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    Default Why do I let this happen to me?

    I have a huge thing for a girl I work with. She's pretty, fun, smart, witty, athletic, easy to talk with...

    and she's married.

    Not happily.

    But they have two kids under 5, including a 7 month old.

    I need to just not think about her, but we talk a lot...this sucks.

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    Default Re: Why do I let this happen to me?

    ::sigh::

    Good ones are always already taken, Mr Hyde. It's the crappy way that love/lust/etc. works.

    Just take it easy, and don't fall too hard.

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    Why is it always something we cannot have? Sometimes the feelings of the heart are so strong. Maybe you can just value your awesome friendship instead?
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    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
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    Default Re: Why do I let this happen to me?

    TM, that's pretty much what I'm doing. We have a big physical distance between us too, so that barrier is good (and bad...). I just gotta get her outta my head somehow.

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    Only way to get her out of your head is to STAY AWAY from her.
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    Maybe you could keep reminding yourself that she is MARRIED. If she is not happily so, then it is up to her to get out. Be her friend. It sounds like she could really use one.

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    The first person I ever really fell in love with was married. It ended up making me very miserable in the long run but I can tell you it is impossible to turn off those feelings if they are there. It sucks. I wish I was just not interested in men at all. Life would be so much easier dammit!

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    Um, fear of commitment leading to feelings for the 'taken' one?

    Blah, that does suck. Have to get your mind on someone else. It's the only thing that's worked for me on the rare occasions I was having a hard time moving on.

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    Default Re: Why do I let this happen to me?

    On the other hand, maybe she's bored, ignored, unappreciated, undersexed, and secretly waiting for a certain 'stud muffin' to inject some excitement into her life LOL

    woops, scratch that, Florida doesn't have gun control do they ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie
    maybe she's bored, ignored, unappreciated, undersexed, and secretly waiting for a certain 'stud muffin' to inject some excitement into her life LOL
    I know that she is all of the above, and going behind her husband's back is something I've thought of, but I don't want to break up their marriage.

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    Default Re: Why do I let this happen to me?

    Eventually most of us have the opportunity to steal someone out of a relationship. I think it is a good test of one's character to see how it ends up. I have been tested 3 times that way and ended up helping put back together their marriages 2 out of those 3 times without touching the other person.

    Best way, though, is to not get involved before the strong emotions start, or to quickly start avoiding non-public situations and to avoid display of emotions. It only gets worse if the other person starts having strong feelings of affection too.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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