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    Okay, this is a rather belated and combined update, but...
    Part I:
    The Wednesday before last I got a job as a dancer. The "audition" went fine; all the manager did was barely even look at me in my heels and t-back. The first night I got dances from two guys, didn't go onstage, and made about $250. Second night was about the same; got a lot of tips onstage, mainly because the dj made a big deal over me being a complete virgin, it being my first time on any stage ever, etc. The first two nights were busy because it was either an anniversary celebration or Monday Night Football. The next Wednesday, however... was dead, as in, no point in being there. I was having doubts about stripping in general, and left early. The manager told me, as a last ditch effort to keep me, to come back on Friday, because Friday's were always packed. I did, and once again... dead. I did not stay the whole shift. Granted, they said people don't really start coming in until 11:30, but... come on! My question: is it just this club, or all clubs that don't get started until that late? I mean, if I have to come in at 7, that's 4 1/2 hours of sitting on my ass, just waiting for that one magic hour when everyone's supposed to be there.
    Part II:
    I quit that last Friday. One, I didn't like the lying to the guy I'm dating or my parents. But even more so, I hated "the walk." You know: the walk around the club, to see if anyone looks free for a dance. I don't know if it was just this club, but it was small enough that a circle around took less than 60 seconds. And when it's not busy, and any available table doesn't want a dance... You've basically got nothing to do. Granted, lots of girls sit at the bar (but I don't drink) or go to the dressing room and talk (I was too new to have any friends there). Don't get me wrong, I love stripping-- the clothes (my god, the clothes!), the dancing, being sexy... I have no problem with that. Or the lap dances, or even really talking to the guys. The biggest reason I quit was because of that walk I mentioned above; it seemed that after spending 1 minute looking for prospects, you had nothing to do for the next however-the-f*ck-long.
    So this all boils down to... do you think it was just the wrong club for me? Should I go back as a waitress instead? (Something I'm seriously considering) Any advice or comments?

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    My question: is it just this club, or all clubs that don't get started until that late?
    That is very common actually.

    You have to do what is right for you so if you think being a waitress would be better then go for it.

    However as an objective opinion, I would suggest giving dancing another try. Also you might consider working at more than one club .

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    I would suggest to try a differnt club. If it was dead until 11:30 there there errr I dunno..on a Friday night too? As you describe the girls that just sit at the bar or marinate in the dressing room to me that sounds like the girls dont want to sit and chat with a customer to get that dance. Or it could be that there really is no one in there. Sounds like youre doing well enough for a newb...but try and sit and chat with the guy for 1-3 songs depending on how busy it is to get dances. Youll be doing something the other girls dont do.

    That 'feeling bad' feeling usually goes away after your 1st month. Yes sometimes we have to hide what we do with others. Of course not everyone is going to be ok with our job.

    If youre ok with it try a differnt club instead. Good Luck!
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    Definitely try other clubs. Sometimes it's just not a great place to work at, other times it's just not a good fit for you. But if you enjoy dancing and can deal with it and your personal life, llok for a club that suits you better.

    My first 2 dancing experiences were ok. I liked the dancing part on and off the stage but for some reason I just didn't "click" with the places I was working at. Felt out of place and wasn't confident enough to get real comfortable. I didn't go back and gave up on dancing for a while.

    Recently I decided to give it another shot and it's a completely different story. From day one things have been great at the club I'm working at now and it makes a huge difference. It's not the glitziest place in town but I consistently make good money and the staff and working conditions are great.

    Look around until you find a place that's good for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by blonddarlin
    The next Wednesday, however... was dead, as in, no point in being there. I was having doubts about stripping in general, and left early. The manager told me, as a last ditch effort to keep me, to come back on Friday, because Friday's were always packed. I did, and once again... dead. I did not stay the whole shift. Granted, they said people don't really start coming in until 11:30, but... come on! My question: is it just this club, or all clubs that don't get started until that late? I mean, if I have to come in at 7, that's 4 1/2 hours of sitting on my ass, just waiting for that one magic hour when everyone's supposed to be there.
    That's kind of the nature of the businesss and isn't uncommon at all. A lot of guys for whatever reason like to plan their SC excursions as late into the night as possible. As for those dead hours, those are the times that a lot of crafty dancers learn to steer regular customers towards. Being a newbie, you just haven't had the time to develop regulars yet.

    The biggest reason I quit was because of that walk I mentioned above; it seemed that after spending 1 minute looking for prospects, you had nothing to do for the next however-the-f*ck-long.
    So this all boils down to... do you think it was just the wrong club for me? Should I go back as a waitress instead? (Something I'm seriously considering) Any advice or comments?
    You might want to start a thread on how you can deal with dead time. I'm sure many of the gals here can give you some input. The waitressing gig probably isn't a bad idea as a lot of SC waitresses I've seen are usually just scouting a club in order to see what kind of traffic/earnings potential it has, and as a waitress, you'll pick up a lot of information. At least then, you'll know if its you, or the club.

    Sounds like you really don't have a problem with the mechanics of your job, but trying to get things running at peak efficiency. Otherwise, just sounds like a case of newbie jitters. Hang in there.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    Definitely try other clubs. Some are always busier than others, but yes it is common for clubs to be really slow until late on weekends. The worst for me was sometimes in Puerto Rico it wouldn't get busy until 2am, and we had to be there at 8pm, and work until at least 5am.

    You seem like me, in that if there's nothing to do you get really bored and your mood takes a dive. On nights like that, you either have to find things to do to keep yourself busy, or get used to sitting around waiting and then doing all the work later. Some girls bring books or homework for the down time.

    I definitely don't recommend waitressing, at least not at that same club. If you thought dancing there sucked, wait til you have to waitress there and make waaaaay less money, but deal with at least as much custy bullshit if not more. Plus you'll still be bored if the place is as slow as you say. You will HATE it.

    Also, you HAVE to be there at 7??? I danced quite a bit in TX and remember they didn't enforce any specific time to show up at any of the clubs I worked. In fact it seems most clubs don't enforce those rules much. Maybe you can go in later and try working just the busy times.

    As for the lying to bf / parents. IMO, the only one you should really be concerned about is the parents. How many girls can we name who married (and stayed with) the bf we had at age 19? I've never known of any. I'd bet the farm you won't be with this guy long enough to make it worth sacrificing your desires and financial well-being for him. Regarding the parents, it's easier to keep it from them when you're out of their house and know you're depending on yourself to pay the bills; that keeps it in perspective - it's one thing to sneak around and lie to them when you're living in their house, but if you're making your own way, suddenly it doesn't matter quite as much. They usually come around if/when they do find out anyway. They may never like it, but they can usually come to terms with it. Especially if you're making a good living, being responsible and not getting into trouble or too much drinking, etc.

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    Yeah what thge other posters said. Pretty much doesn't get packed til later on, it is the nature of the biz. That is common. I would try another club. You are new at this, and you are doing fine! I don't mind the sittin around sometimes, but if you do it too much you lose your drive. Just find things to do in the dead time. This other and dancer and I, when it is slow we start doing aerobics on stage, and we do dumb things to liven the place up. If you like always moving, go back to waitressing, I bartended and waitressed, love dancing so much more b/c I can take breaks, have a cocktail, wear what I want, and socialize!!

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    My motto is: it only takes ONE guy not 80 to make money. Try not to focus on the size of the crowd, but on the guys sitting alone looking to spend money. A dead day doesn't necessarily mean a bad day. If you are going to continue being a dancer you will have to accept taking the good with the bad. Sometimes it is the club because your "persona" doesn't fit in well with the clientele that comes into the club. Since you're new, a good indicator of whether or not there is money in the club is if OTHER girls are making money. It's also holiday season, and at least here it gets slower. It takes awhile to learn the ropes, just hang in there and you will do fine.

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    Bambi has a super good point. I know the dead time very well, and how it can kill your mood to sit, and sit, and sit. But girls who can hustle can make money in a slow crowd, it just takes skills (not that I had any... but I saw it done a lot!) Definitely try a different club, and trust in the fact that if you work in any one club a few weeks, the girls will open up and you'll be able to hang out. Another thing is to use the time to learn pole tricks, practice new moves, that kind of thing.

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    i always bring along homework or a book to read for the times that it gets dead in my club, or you could bring along a magazine or something else to do.... and even if it's not busy, you can still make money- just make sure you don't look bored or unhappy. Go sit by a customer, and always try to look like you are having fun. If it is slow, there's a good chance that other dancers probably don't look to excited to be there, so if you put on a happy face, you'll stick out and make the customers want to talk to you- customers don't want to be by a dancer that looks no fun

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    Quote Originally Posted by blonddarlin
    Friday's were always packed. I did, and once again... dead. I did not stay the whole shift. Granted, they said people don't really start coming in until 11:30, but... come on! My question: is it just this club, or all clubs that don't get started until that late?

    Regular Bar, SC, Dance Club, I never head out with my buddies till around 11 or 12, I drink 3-4 drinks an hour scocially, 6-7 if I'm looking to get drunk, if you go out at 8 or 9, thats 5-6 hours of drinking, at a SC, add tips and dances you're talking 400 dollar nights, but come out around 11-12 you cut the time you are spending money down considerably and can spend a bit more with out killing most of a paycheck

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    Instead of just walking and asking for a dance have you thought about sitting and chatting with the guys? That will kill time and may make them more likely to buy dances from you.

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    I would change clubs. As far as the bf. Its sometimes easier to do this if you dont have one. I went through about 4 bf's my first 6 months and then I didnt have one for almost 2 years and it was alot easier.

    As for the parents, well if you dont tell them anything its not lying. Or tell them you cocktail or just work the front counter. etc.
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