In a club, I'd give up the kiss on the lips for a long, slow, passionate hug - at least 30 seconds. Yeah, 30 seconds usually does it for me.Originally Posted by lwtex52
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In a club, I'd give up the kiss on the lips for a long, slow, passionate hug - at least 30 seconds. Yeah, 30 seconds usually does it for me.Originally Posted by lwtex52
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I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.





I'll give ya a passionate handshake any time, Zeph!Originally Posted by lwtex52
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You're so crazy!![]()
I don't think it has to do with $$$ a whole lot. Sometimes a customer and a dancer just click on a certain level where $$$ begins to be meaningless. Heck, the dancers get to see a lot of guys, including some very fat cats with lots of money...so they've heard it all and aren't phased by false promises of $$$.Originally Posted by buffie06
I don't think geographical location has much to do with it either. If you ask me, the key to getting this kind of treatment (i.e., dfk in PD and/or lip kissing on the floor) in a SC is to basically be yourself, don't try to be something you're not. Don't throw too much $$$ around lest you begin to look like a loser who's trying to buy his way into coolness. Just be cool. Be different. That's my formula.
And never ever go in to an SC before 11pm, unless the resident chef makes a heck of a lunch that you can't live without!!
FBR, with all due respect, actually I don't think geographics have much to do with it. My current ATF kissed me on the chick the second time I met her. Each time I saw her, she would kiss me on the chick but closer and closer to my lips, until the fouth or fifth time which was when she planted one on my lips on the floor. She's been doing so ever since. By the 4th time I saw her, in the PD she was inhaling my tongue [I hope my language here is benign enough to not evoke the ire of the mods; I'm still trying to get the hang of this since I am new here.] I really think it has all to do with human relationship dynamics, which is hit or miss, rather than rationalistic geographics. You find that dancer that clicks with you on a mental level and you will experience the same...trust me!Originally Posted by FBR
On the other hand, there was this other hot dancer who kept bugging me for a dance for about 2 months whom I kept turning down politely. Just for the heck of it one night I was bored I accepted a PD from her, and within the 1st song she was inhaling my tongue in a passionate deep french kiss (dfk)...Needless to say I was happy to oblige her. Actually, that chick is "hotter" in a sexy sort of way than my ATF, but she just doesn't have the body nor the face that my ATF has. (some chicks are naturally hot and sexy regardless of body/face, if you know what I mean). Under such circumstances, it becomes doubly hard to resist the RIL syndrome, just be strong--that's what I remind myself of constantly, lest I become just another pathetic sap in a SC. lol.
Now I realize how uncommo this is. Being most of u say the most they got was on the check. hmmm





She's only messin' with your head if you let her. Do you like it when she kisses you? If you do, just enjoy the experience for what it is. She may like you but that doesn't mean anything in the environment you are in. LL is dead on here. The vast majority of dancers prefer the type of customer/dancer relationship that keeps money flowing from your wallet to her garter.
So true, a long intimate liploc kiss in the VIP DOESN'T mean a thing in this environment... Nice touch even though there is usually very little personal in business with the dancers!Originally Posted by yoda57us
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mmmmm i dont kiss on the lips at work at all its far too personal.. i have never seen a girl kiss a guy in the lips like that where i work.. we only kiss on the cheek 2 like everyone else does as it seems
why dont you just ask her why she been doing it ?


my current fav. hadn't kissed me on the lips in about a year until last friday, we hadn't hungout otc in a very long time either, she always had some lame excuse & i given up & quit asking, now shes wants me to hangout at the bar with her tonite & take her to dinner monday. just when i think i got a stripper figured out they do the complete opposite.
Originally Posted by dippidy dave
This must be common practice as it is happened to me several times, getting a dancer figured out is somewhat of an OxYmOrOn. Ha!![]()
I have been kissed on the lips, cheek and forehead by a variety of girls. Depends on the girl and how comfortable she feels around you. I just go with the flow.![]()





Someone else bailed out on her. And no one else is waiting to take their place. Be careful here.Originally Posted by dippidy dave
I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.
i've only had a similar experience once during a lapdance... and it was my first lapdance so I thought it was normal... actually it was a couch dance on an elevated area in back with very little privacy... and she sat and talked to me for a little bit and then got on my lap and it was instantly very intimate with tongue kissing, neck kissing, etc... she allowed me to caress her back and hair... pretty much a makeout session...
found out later this is not normal...
anyway, many lapdances later I've never had anything remotely close to that... so that was a fluke... point is, just accept that ultimately it is a business arrangement... the product is illusion... some girls are better at the illusion than others... some seem like girlfriends and others are more sweaty and grindy and all about getting it done.
i've actually had more luck, as of late, fraternizing with female customers in on bachelorette parties, etc... good way to meet people; a strip club.... your inhibitions are down, and the mood and atmosphere is already about sex...
IMO it means nothing... its just lip service.


Some people just do things spontaneously. Dancers are no exception. I have only had one experience with a dancer who kissed me in what would be considered an intimate way. It blew my mind because we actually had had a very immediate connection with one another, and I too had the same question as this guy. I myself am not promiscuous at all and in this one case it seemed right and I went with it too.... as Sublime wrote, "sometimes you can show me the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right", but at the same time, "you look so fine when you lie and it don't show, I know which way the wind blows". In other words live for the moment and enjoy the joy of connecting with another human but keep your head.


what is DFK?
yeah... no, I think if it feels real, then she's just a real pro... call me cynical.
http://www.stripperweb.com/wiki/Stripper_glossaryOriginally Posted by AutumnLeaves
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
I hate late night worthless work, leaves my hands idle in public places where they cant provide the services I need them to.
Ok this thread has gotten interesting! Time for some seriousness.
Holaback,
Aside from picking a name that makes my head ring with the song, you have done little wrong, NONE actually. You're just beating yourself up over a situation you're in more control of than you think.
Thats so wrong I think it gave me siphilis.Originally Posted by ladi2die4
I mean C'mon, he's not paying to have his head fucked with. I know you meant it in humor ms. ladi2die4, but there is a big problem with the suspected truth in that. People who suddenly wake up one day and say, "I've been giving dancer X 400.00/visit and I don't even have her number!" Are the ones that go down the path of following her home and when the lights are out working their way into the house. It all starts with "Maybe She Likes Me".
Is it the dancer's fault? Hell no. Is it his fault? Yes. But when you go to your job with the thought that you're fucking with guys heads, you're asking for trouble. The key is seperating fact from fiction before he's addicted
Or the car you just cosigned for her....Originally Posted by Sunshine73
Hey bro, your only mistake is that you are STILL thinking about this!Originally Posted by holaback
STOP!
You need to decide what you want when you go to the club. No one on this board can answer that for you, all of us have dealt with what you have in some short order or otherwise. YOU need to decide how to handle it, its a mix of maturity and just gut instinct.
One of the first time I got an LD, that dancer was all over me, I didn't know better she kissed me, I was apeshit for this girl, I wanted to know all about her, so I STEPPED BACK IN MY HEAD and said 'If she's willing to kiss me, she's willing to give me her number' I asked. I got denied like Satan asking to come back into heaven, and I said 'The knock it off with the kissing'.
MAST sees it as so intimate that if I can't see her outside the club, I definatly don't want it inside the club. I don't like having my heart strings tugged that way. The question is, what does HOLABACK like. And if thats not it, put an end to it man.
If you like it, be an adult about it and don't tear it apart, especially not publically. She has control over what she knows to do to you to get you going, you have control over whether or not thats going to cause you to reach into your wallet.
Good luck man!
People are not ruled by their memories.





You forgot to mention the dancer's personal boundaries and limitations.Originally Posted by ARCOR
For instance, I may kiss you on the lips (like a quick peck) if you have been a regular of mine for ages (near a year) and we've gotten to know each other (and hopefully you don't have a cold sore or any kissing diseases). Otherwise, my standard operating procedure is give and receive kisses on my cheeks.
I would never EVER engage in any actual mouth2mouth action with any customer as that is crossing my personal line and boundary from business to something more personal. I like to keep some things for my private life and for that someone special (if he comes along).
Do not ever try to get a dancer to kiss you on the lips. If she wants to kiss you on the lips, let HER be the instigator not you. I've lost count how many times I've gone to kiss a custy on the cheek (in thank you for the dance) and he's gone and wrecked everything by moving his head at the last minute so I am forced to kiss him on the lips (always a quick peck). ARGH!![]()
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I like to give the girls back rubs during LDs. I just like very close contact with grinding encouraged. Got a full-fledged french kiss during a VIP dance with 5 five minutes left on the dance. Not complaining but I sure haven't known what to make of it. Any ideas? No extras were offered.
Sounds about right
Are you a stripper or customer? Realist or cynic? Anyone else have an opinion?
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