ...... But it is possible to develop gay/bi/bi-curious female regulars, too. It just takes a little more work. it is sort of like getting the 18-21 year old guy to spend in the strip club. Not impossible, but it is tough.
    I think that this statement is true when talking about bi women, but it should not be hard to develop gay women regulars. I have several ATF's in various clubs, and it didn't take any monumentous effort on the part of the dancers to help develop them. Now, bi/bi-curious girls are another matter completely. With them you have alot of other issues (boyfriends, jealousy, insecurities) to contend with, and Lord knows how messy that whole scene can be (as evidenced by this very thread, for example).

    I think that us gay gals would be alot easier to deal with....just ask any of my "regular" dancers!!

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    First of all JustJayda, that is the saddest but funniest story ever. I probably would have been like, "Shit I have to do this!" as well...lol...talk about emotional scars. The funny thing is this girl probably tells people, "oooh, this one time I did it with the really hot chick, Jayda, it was the best we had so much fun." haha.

    If someone was following me around the club like that, I would have tipped the bouncer to escort her ass out of the club.

    I get propistioned like this all the time, since Vegas seems to make people want to go freak nasty, but come on!!

    Following you around for four hours is sick, she totally fucked up your money (I know it would have fucked up mine to have a stalker) and I would have been so pissed off.

    I would have gotten the bouncer. Some women at strip clubs think, "Oh I'm a girl too, so this girl won't mind if I propostion her/touch her innapropriately/lick her etc..."

    I get more pissed when women act like this than if a man were to do it, because we're all WOMEN!! Aren't we supposed to be on the same team, you know? Sisters, fighting against the mean "boys?" WTF??

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    An incident like this is what caused my most un-favorite stalker incident. A custie came into the club, tried to recruit me for a threesome with his wife. He brought her in later. I could tell she wasn't into the idea & I scolded him for being a turd. He grabbed me in front of her so I shoved him.
    Weeks later he found me on the street in the tourist district and tried to put me in his car. Two male bystanders intervened. Anyway, watch out for custies like that, sometimes the female can be coerced into forcing you to come with her, to him. There are many infamous rape & murder cases (EX:Tammy Holmoka & Paul Bernardo/Scarsborough Rapist) where a female was pivotal in securing victims.

    Oh my goodness!! You poor thing, thank God for those male bystanders!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJayda
    . So, I got my composure, and we're geting it on. I get to my feature scene, and its FULL BUSH. What do I do??? Phuck, I gotta do it ...right. So I did, I held my breath, and dug in. It was like the crying game the next morning. I must have washed my upper lip, and gargled a trillion times. Everytime I inhaled I could smell the Ewok chick on me!
    Ohhhhhhh girl, I'm feeling your pain Luckily, I'm a lipstick femme so I'm not going down on NOBODY I'm sorry that this happened to you. It is funny as all hell, but I can just imagine how your stomach felt. I bet your adrenaline was pumping hard!!! Girl, I would've refused...I'm sorry. But what's done is done. Now for future reference, when you start feeling on a girl, try to feel down there. If it's to much, wait a while, and then mention something about hairy cooch







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    I hate that shit and I am a swinger technically although I kind of kringe at the label.

    People who are into the "lifestyle" generally don't act that stupid thank god but there are always going to be a few. I love women and have loved the group situations (3somes/4somes) i've been in but I hate when women or couples act all stupid and rude. Women can be horrid. We had one in not long ago that was flat out asking every girl on stage if she could touch thier pussy (keep in mind we're topless too, it doesn't even get uncovered!) or suck on their nipples etc and would reach over the stage in an attempt to touch them. She got tossed and acted all shocked and confused as to why she was being asked to leave.



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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    I know my post might seem too paranoid, but swingers have their own networks...
    Not always. My bf and I are swingers but we have to get really lucky to find someone attractive to play with. The ones at the swing clubs are nearly always old and unattractive. I wouldn't be above making the suggestion if we were at the club and the dancer gave us a sign she might be interested, but if she said no, I wouldn't pursue it.

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    Jayda, although i know you dont think it is funny, i cant help but laugh. That is hilarious!!! Idotn think I could have done it. You are braver than I am. I would have been rude too her prolly. "eeew, do you need a razor?" Imagine how men feel when they bring a chick home and everything falls when the clothes come off and big hairy surprises await.
    I like a little girly action with my hubby, like to watch, but i am scared to find girls because the only ones I now are stippers. Other girls ... I just dont get to know what we are getting into untill its time to tango. lol. I have seen some that were ... well ... interesting. I want to make sure the one that we will be dealing with dosent look like a bown out tractor tire first.

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    I'll take a crack at this, as a married guy who has done some minor league swinging, I have often wondered if this dancer or that dancer could turn into OTC fun. Never asked, but always hoped it would develope. Never has.

    Anyway, the reasoning is this: In my every day life most people we know or work with are either very unattractive, or way conservative. A dancer in a SC is likely to be not so conservative and we can pick and chose as far as attractiveness goes. We have the most fun going to SC's over regular bars. In regular bars it is either just closed groups or a meat market with single guys trying to pick up anything that breathes. I figure a dancer is someone who is free spirted, likes to have some fun and is less likely to look at you funny when you mention threesomes or going to Hedonism or something like that.

    Personally, I'd love to have friends that are either dancers or people who like to go to strip clubs, they are just more open and fun. Of course reading this site I now realize all dancers are conservative gals who just do for a living and are really no fun OTC. Well, not all of you, but I will admit there must be some.

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    I've had that happen at a party and it was sort of annoying becuase this couple wouldn't leave me alone and all of my friends seemed to disappear at that moment!

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    Pardon me for asking, but what's the differencce between swinging and just being loose?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krazyjane
    Pardon me for asking, but what's the differencce between swinging and just being loose?
    Well let's see, i'm 34 and i've been with 10 men in my life. I wouldn't say that makes me anywhere near loose.



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    Quote Originally Posted by cpeters1
    I'll take a crack at this, as a married guy who has done some minor league swinging, I have often wondered if this dancer or that dancer could turn into OTC fun. Never asked, but always hoped it would develope. Never has.

    Anyway, the reasoning is this: In my every day life most people we know or work with are either very unattractive, or way conservative. A dancer in a SC is likely to be not so conservative and we can pick and chose as far as attractiveness goes. We have the most fun going to SC's over regular bars. In regular bars it is either just closed groups or a meat market with single guys trying to pick up anything that breathes. I figure a dancer is someone who is free spirted, likes to have some fun and is less likely to look at you funny when you mention threesomes or going to Hedonism or something like that.
    Dude, you've read the posts in here. You know better. Dancers ITC are there to flirt with you, get tipped and sell dances. How sexy and available they act does not in any way reflect what they are willing to do OTC. We all get solicited for some type of OTC sex act almost every night and it gets really old.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krazyjane
    Pardon me for asking, but what's the differencce between swinging and just being loose?
    I've had sex with three men in my life. I am not loose. "Swinging" is a slang term for being in a relationship with a person (or multiple people) and having the freedom to play with others with or without your partner. The key factor is that the partner knows and encourages the outside activity, so it's not cheating or sneaking around.

    Every swinging couple has their own boundaries; in ours, both of us have to be there for any play involving anyone else. We play with women a lot but haven't found any men I felt like having sex with (I'm VERY picky when it comes to men).

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