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    Default Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    About 6 months ago my ex cheated on me with another woman, who she let practically live in the 2bdr apt. we shared. I could hear them having sex in the bed that we once shared at night and that, among other things, practically drove me crazy. So I cut up about 1K worth of her clothes and threw them away, since I could do no physical harm. Now she wants 1K for the clothes. Mentally I don't feel I should give her a dime, but I know personal property is personal property blah blah blah... I just want revenge. I know a few things that could potentially cause problems for her.

    1. Her drivers' license is suspended but she still drives. My cousin is a cop and I thought of having him pull her over for speeding (as she always drives fast), arrest her, and possibly take her car when he finds the weed she always keeps on her.
    2. She lied and said she got raped when she flunked a semester of college at University of Kentucky, just to get a retroactive withdrawal.
    3. She lied and made a fake paper saying she was a full-time student in school just to get a discount on her health insurance.
    4. When she got hit from behind in a minor auto accident, her father, a lawyer, had his dr. friend write up a bunch of fake papers saying she received all this therapy which she did not receive, so she could get a $5,000 check from the insurance company. He expressly told her not to tell anybody, but of course I knew about it. (Isn't this fraud?)

    What would you do?

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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    Be happy that you are not with her. Be very, very happy. She could sue you for the clothes and win. However, if she wants to take you to court, list the points you made above and she'll leave you alone.

    Walk away. Really. It's better for you not to think about her ever again. Her deceit will bite her in the ass. Insurance companies destroy people who rip them off. Her father could be disbarred. #1, 3, and 4 will come back for her. Try not get involved unless detectives show up at your door.

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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    I talked to her today and I decided to pay her back in increments, which isn't so bad, but I still want to get the bitch... bad.

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    Why did you rip up her clothes in the first place? I mean if you knew you could seek revenge on her "the cop way" why didnt you just go that route instead. I think that personally would be better revenge. (no paper trails to you,and legal)

    On revenge,sneeky way put nair in her shampoo,or put gecshin dye in her shampoo (if shes blonde) or something she cant trace is you,legal wise.

    I feel for you though. {hugs}

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    What is wrong with you? Move out! I don't know why a new girlfriend is living with the two of you - I can see why that would be disconcerting, but you could have perhaps moved out or asked her not to have friends over rather than vandalizing her stuff. You can't ruin someone's life because your relationship didn't work out. That is a terrible thing to do, and frankly, way, way worse than cheating.

    Are you just venting - like considering these things without considering doing them to make yourself feel better, and to feel like you have some power over the situation? If so - good. I know a breakup can make you feel very powerless. But you can't actually do it - that would be awful.
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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    Jenny, it sounded like her ex cheated with her roomate.

    OP - get receipts for the payments, and have some kind of document describing what is going on, including somethign to the effect that she is not pressing charges for the damaged items. This person sounds perfectly capable of taking your money undocumented, and then taking you to court and getting it again.

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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    yeah, you should have just ratted her out for the suspended license in the first place instead of destroying her clothes, but hindsight is 20/20.

    Tell her she got off easy!

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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    i apologize, but this is funny.

    did you threaten to report her on #1- #4 to avoid paying back for the clothes?

    your ex is this woman, i assume?

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    Did you do this six months ago, and if you did where you and your boyfriend living togethier for six months or longer, because If so you can sue him for alimony since he cheated with her while you was living togethier that way he can pay for cloths you damage. That is the way it works in Illinois even if you are boyfriends and girlfriend. Talk to a lawyer, there are more than one way to skin a cat. WARNING STAY AWAY FROM HER UNTIL YOU TALK WITH A LAWYER WHO KNOWS WHAT SHE MIGHT ACCUSE YOU OF DOING!
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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    Don't pay her back the full (new) value of the clothes- pay her back their depreciated value (estimate- 50% of new cost sounds about right). That's what a court would decide; a court would rarely have you pay back retail for used clothing.

    2. She lied and said she got raped when she flunked a semester of college at University of Kentucky, just to get a retroactive withdrawal.
    What a bad person. Be glad you're rid of her.

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    A cheater, a liar, a vandal, all living together, all apparently bent on hurting each other. Nothing good can come from this. How about walking and trying to develop mutually beneficial relationships with healthy people?

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    I was gonna say what Scarlett said - if she does sue shell only get the depreciated value.. sometimes $1k worth of clothes is only worth a couple hundred when I watch those judge shows

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    Default Re: Getting Sued... Revenge or Not? (long)

    Quote Originally Posted by leilanicandy
    Did you do this six months ago, and if you did where you and your boyfriend living togethier for six months or longer, because If so you can sue him for alimony since he cheated with her while you was living togethier that way he can pay for cloths you damage. That is the way it works in Illinois even if you are boyfriends and girlfriend. Talk to a lawyer, there are more than one way to skin a cat. WARNING STAY AWAY FROM HER UNTIL YOU TALK WITH A LAWYER WHO KNOWS WHAT SHE MIGHT ACCUSE YOU OF DOING!
    I don't know where you got this information, but it's not true. No one can make anyone financially responsible to people they are not "legally" tied to.

    My totally honest opinion; you have absolutely NO right to do what you did. She deserves 100% of the damage that you caused by your jealousy and childishness. Never mind that the things you say that she did happened, because it's none of your business and it gives you NO LEGAL ground to stand on. None. Not at all.

    Be a grown up, pay your ex for all "actual damages" and not try to skimp out with the "depreciated" value and just drop all contact with them.

    Geezus....

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