I'm too embarassed to talk about this to my family and friends so I figured I would ask you strong and intelligent women.
I am engaged to a great guy. He is divorced after catching his wife with another man. We have been together two years tomorrow. We were supposed to be married November 4th...a few weeks ago.
I spent $1,000 on my gown. Had all the favors, invitations, place booked, minister and DJ booked. Two days before we were to send the invitations out, he cancelled on me. No reason other than "it's not you, it's me". So, I'm out a few grand, needless to say.
We live together and he has all the benefits of a husband. I cook and clean for him. We have sex whenever he wants. I just don't understand why he did this!! I try to talk rationally about it even though I am hurt and embarassed and I had to tell all my family and friends about it. I wanted to put my head in the sand.
Granted, we were having little fights over the two years and we had a mini breakup this May (one week). But we didn't put those deposits down till September and he cancelled a month later.
Am I being too old fashioned to expect him to buy the cow since he's getting the milk? Am I being a doormat taking care of him when he can't respect my feelings? Should I leave and find someone who DOES want to marry me someday?
Problem is...I'm 39 and it won't get any easier. And I wanted another child. I know I can't replace the one I lost but it's so hard on my daughter being the only one and I really want another kid.
Sorry for the long rant. It just feels good to finally be able to let it out. Please give me some advice. Thanks in advance.



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