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    A reporter from the NY Daily News is working on a story for Sunday's paper. She was hoping to talk to NY-based dancers about whether they tell their families and non-club friends what they're doing for a living and, if not, what DO they tell them?

    I told her that my parents didn't know I danced. That I worked as a bartender/ waitress. If they knew what I did they would disown me. And I don't want to break my mothers heart this way. I'm not ashamed of what I do, but I'm sure they would be. Some parents may be cool like that but not mine. Way to old school.

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    My parents know about my regular job. I don't feel compelled to tell them about my weekend bonus job since they live 2000 miles away anyway. They wouldn't disown me but they would worry about my safety and be upset; no point putting them through it.

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    my parents also don't know about me...they thought i was a waitress...wouldn't get disowned but they would worry and i'm sure be disappointed...

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    when I first started i told them I was a cocktail waitress, but after a while i told them the truth about it just because I didn't feel like lying to them anymore.

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    Well, I didn' tell my mom I had a job at first, then after 3 weeks of me being constantly busy and with the money income I told her. She wasn't happy with it at all. But she says that she's fed up with judging people and she doesn't walk in my shoes. She doesn't agree with it, but I'm a college student and a stripper trying to make it. And as for my father, hmmm yeah - I haven't told him. He thinks that I'm a bartender. Hmmm, that's how that'll stay, for awhile I'm sure.

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    Never had to lie to my own parents but had to lie to my future in-laws.

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    I told my mother before I started(I'd been waitressing at the club to begin with), and she was cool with it. Part of that was cause she did the same thing up in NY to pay her way through college. My dad, well he knows I work at a strip club, but he thinks I waitress. The rest of my family just thinks i waitress at a bar.

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    My mom knows what I do... my dad thinks im a waitress like I used to be. I'll never tell him, he already calls me a whore :eyeroll:
    My mom is cool with it, she thinks its great she produced a kid hot enough to strip...

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    I never told them. They are strict old school. But before I ever started, I was a party girl who went out clubbing every wknd, so that was my lie. That I was out with my friends clubbing and my plan was to strip on Fridays and Saturdays.

    So the very first night that I started, when I left the club I fell asleep behind the wheel and got into a car accident. Thank God, nothing happened to me...it was really bad. My car got towed, and my dumbass left the written address of Hustler's club in NYC in the car. Didn't think anyone would see that little paper anyway. So when my dad went to go to my crashed up car to get out my remainings...he found the address! Holy shit, I was busted. LOL. Me and my parents got into a huge fight. Then my older brother found out, he got upset too...oh man it was a mess.

    Anyway, I did let all my friends know the place and address incase anything happened of course. Always tell someone you trust where you work, incase anything happens. And try not to leave evidence like I did, lol. Don't leave anything that has the address in your car, or even at home when you're not there. And get a little lock for your bag and stash that shit too.

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    I told my parents about 2 weeks after I started and my mom said, "You're a bitch, a slut and a whore." I told her I was sorry she felt that way. That was 7 years ago. We haven't spoken much since, and not at all in almost 3 years. Then again, my mother is very a very toxic person, so it was bound to happen either way. On the other hand, I have seen many a girl be frightened to tell their parents, afraid of being disowned and such, and the fears are either inflated or unfounded in reality. Things usually end up going very well. I definitely think how things went for me were out of the norm.

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    I am so "WOW'D' RIGHT NOW!
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    When I told my mom I was 18 and living at home. I waitressed for about 2 months before starting dancing. When I actually told my mom she said she already knew... Both my parents are cool with it... my family knows... aunts, uncles, little brother...I dunno. My mom says as long as Im paying my own bills I can do whatever I want. Shes seen me dance, seen my (softcore) modeling pics and stuff...

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    I won't tell my parents out of respect for them. We havent really spoken in months and months. They are independent, fundamental, bible believing, bible preaching, bible thumping baptists. They honestly couldn't handle it. After getting kicked out of the family vacation for the discovery of my navel ring, and getting disowned for dating a guy who didnt drive a bus around town on sunday mornings to pick up poor people and cart them to church.... I'd say the dancing conversation is out of the question.

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    Honestly, I cant believe how harsh some parents are. Disown your own CHILD?

    Being a parent I would love my daughter no matter what she does. Whether I approve or not, once shes 18 it is her decision. I would probably try to guide her from adult professions but if she chose to do it I wouldnt love her any less....

    I dont think I think this way only because of a been there/done that atmosphere. My parents love me just as much with all Ive done as they did before I did it. Before reading posts about this topic I didnt realize how lucky I really am.... I dont want to say I feel sorry for others (maybe its a good thing in some situations) but I would assume it must be hard... Im just so close with my family I dont really understand it.

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    my have known since the day i sarted 6 years ago.. even my grandparents knw and have even came too see me compete in comps.. my nanna also makes my costumes..

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    I fessed up last month. They were unhappy -- my mother showed a pretty good understanding of who I was and what I was doing, my father absolutely didn't, but he hasn't been a drama queen about it in any of the phone calls since then, so I think we're OK.

    But honesty is the way I live my life, more than anything else. I believe in proving to the people around me that yes, I can be as weird as I am and keep my life happy, safe and successful. So far it's worked.

    Everything else I've done or said that's made them crazy has turned out, in the end, to be objectively good for me, or at least a lesson -- and they've seen that, and they've also seen that I always learn my lessons, so by living as I do I've persuaded them to understand that I can handle my life very well most of the time. :-)

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    My father put me through college and my mother is very religious. Let's just say that they'd blow a new hole if they found out. To them, I am a consultant, which is not a lie entirely.

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    my parents think I work at 'Subway'
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    Im so glad this thread came up.My family doesn't know I dance,they think I make my $ by Poker & sports bets (in Vegas). I techically still do this as a side job,but the bulk of my $ comes from dancing.
    Im glad Im not the only one who's not told,and you all have good reasons I understand. I get so sick of sometimes hearing from people you should just tell,or they will find out anyway,or be an ADULT and tell blah blah blah. Everybodys situation is different,until you walked a mile dont judge those who do not tell.
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    My parents live a few states away right now, so there's no point in them knowing. It's funny though, I used to "joke" about stripping to them whenever I talked about my financial situation with all my student loans. So they think I'm cocktail waitressing.

    My mom would probably be upset and dissapointed but she would get over it. Throughout the years she has become a lot more liberal because of me. My dad would either freak out or put up his big denial wall and pretend he didn't hear me (I used to smoke infront of him by hiding behind other people and then when my grandma told him I smoked he was completely surprised).

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    Ive been very upfront and honest about what i do with everyone..I'm not ashamed of what I do so whats the point of covering it up
    "The body is meant to be seen, not all covered up."
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    I did not tell my mom at first, but after the first night when I realized that I would continue doing it I had to tell her. I have never kept secrets from her, so why start now. Besides I was proud of the money I was making and wanted to share the news. She was upset at first, mostly about my safety, but now she is ok with it. Sometimes she even asks about and what its like. She really is a great mom. I probably won't ever tell my dad or other family members.
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    i think i've posted at least ten times on this topic or started threads about this.... My parents flipped the FUCK out when they found out.... my boyfriend at the time told my parents... i stopped dancing for a few months, and then he told them again.. so initially they were under the impression that i was done for good after the first few months of me dancing, which was not the case at all..... but to this day my mom is sickened by my choice to start dancing... she just does not understand anything about the industry.. she thinks all girls who dance are whores, "loose" (in her words), and slutty.. when im all done with school here in may i'm getting the hell outta the area so i can go on in peace and not have to constantly watch my back.. thats why im not dancing right now bc im so afraid of them finding out again.... just whatever you do, if you know your parents are gonnna go insane and possibly disown u, like mine almost did, DO NOT let them find out.... dance in areas a little out of the way, wear a wig, do something to not get caught.... it will be worth it in the end.. The way i see it, if i move away to another state, or a city at least two hours from my parents, it won't be easy for them to get in to my business....

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel
    Never had to lie to my own parents but had to lie to my future in-laws.

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    I just tell my parents that I'm a tour guide. They always ask me if Ive taken the guys to any good exhibits so just tell them that we saw a food good anatomy exhibitions.
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