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    There is a girl at my club who keeps trying to make out with me in front of the customers. I like her and I think she is beautiful, but I am not sexually attracted to other women! I have nothing against homosexuality whatsover but I know in my heart that I only like getting it on with guys. Anyhow, when she parties at work she gets a little wild and she will, at times, kiss another girl in front of customers (as a way of turning them on, etc.). She's tried getting it on with me on the floor. When she does this I just turn my head and laugh and say something like "You're so crazy girl!" Then I'll walk away. She won't take the hint! She's a fun & pretty girl but I don't want to kiss her! How do I tell her this without offending her? I feel like I should talk to her in private and just tell her that while she is a beautiful girl, I am just not wired that way and I would prefer that she'd not do this anymore.What should I do? Thanks...
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    Just pull her aside in the dressing room, when you're alone, and tell her. Explain she's fun and beautiful, and very attractive etc...but bi/gay just isn't you (even in play). She should get it (at least get that you're saying no for good) and will probably try to tapdacne that it's just a hustle, etc. Be gentle and firm, and give her my number!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73
    "You're so crazy girl!" Then I'll walk away. She won't take the hint!
    Why hint? There are many ways to firmly say no.
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    Treat her the same as a guy, but don't punch her teeth out. Unwanted sexual contact or comments are sexual harassment whether ut's from a guy or a girl. I've had girls do this to me before, and I made it clear to her that she were invading my personal space.

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    She already knows she's beautiful, telling her may only send a mixed message. If she knows you think she's beautiful, it may be harder to discourage her. Perhaps if your BF were to show up one night and you introduced him, hmm, then she might hit on him to piss you off. Women get bitchy from time to time, maybe coming in to work all pissed off and generally hating the world with no time for her BS would help to clarify things.

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    I'm screamingly bisexual but that doesn't mean I welcome the advances of every girl that comes along. We have a girl at our club that hits on EVERYONE. It's making everybody insane, myself included. The worst part is no matter how often the girls turn her down (i've seen it done nicely and i've seen gals be pretty fucking harsh to her) she just keeps it up.

    Anyhow, all you can really do is be honest. Tell her you aren't into women.



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    Sirona, yes, she is that type! No matter how much you turn her down she just keeps at it! The girls at work know I have a boyfriend I am totally in love with.
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    I havent seen her yet but really Id give her 2 times to let her know her advances arent cool. 1st would be a talk in the dressing room alone firmly telling her where your sexuality stands. 2nd if she doenst get that and tries again; and it will be most likely on the floor as you described she does this in front of custys, just overtly diss her and just walk away from her when she tries to do something cute.

    Every bi/gay/straight person should respect another persons boundries. Like Sirona Im bi too but I dont go around making out with my co-workers. Plus its like we all know its a sexually charged business but doesnt mean you have to carry it everywhere.
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    Say, "Oh, silly, you'll mess up my makeup!" Then limit the "bi-acting" on the floor to dances. Of course, pull her aside and talk tactfully but honestly with her. It could be she is just desperate for affection.

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    Tell her you have a cold sore (herpes), mono, a sore throat, etc. and that you don't want to give it to her so she better stop trying!

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    I agree with what people are saying here, BUT.....Um A quick firm "NO WAY, knock it off NOW, i have had enough, i mean it, NOW"!

    She don't get that shit..she is STUPID.

    But that's me....I don't like that shit. That is invading my personal space.

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    I had a friend who used to try making out with me at parties ALL the time. I always pushed her off, thinking it was self evident. But one day I told her "uhm, that makes me uncomfortable. Please don't do it anymore" and she was like "oh, I had no idea, I won't"- it worked, go figure! Be blunt.

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    Sometimes you just have to be point blank and set your limits. Don't let anyone cross those limits once set.

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    Default Re: Dancer at work keeps trying to kiss me

    on the other hand ...... put on the girl/girl show for the customer's benefit, and ruminate all the way to the bank ! You two ought to try and sell 2 on 1 VIP's as well ! Think of it as an 'acting' job for which you'll be very well paid ! I have absolutely no idea why, but when guys get a whiff of girl on girl chemistry they seem to spend money hand over fist.

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    Melonie, true. I let her do a girl on girl dance with me for customers before. No big deal. I'm fine with that, as we can't touch during dances at our club. But when ya cross the line...
    Hmmmm maybe she figured if I was cool with dancing with her, then I'd be fine with her kisssing me too...hmmmmm...
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    Hi Sushine
    Does she do this on the floor in front of custy's only? Or does she do this in the dressing room as well? Cause it seems like an act she's putting on for custy's to spend more money.
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    I think you should tell her in no uncertain terms that she is making you uncomfortable and she is being creepy!..If she sees herself like we see a lot of our custys who make unwanted advances, maybe she will back off...or just shove her!

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    GSDiva I notice she does this mostly in front of custys and I think she does this to put on a show and make $$$.Still, though, I don't mind doing a dance with her but I have tried to make it clear that I am not into making out with her. I should just tell her in private point blank that dances are cool with me but making out is not. I do like her though-she is fun!- and I don't want to offend her.
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    Hmm, telling her you have the herps might lead her to telling customers if there is ever bad blood between you. I think you just need to suck it up and tell her point straight up if it bothers you that much.

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    If it is for the benefit of custies $$$, kissing can easily be faked, esp if one or both of you have long hair. There is no reason for her to insist on the real deal. Set your limits with her -no hinting. Ie., "I will *fake* a show with you, but DO NOT kiss me". If she seems not to take you seriously, maybe warn her that if she insists on forcing herself on you, she will not like the results.
    If that doesn't work, and she continues violating you - this is a little mean, but you did warn her - next time it happens in front of custies try pushing her away and saying very loudly, so the custies hear, "GET OFF ME" or something like that. Make sure it comes off sounding angry and disgusted.The embarassment should make her stop quick.

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    Hi Sunshine
    If that's the case then the the kissing bandit needs to back off. Maybe you should just try to avoid doing the double dances with her. Cause it does sound like an act and she is taking advantage. Sorry you have to put up with that.
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