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    I Only Dance!!!!

    I just started dancing close to three weeks ago. I went my first day and it took me a whole week to go back after that. My first customer was a guy I had met once before through a friend who works with me. I gave him a dance on the floor and then he wanted a private (more money, so I wasn't complaining). We went to the room and he pulled his dick out and tried to have sex with me (he was already hard before we went to the room from the first dance I gave him). I had to let him know I don't do the extracurricular activities, I just dance. He tried me a few more times before stopping. How do you guys deal with customers who try to get a little extra for their money????

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    Get paid up front, then if they do that, you can just announce that the dance is over & get up and leave. For milder things you may want to give them 1 or 2 chances, but something like that is an immediate deal-breaker and he should know it.

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    If its something like that I just straight up say "I dont do that *giggle*" or if its something legal they are asking for I charge more.
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    Try this:
    "No! If we do THAT we'll have to get married!"
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    Thats when I laugh at him and tell him thats the ugliest Ive ever seen and that hes a loser and total tool.
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    That's a good one. The same guy that I had that problem with called me from my friends phone the next day the club was open. He said that he thought I was going to be up there and that's why he came. Ask me if I cared. I was thinking about the money I lost out on though.

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    I agree... always get the money up front. I do this, and if they do something a little out of line, I give them one or two chances and then tell them the dance is over. A lot of times they'll ask for the money back if I end the dance short, and I just tell them to talk to the bouncer about getting their money back and see what he has to say about it. If he whipped his dick out, I would turn around and walk out right away.... that has actually happened to a girl at our club, and she did the same thing, just walk away (with his money).

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    Most of the customers at the club pay after they've gotten what they want, so how do you go about getting it beforehand? I know that me and my friends tip before we get a dance whenever we go to the strip club, but not everyone I see does that (it's rare).

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    okay, a lot of times you can tell when you're going to this kind of guy when you are doing regular dances. He's going to paw you and try to touch you and then ask about private rooms. If he's pushing the limits in the couch room, he's going to try to push the limits in the VIP. Also, if he asks, "what do I get in the VIP?" it kind of has the same implications.

    Anyway, there are lots of ways around this. You can be nasty. My favorite is to excuse myself to go to the bathroom and come back saying I just took a shit.

    I think money-up-front is standard for VIP rooms, but not couch dances.

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    My club doesn't have VIP rooms, only small rooms with an open door and a chair for the private dances. At our club, the customer pays the bartender for the dance, and the bartender gives him a card that says private dance on it, which he gives to the dancer of his choice before the dance. When you eat at Mcdonalds, you have to pay before you get your food, and when you go to a concert or movie theatre, you have to pay before you see the show. Just tell the customer that you need the money up front, or at least half of the money up front, because you've been ripped off in the past by giving dances and then the guy won't pay after, or something like that. Or say something goofy. To get the ticket before I give the private dance, sometimes I will say something like, "this is like the county fair. I need your ticket before you can board the ride, or in this case you're the ride... hehe" they usually laugh and give me their ticket.

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    If we had sex in the club like most guys think,they need to ask themselves these questions,"I wonder how many men this chick has already f*cked tonight???","Did she bathe between every guy???","Where has all the guys before me been???"If they would ask themselves those questions before making that God awful presumption,they would stick their fingers in their mouths and barf.Imagine how gross it would be if a dancer actually did this.
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    blaqbarb.... I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I dont think it's funny at all. It's pretty serious. There are so many guys out there that think we're cheap prostitutes. You have every right to be offended by his behavior, and by the way, he wasnt asking for "a little extra." it's a whole lot extra, and you're worth so much more. So much more in fact, that I think it's ok to put your shoe where it counts if he whips it out, walk--run away, get a bouncer. Cut his time short. It's not worth it to you. You do not have to put up with repeated attempts for him to have sex with you, verbally or physically.

    At my club, we get the money up front for a VIP session, but usually not dances on the floor. Perhaps try making it a habit to get money up front at least for VIP, because a lot of men from all walks of life will think they're entitled to more than dances because they have shelled out a few extra dollars for your time and attention.
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    There are females in the club who do "extra things" to make money, so the guys think that we all do the same thing. I had another guy do the same thing this past week. I was dancing for him on the floor and next thing I know, I feel something extra down there. Now I know the difference between a guy having a hard on in his pants and outside of his pants and I could tell that this one was outside. I looked down and there he was standing at attention. I looked back up at the guy and he's smiling talking about I made him rip his pants. I don't know why I keep attracting all the perverts. It's ridiculous how nasty guys are in the club. They become aroused and lose all common sense (that is, if they had any to start with).

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    If we had sex in the club like most guys think,they need to ask themselves these questions,"I wonder how many men this chick has already f*cked tonight???","Did she bathe between every guy???","Where has all the guys before me been???"If they would ask themselves those questions before making that God awful presumption,they would stick their fingers in their mouths and barf.Imagine how gross it would be if a dancer actually did this.
    well, we know guys don't think straight when they have a hard on....like how many guys will have sex with a girl he just met but never see her again, because she's a slut that fucks guys on the first date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    well, we know guys don't think straight when they have a hard on....like how many guys will have sex with a girl he just met but never see her again, because she's a slut that fucks guys on the first date.
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    dont you just tell then to put that thing away? lol, thats what i would do.

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    The first guy that did it put it up,but then when I looked again, he had pulled it back out. He finally put it back up again. I completely stopped dancing for the second guy that did it. He was so caught up that he didn't realize that I wasn't dancing anymore. I moved away from him and just talked the rest of the song (luckily it was almost over).

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    Sigh! Walk away at the first sign of trouble. You don't have to put up with that sh*t! Guys that pull that cr*p know they are out of line, he was trying it on you because you are new and fair game. Get the money up front "hey honey i can't start the dance until you pay". Even if you didn't get the money, cut your losses and keep your self respect, the scum probably wouldn't pay properly anyway.

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    Just a quick question... is that common at your club? Seriously.... because any club I have ever worked if a guy did that he would be out on his ass so fast he would have time to even put it away!! Have you said anything to the bouncers or management when this happened?


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    ok so that was more than one quick question lol


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    Quote Originally Posted by Deanna
    Just a quick question... is that common at your club? Seriously.... because any club I have ever worked if a guy did that he would be out on his ass so fast he would have time to even put it away!! Have you said anything to the bouncers or management when this happened?

    I'm assuming that since it happened, that it must be somewhat common at my club. The girls get greedy and will do anything for money (at least some will). As to when and where they do it, I don't know. I have heard about it being done outside the club and I've heard about it being done in the club (the one incident that I know of that happened in the club, the girl got caught and was fired, but they let her come back ). The funny thing is that at the time that this happened, management was no where to be found. I don't even think they were there. The bouncer is shady (so I've been told). He's only said something if he's seen it himself. He came over to me once while I was dancing just to look at my puss and then went back to where he had been standing.

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    Ok I undertand the "silly" aspect of this topic but what YOU are describing is borderline violent. If a guy pulled out his wanker and trued to have sex with me in VIP I would probably hit him with my shoe and call a doorman.

    You are talking about something that is pretty serious and you really shouldn't let it get that far.

    If a guy is exposing himself and "trying to have sex with you" you should notify someone with some authority. At least just to keep an eye on him.

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    Sounds like you might need to find somewhere different to dance, if the security offers no protection and management wont back you either.

    I agree with everyone else... money upfront... otherwise some customers will just rip you off... and dont know bout you, but i certainly wont work for charity.

    Same thing happened to a friend of mine, but she didnt say anything just walked out and left the guy in the room... but mind you we have security cameras &panic buttons in our private dance rooms, rules/laws on the walls, at my club and security would certainly throw a loser, with no respect out. I guess if i was in that situation: id just be like " is that all you got... ive seen better than that", then walk out ... with his money.Then id be telling security about his little goings on.

    This guy has absolutly no respect for women and should of be thrown out and educated about what is/ isnt acceptable in a strip club ... or at least thrown out, so maybe he can think about it all...

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    Quote Originally Posted by blaqbarb
    The bouncer is shady (so I've been told). He's only said something if he's seen it himself. He came over to me once while I was dancing just to look at my puss and then went back to where he had been standing.
    Sweet Jesus on a bun. Run, do not walk, away from this place.You pay the house fees, you tip the staff, you are PAYING them to protect you from this shit and give you a safe place to work. There has to be somewhere else you can work, even if it means driving to another city. I'd be really worried about my safety if I were you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    Sweet Jesus on a bun. Run, do not walk, away from this place.You pay the house fees, you tip the staff, you are PAYING them to protect you from this shit and give you a safe place to work. There has to be somewhere else you can work, even if it means driving to another city. I'd be really worried about my safety if I were you.

    I thought about doing this after the first week I was there, but this club pulls in alot of money compared to others in Atlanta. Also, other clubs are either too crowded with dancers or they really don't get any clients. I wouldn't make as much if I went to another club.

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