Let me first say I was a DJ and a manager for four years. I've seen hundreds of girls get into the business and I've seen how it changes them. I just want to point out some of the serious issues I've seen when a girl starts to dance.
1. The most serious problem I've seen is when a girl begins to tie her self-esteem to the amount of money she's making. When she's making a lot of money, she feels good about herself. When she isn't making money, she feels there is something wrong with her. The truth is that when a girl is new, customers will try and test the waters with her to see if she'll go home with them. Once they've figured out she won't, she may not get quite as much attention.
At first she feels good about herself because she's making more money than many of the girls who've been there for years. After interest in her slows down, she starts to wonder what's wrong with her. Pressure like this can actually cause new girls to go home with customers which only makes the problem worse.
The amount of money you make is not a direct result of how pretty you are. There are several other factors like recession, too many girls at the club or you may be working somewhere where the girls "cutthroat" or sleep with customers.
The important thing to remember is that the customers opinion of you shouldn't affect your self-esteem. You were a beautiful person before you started dancing. Don't let anyone take that away no matter what those cheap mother fu**ers say to you.![]()
2. The second most serious problem I see is the chemical addictions that result from being constantly exposed to drugs and alcohol. I can't tell you how many times I bought a shot for a girl who was going to go on stage for the first time. Many girls feel they can't be fun, flirtatious or brave enough to get on stage without drinking.I know I was nervous as hell the first time I got on the mic and I still had all my clothes on.
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Drinking during every shift to get into the mood can cause problems down the line. Also, it's no secret that drugs make there way into strip clubs. Here is something you may not know. Several drug dealers BECAME drug dealers so they could hook up with strippers. Your not going to get rich selling weed or cocaine in a strip club. Guys do it to hook up with girls. If you work in strip club for any period of time you will witness the stripper/drug dealer couple. A match made in heaven.
You may even see girls, who are addicted to cocaine for instance, try to bring other girls in the club out to "party." They know the more girls they can get to come out to the coke den, the more likely they are to get free drugs. It's almost like a pyramid scheme. I saw a girl try to do this to my girlfriend, it was the end of our relationship.
I don't judge anyone who drinks or does drugs. I just believe you owe it to yourself to realize the consequences. "Cocaine is a powerful drug."- Rick James
3. The third problem I often see is that girls don't have a plan to get out. I'm in the military now, I love my job and I even have a plan to get out. lol!
Dancing can be easy money. Dancing can also rob you of your discipline. You may not have a set schedule or you may work at a club where the managers let you get away with murder. Many times it's the lack of discipline that causes a girl to not stick to her exit strategy. Remember, you can't dance forever.
My humble suggestion: Either go to school or work part time along with dancing. I have several friends who dance in order to raise capital for their small business. I have friends who dance and put all their money in real estate. I have a friend who danced, saved her money and is working on her PHD in physiology.
The most common ways out are bartending, massage therapy, personal trainer, realtor, beauty school, receptionist or paralegal. The bottom line is have a plan and stick to it.
I'm writing this thread because I've had several girls who I care about as friends be affected by these issues.
Tell me what you think.![]()



I know I was nervous as hell the first time I got on the mic and I still had all my clothes on.
- Rick James



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